Need advice - 2nd date

I dont know if thats an interesting question or not but its definitely important to me.

Thing is I live 100km (40 miles? ) away from this girl cause I study in other city. But I usually come to city where she lives (my hometown) on weekends. Ive been with her in one date (we went bowling, was fun I think) and since then Ive been trying to meet her again however she always had excuses (but seemed receptive anyways).

So after about 2 months of trying I got fed up and told her its her last chance, we agreed to meet this saturday, tomorrow. Ive been thinking where should I take her, basically yes..thats the advice I seek… Since I dont get to see her often I want to get close to her in as little time as possible :roll_eyes:

Cinema is bad in my opinion - we wouldnt talk, just sit in the darkness.
Zoo would be awesome - there is no zoo here >.<

So far I guess pool is winning in my mind, would not be too hard to kino escalate :roll_eyes:

Thanks to those who have some ideas :wink:

Picnic at the park. Intimate yet casual.

I’m going to give the same advice I give most guys.

1.) a date shouldn’t be an obvious attempt to impress or “create” a romantic mood. It should feel natural.

2.) A date should be a chance for her to get to know you and see you in your own natural conditions.

So it should be something you do for your own enjoyment anyway, something you would do for fun even if she wasn’t with you. Or something you just have to do that’s normally mundane but you can make fun.

I good idea I stole from David D was grocery shopping. You can make the “official” part of the date the two of you cooking dinner together at your place. But the real fun part will be going to the grocery store and buying the ingredients.
You can people watch, take turns as you buy groceries pointing out strangers to eachother and challenging eachother to come up with an interesting back story for the person based on how they look and what their buying. …“That lady? well she’s a former teen idol recently featured on VH1’s “where are they now”, she’s recently divorced her game show host husband after he discovered she was having an affair with his co-hostess”
Be a little silly and make it fun.
You can also challenge her to find the most off the wall and unusual “I can’t believe there are actually people that would buy this” type of item in the store.

Then afterwards you go to your place and cook dinner with her assisting you. It creates a leader/follower/teamwork dynamic that can easily be translated into a romantic mood.

Thanks for replies, ended up going to pool then caffe. Was fun since I liked her for a long time (I think she did like me too even though had a boyfriend). I am 19 and shes 17 and as I said we live in different cities now.

I took her home we said goodbye to each other and on my way home I regretted not trying to kiss her so much that I turned around, called her and told that she left something in my car. Yea..it was one of the most awkward moments in my life :slight_smile: I made that look a big deal and wasnt calm, confident - she resisted. However after that I talked that out loud - how awkward my try was and how silly was I to try to do that (in a funny way) :roll_eyes:

We talked for some time about almost everything (IH :confused::cool:) and she texted me later that first time someone was that honest with her heh. Now things look good, she texts me every day :slight_smile:
Just shared :roll_eyes:

Oh…just 1 question. Since we talked about me trying to kiss her out loud, should I try doing that again in coming dates until she finally doesnt resist or should I wait until she tries something herself ;o (may sound stupid but yea..I care about it :slight_smile: )

Maybe put on some chapstick and say, “here’s to awkward moments.” See what happens but at most move for hug unless you’re very certain things have progressed to kissing. Also take her personal morals into account (good next date conversation material). Most of all RELAX! Chicks dig calm guys who’re comfortable with themselves.

What was the rest of the evening like as far as kino and physical contact?
Imagine no contact being level 0, and the first kiss being level 8, if you try to jump from 0 to 8 its gonna feel awkward for both of you. You need to start small but start immediately so that she is acclimated to your touch. By the time you go for the kiss it should seem so much like the next logical step that it just feels natural.

Yes I understand that being calm, confident, relaxed (which I was during the date) and moving gradually is the key. Ive read a lot and used it in practice as well.
I made this move because we cannot meet often and I wanted to put this relationship to a different level on 2nd date :o

Now as we talked about it, I think it would be clever to keep trying kissing her in a funny way when we meet, not making a big deal of it +possibility to jump to level 8 :roll_eyes::roll_eyes:

It could also become a bad joke that irritates her, judgement call based on her personality is needed.

Man this girl sounds real flakey…you should definitely be busting on her more. Maybe even be a borderline jerk at times. Seems like you’re going out of your way or bending over backwards for her. And then when you threaten to cut off communication or whatever she’ comes running! Keep that line taut man and she’ll be dying to hang out with you.

Pool is a great idea! Art Museum is always a good one, cheap and free for you those of you in college. Coffee shop to talk is pretty standard, you can do some light kino escalation like pretend to know palm reading lol. That’s my gambit, I honestly don’t know how to palm read but I play around and girls like it.

My question is have you made out with her yet? If not, get on it! There’s never a right time to plant a kiss, you just have to go for it.

CF

Nope I havent. I tried but she explained ‘she’s not that kind of girl to go for it on 2nd date’, she also never smoked or tried alcohol :roll_eyes: However as RAD explained I was nowhere near ‘‘level 8’’ and that was the reason.

Well Ive been jerk since I discovered game last year and I think Im pretty good at being cocky/funny :slight_smile: Was never too needy also.

As I said now everything seems good, even a bit weird lol she texts me almost every day with some random stuff such as "Hey! Its friday, 13th so be careful! Sorry, havent reminded You earlier;( " I guess she just wants to talk but doesnt know what to say :roll_eyes: