So I actually(amazingly) stopped looking for a girlfriend.. and this woman messaged me on yahoo personals.. I still had my profile up but I am not paying for it and I check it every once in a while. We talked on Sunday and met on Monday at the wal-mart 3 minutes from her house.. which wasn’t really planned and we talked for a few hours. Then Tuesday we hung out around Annapolis mall as we needed to go there for different reasons but we kept each other company. Then today we went ice skating.. first time for her but I’ve been wanting to go so we hung out and chatted while I followed her around the wall of the ice rink xD. And now I’m at a loss for ideas of where to go.. as it is still freaking cold outside there’s not much choices we have for outdoor activities. I’ve suggested Bowling for the next time but after that I’m at a loss. Any ideas? And I define a date as spending time together and as my funds are low.. something inexpensive would be nice
2nd time I wore IG IO IS and she was pretty talkative :-p which is fine for me as my stories are just boring xD and 3rd time(today) I just wore IG and IS.
If there is a dance studio that offers walk-in beginner dance lessons… take her to that!
I made going to 7$/class (if I paid for her it was 14$) beginner classes a once a week thing between us for the first two or three months that we dated.
Not only do you learn a highly attractive skill if things don’t work out with this girl (women like men who know how to dance… especially ballroom) the classes tend to be really fun, you don’t need to worry about uncomfortable silences because you are doing something for most of the time… it’s great.
Watching movies at home while drinking beer and eating sausages with salad and nice chocolate desert.Warning - even without mones this can and probably will lead to having fun time in bed.
would be nice to have nobody else around but as we both still live at home doubt that’s gonna happen. I personally don’t know about the dancing thing, I’m down for the dinner stuff as I like to cook myself as for the beer and sausage that’s a definite no I personally don’t like beer or sausage and I don’t think she likes sausage(the food) and shes 20 :-p I’m personally trying not to rush this.. I tend to jump in and scare them away so I’m trying to be slow for once.. cause so far she seems like the type of girl I want.. shes mature(in the head) shes nice.. truthful, shy, bit ocd xD just like me.. and I dunno I just like being around her so far.. usually my libido wont shut up but I feel comfortable around her.. but as much as i just wanna give her a big kiss I’m being restrained and I keep reminding myself it hasn’t even been a week yet xD but yeah like the title says I suck at this. Also being a recovering Antisocial/boring person I dunno how to have deep conversations xD I just let her talk.. course that works for me cause I’m a good listener..I interject a sentence here and there but overall I just get her started on something and let her keep rolling with it.. I like her voice xD
you’ll like her voice more when its gagging
but really, ummm, don’t get friend zoned so you may want get that kiss in,
if she accepted the kiss (no not asking her) it good mean u good
if she didnt accept it to well, then not so good were probably on the road to Friend zoned
but if u wait to long or jump the gun ur chances go down, do something romantic even if it is a home cooked meal, but make it special one on one he she reacts good to that lay one on her
i agree…at this point you’ve spent enough time with her to be on the edge of the friendzone…shit if you don’t bust a move soon, she might think you’re gay or something.
LoL Verry sad that u do not like beer and sausages.I can live on that - just give me enough beer and sausages (or hamburgers )…
Well then u can use wine and some good meal.If u don’t drink at all u can do it even without alcohol.
i think its gonna be friendzone to start off with.. cause i mean it hasnt even been a week yet xD shes knows i like her tho and i think if i stole a kiss it might make her push me away I really wish my life had been more normal so id be used to this shit but i just wanna jump into a relationship.. i hate waiting but wait i must. stupid affection dependency can go to hell… and my brain fighting against my urge to do all that stuff really wears me out.. i know it scares girls off to rush it so my brains fighting me so my body doesnt do something stupid. im glad it is but its a serious energy drain..
I promise you. It will also help you with your confidence issues
I was 22 when I met my LTR (a pretty, ex-broadway (NY) musical theatre actress who had just got back from living in Japan for a couple years and was currently the regional manager for our Global Tesol college… and I was a dude who had almost finished his eng. degree - In other words I had to make a good impression - dancing helped do that)
Red Dragon
Find an activity with a touch of danger. There’s a subconscious link between danger and physical/romantic attraction. Some activity that will take her breath,that surges both of your adrenaline.
MVK has the right idea do something that gets the heart pumping. For all you know you both may attribute your heartened HR to the overwhelming amount of attraction/ connection both of you have for each other.
dude you’re just setting yourself up for heartbreak. to me it sounds like you’re already in too deep, and the only way for you to not get hurt is for things to work out in a chick flick fashion. at the stage you’re in right now, if i were you, i’d go in for a kiss and if she rejects, never talk to her again. ya i know it’s harsh, but you’ve already crossed the line where you can turn back without feeling like you’ve lost something. if she really likes you then she won’t mind you kissing her. if she doesn’t like you then dating for the next two years won’t change that.
personally my feelings are based on the fact im lonely. i like her but i want to spend more time with her to figure out if i like like her or its just my stupid heart being lonely. id rather her be one of my best friends before gf cause then you know you can deal with each other. shes one of those girls that thinks things out and i respect that i just need to get my personal self into the right shape(mentally) and stop being such a idiot xD as i said before i jump in before i test the water and i’ve been trying to stop that and i seem to have with her i’ve controlled myself. and any heartbreak i suffer is brought on myself and i’ll be damned if i dont change that through sheer willpower and the desire for a better me. control over ones mind and body is a hard process :-p I don’t wanna push my luck with what little i have because i noticed every time i do it ends badly so playing it safe for once is a better bet than loosing that possible future chance
Think about it - in practically all aspects of life those that are unwilling to take risks are those that find themselves doomed to mediocrity/slow failure.
I define slow failure as the type of failure where nothing ever really blows up in your face, but nothing ever really goes right either. Think having a job for 20 years, looking back and realizing that you are in the exact same place (career-wise) as you were 20 years ago (because standing still is falling behind)
The corner back who always keeps his guy 5 yards in front of him may never be burnt for the big play… but inevitably he gets cut because he never gets the interception, or the big stop on 3rd and 4 to go either.
People who take big risks may risk big failures… they are inevitably also the ones who reap big rewards
well so far my track record is dismal..everything always fails for me.. so wheres my incentive? im not keen on loosing her because i acted to fast because it Always happens…every time i take a risk with women i fail.. but i think i want to at least hang with her for a month or so before i decide if i want to risk anything, just to make sure my feelings are real and not just some kind of infatuation
That may be part of the problem not to be too “new agey” on ya but attitude really does play a HUGE part in life experiences. It reminds of a saying that goes “Whether you believe you can or can not, your usually right”. If I look back at the relationships I have had I Guess you could say every time I have taken a risk with a woman I have failed as well, seeing how I am currently single in all… but the way I see it is I’ve found out more and more what I DON’T want out of a relationship so I can find what I DO want in the one I settle down with… even though I have had my heart ripped out before (I mean absolutely crushed!!!), I value each of those past experiences with women because I’ve learned a lot about myself and who I aspire to be from them. Like Edison quote about success and failure he was asked about his attempts at creating the light bulb he said “I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”
I would say a great starting point for you is to start believing in yourself and go for “it” whatever “it” may be for you, at the very least you can say you were courageous enough to give it a try which is more then I think most people can say!
Jakeable is right, the point is not to keep doing the thing that doesn’t work, but to keep trying different things until you find one that does work.
I know you’re short on cash, but one resource that I have found good on “pickup” (female psychology and getting good with women, really) is an ebook by Vin DiCarlo called the attraction code, it’s about $37. That should help ya. Just be aware that by buying it, if you do, you get signed up for a paid newsletter so cancel out of that before the end of hte first month so you don’t get charged for that.
as for the beer and sausage that’s a definite no I personally don’t like beer or sausage and I don’t think she likes sausage(the food) and shes 20 :-p I’m personally trying not to rush this.. I tend to jump in and scare them away so I’m trying to be slow for once.. cause so far she seems like the type of girl I want.. shes mature(in the head) shes nice.. truthful, shy, bit ocd xD just like me.. and I dunno I just like being around her so far.. usually my libido wont shut up but I feel comfortable around her.. but as much as i just wanna give her a big kiss I’m being restrained and I keep reminding myself it hasn’t even been a week yet xD but yeah like the title says I suck at this. Also being a recovering Antisocial/boring person I dunno how to have deep conversations xD I just let her talk.. course that works for me cause I’m a good listener..I interject a sentence here and there but overall I just get her started on something and let her keep rolling with it.. I like her voice xD
