so i went on a date with a portugese girl last week. we made out, then i text her “what are we, and what are we doing, or becoming” not exactly those words but to that extent. and she replies.
Well i definitly want your friendship, but if something else comes out of it …then it happens, but its not something im trying to make happen!
WTF??? thats the most confusing line ive ever heard. 
can anybody decipher this for me?
Examine, the girl’s reply is very clear…if you like her, just go slow and steady..
oh and btw. this same girl texts me and has invited me to her house tomorrow.
im just trying to figure out wtf is going on. and what are we doing. we make out…sometimes. and sometimes she withdraws. mind you…she’s the one that contacts me. i dont think ive ever called her or text her, first. im confused. its like shes battling something internally.
that makes perfect sense. esp since the 2 last guys were drying way too tough to hit.
and i havent tried. in fact, i rarely contact her. we know each other thru mutal friends then one day she called.
slow and steady. i guess i have a hard time understanding that. i live in hollywood, why would you go slow and steady? im a little confused at that part too.
I just replied to you, but unfortunately, something went wrong with my system here…it didn’t get thru…will try again..
You didn’t mention how you “see” her or how long both of you known each other..1 week??..whether you just want to be friends or more than that..
Anyway, my reply to you assuming that you like her. At an early stage of relationship, it’s good to be in the “neutral zone”. Why? Bcoz as long as you’re in this neutral zone, you can work on creating the ‘sexual tension’ you need to turn the “I don’t feel anything” into “something”. When you’re in this zone, everything you do will have an impact on the feelings the girl might have towards you. She’ll either like you more or like you less with every move you make. If you keep on doings things that kill her interest, then you’re just going to be good “friends” with her forever! But if you do things that spark romantic feelings, sooner or later she’s going to be attracted to you. What I meant with go slow & steady is, human relationship is not like we test drive fast cars on highways and push it to the limits. Here we are dealing with emotions and feelings, unless you’re a “hit and run” driver!! Since she has invited you to her house, I guess you should spend some good time with her and I hope you will treat her nice, ok.
hmmm very interesting. this gives me a piece of mind now. for a second i thought she was just playing games.
i dont really like being interviewed or tested in this way. esp since it feels like i have no control over the relationship. i will try for the next couple of weeks. if things dont heat up/grow (even an inch), i will have to place my attention some where else. im not saying we have to have sex right away, but a signal that im in the right direction (as far as interest/relationship) would be good. i dont want to be left ‘wondering’ then one day she gets bored and leaves. no way.
im pretty young and have never encountered anything like this before. what pheros do you guys recommend? and in what stages?
btw. this is our 2nd solo date. i used to see her around with a couple of my friends. they tried really hard to get with her, but they failed and stop talking to her(they got bitter). one day i saw her out and about, then i got an email at work with her number. a week later and here we are.
Taking her statement at face value, you might have found a healthy one! She’s not a relationship addict. She’s happy with herself whether she has a man or not. She wants to know you better before deciding anything further (I think Mohammad Shah’s advice is right on). Sounds good to me!
twas fun. we just watched movies and kissed. i really didnt pursue anything further. she wants to do lunch tomorrow.
erm, any recommendations (phero wise) with this type of woman?
im going to do some phero shopping in the next couple of days…
It just means that she wants to be friends with you and maybe your lover, but she wont work to become your lover because she probably doesn’t love you enough to want you so much that she can’t stop thinking of you. But if things go further, and there is a spark, she will let it be and accept that you will be her lover.
(I personnaly don’t think she wants you because, in my experience, women make up their mind really quickly on the first impressions. the only thing that can change her perseption of you is if you wear a great combo of pheromones and or flash you money around)
… or if you take the Zen seduction advice of Dex in The Tao of Steve - do something excellent/heroic in her presence, then retreat. Irresistible! (worked on me more than once …)
Thanks for your remarks, Carrie. When I was at his age, I went thru something like this, but at that time I have no one to ‘consult’ to and I’m a shy type of person till today, but I let my heart did most of the decisions for me. Sometimes it’s good, but as time has changed since then, we have to think or choose wisely.Those good old days..I thought it never end…
traderneil Sin City Please read my post on FALSE POSITIVES
Your lady friend seems to be sending out false positive signals,maybe
she doesn’t know what she wants,or maybe to see how far she can twist you around her finger…Just remember
WHIP THAT PUSSY 
DON’T BE PUSSY WHIPPED !!!
She admitted yesterday she has a crush on me. we were on the phone til 1 am last night. She also wants to go to a comedy club on friday and spend the night. shrugs lol
Well, that was fast. You must be doing something right!
Huh? Please, explain. I kinda want to hear this. I dont mean to intrude or anything. You dont have to respond. Just curious on what happened to be deemed “heroic” or “excellent.”
I dont think anythings going to happen, but at least its quality time. I sort of figured her out. She is very very shy. You can not ‘attack’ her. It seems she prefers the Fox over the Pitbull.
she responds well to T2 (none) and A314 mutant.
I sprayed some while we were in the car, and by the time we got out to walk to the resturant, she was holding my hand.
oh and another weird thing. she loves alpha males. she admitted she watches WWE to get off. yet, she’s had bad luck with ‘big’ men. im assuming its because they are too ‘aggressive’
im not big, so i assumed she wouldnt like me. perhaps the -none is helping out a little. =P
Wish you all the best!
I’m happy for you! From your picture I wouldn’t have said you’re “not big” - you certainly look strong and athletic.
Are you using anything with 'rone around her? She might like the protective daddy-like feel of A314, do you think? Along with all that sugar you’re already giving her, that is … 