Hi everyone. I am new to pheromones and I need some help. I am in a relationship and just looking to spice things up a bit. I feel like I am in my prime right now, and my bf falls asleep as soon as we get in bed. I have tried other things, and we have a great relationship other than that. It’s not like we don’t have sex, but I guess I just want to try and find a way keep him awake without having to be the one to initiate things every time.
I have been reading the posts here for the past few days, and have read a lot about EoW, but the scent scares me being new and all. Would the IS work for me at all? I don’t need to pick someone up at a bar, just entice the one I have in my bed right now.
What would you recommend for someone in my situation?
Does he have a physically or mentally demanding job? It could be the reason why if he’s exhausted every night. Maybe all you need to do is change the timing. Have you tried getting frisky in the early morning, when you’re both rested?
I’m not a woman, so cannot offer advice on the female products. The women will give you great advice on how to tame the tiger that is EOW. Give Tisha a minute and she’ll drop by.
I guess it’s a bit physically demanding, but not majorly. It’s kind of hard first thing in the morning because I have a 4 year old who is usually our alarm clock on the weekends and even if we try to lock him out, it still ruins the mood if he’s standing outside the door and won’t go away. During the week, he wakes up literally 15 minutes before he has to walk out the door, so without planning it (which ruins the mood for me) it’s not feasible.
I have tried setting the mood during the day, flirty text messages, dropping hints, things like that and it still doesn’t matter, half the time he will fall asleep in the 2 minutes it takes me to brush my teeth before I get in bed.
He is anemic so I think that might play into why he falls asleep so quick, and I’m sure he doesn’t get enough sleep every night, but he’s still getting at least 7 hours a night.
There is no reason to be scared of EOW. It stinky but not half as bad as it used to be and its easy enough to cover. You can try Instant sexiness but while it attracts I find it has no effect on arousal in males.
Pheromones can enhance whats there but I think there is some underlying problem that you need to sort out first because mones cant sort them out for you Now dont get me wrong I am not saying there is some horrible upsetting problem you need to fix, most of the time its something simple like miscommunication or one partner assuming they know what the other wants. I started using mones for the same reason your here but I had to use other methods in conjunction with them.
So before I suggest a bunch of mones that may or may not help, Let me ask you this… does he ever initiate sex ? Does he seem to have an interest when you initiate sex ? How old is he ?
Have you told him how you feel ? He may be thinking since you have a 4 year old your tired and wont want to have sex.
It could be something physical like his testosterone level or as you stated his anemia which will make him tired a lot and quick to fall asleep.
Does he take anything for the iron ?
Do the two of you spend time together without your 4 year old around ?
Are flirty text messages and hints all you have tried so far ? How has he reacted to those at the time of occurrence ?
Its OK if you dont want to answer these questions. I know they are personal. Just keep in mind no one knows you here so your safe and knowing some of this info can help us come up with a game plan using mones and some other methods to spice it up for you.
I just dont want to tell you to buy this and that and expect some miracle to happen because mones just dont work that way.
Yes, he does, about 20-30% of the time without any advance “prepping” like the text messages or other insinuations.
He is very much interested in sex, he used to have (and may very well still have) a very extensive movie and magazine collection. If I initiate sex, it depends on what his sleep status is really. The other night he fell asleep with mild foreplay but if I make it very intense he will wake up usually and oblige. Unfortunately, it makes me feel like crap because I feel like he isn’t interested enough to stay awake, its like he could take it or leave it, if that makes sense. I have NEVER turned him down when he has initiated and we’ve been together 3 1/2 years.
He knows how I feel. The last time I told him how it made me feel, he told me I was crazy (not in a mean way, but for feeling that he didn’t want me) and that he was just so tired he couldn’t stay awake. He knows I am more than willing most days of the week.
I think his testosterone level is just fine, he is definitely very much sex oriented. His anemia may be the reason and he snores too, driver me crazy, but refuses to see a doctor for possible sleep apnea.
Yes, he does take an iron supplement.
My son goes with his dad every other weekend so we do get some time alone. Just tonight, I had a girls night out and he picked me up since we had some drinks. The car ride home, I was a bit frisky, we came in the house and he resumed his usual Friday night ritual which consists of watching old shows in the basement. He clearly enjoyed the car ride home, and I was even changing clothes as he came back in from letting the dogs out, but all he did was smirk and go on about his way… maybe it is me???
I have tried weekends away, nice rooms with jacuzzis and fireplaces and stuff. Toys and other things to spice things up during the act, nothing seems to work. Sometimes he goes along with the texts, sometimes I don’t get any response at all.
After what happened tonight, I am beginning to think maybe there is more to it than what I am seeing. He was wide awake and still ignored me, half naked after a playful car ride home. I don’t know if any amount of pheromones can help that.
Now lets not jump to conclusions. I asked those questions for a reason. Your answers do not point to him not wanting you it points to the anemia.
I suspect even with the supplements the anemia is effecting his energy and libido. Even if he is not tired that doesn’t mean he has the energy to have sex. Sometimes although the pills will bring the level of iron up they dont bring the level of energy up.
You have a 4 year old so I know you know the difference between the feeling of being pooped (just not wanting to move) and being tired (wanting to sleep) I think the anemia has him pooped. Believe me I have been married over 20 years and we go through the pooped stage as well when my husband is stressed.
I suggest Ishine which is energizing to both the users and those exposed.
Tuth which is a male mix that females use to make there men a bit more aggressive sexually. Keep in mind this one may arouse you as well and use it after your 4 year old go’s to bed. It wont hurt him but sometimes the aggressive vibe makes them cranky. Now you use TUTH different then the men. Just 1/2 a spray covered by one of the other mones or open the bottle and do a few dabs. To much worn by a women will just make you cranky. I can get away with 1 1/2 sprays as long as I am wearing something like Isex with it but you ant to start low.
I would also suggest IH for deeper intimacy and so that he will share more of his feelings. Guys tend to say things like “your crazy” even in a nice way when they have to talk about what he may perceive as his short coming in the sex area. The IH will help him feel closer to you and open up more on a deeper level.
I also suggest you look into those copulins. We can teach you to cover them.
There are some others I can suggest but I dont want to overwhelm.
Now for the other issues, first let me say I am not a doctor and I would suggest him to see one but men tend to balk at that as well so us women have to help where we can LOL …
I assume you do the cooking ? Try to incorporate more iron rich food in there. I was anemic when I was pregnant and the pills didnt help at all. For some reason the iron rich foods worked better and to this day I know my body well enough to feel that lethargic feeling coming over me indicating I need more iron. Usually around my period. I am not talking about iron fortified food. Natural iron rich like red meat and greens.
You didnt mention his age but add some celery in your cooking if you can. It helps keep there testosterone up. Hopefully he is not a picky eater so you can sneak some of this in and he will not even know what you doing but he will start to feel better.
Next the snoring or possible apnea. Another reason to lack energy and be tired. Have you tried those strips you place on your nose at night to prevent snoring ? There are other things he can do to help with it but he has to be willing to do them. Lose weight if he is over weight, exercise more. You can also buy special pillows designed to keep the head and neck aligned if its neck obstruction thats causing it. Again the IH will help him open up about this as well. You could talk about it and say since he wont see a doctor lets try some home remedies to fix it.
I can go on with more suggestions but lets stop here and take stock first.
Keep in mind its not you with the problem. His problem doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or he is not attracted to you. Its hard to feel aroused when you just dont feel good. He may not be sick but its obvious he doesnt feel at his best.
First off, let me say thank you for the advice. I did read it and life has been pretty hectic lately so I hadn’t had much chance to respond before now. I, however, did get a few of the mones you mentioned.
Sorry, I forgot to include his age, he will be 42 in October.
I had to get travel sizes of a few of the mones, which I did read made them a bit weaker, but money is a little tight right now. I bought Instant Sexiness, IH (the full bottle), TUTH, Instant Shine and Instant Openness. I got them on Friday… and haven’t seen much results but I know it does take time to find your “sweet spot” I believe it is called.
He has agreed to go to the doctor for some help with anemia, and I am trying to sneak some of the foods in, he’s not much of a veggie person and is allergic to nuts so I’m kind of stuck with iron foods but I’m working on it.
Any suggestions on how to cover up the scent of the mones? It gives me an awful headache… I am very prone to migraines so when I read that it was a possible side affect I was almost positive I would get one but I think if I could mask the smell a bit better, it might help, as that seems to be the biggest trigger.
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