long time no post, good to see the live and kicking bustling community again.
split up with ex so on the look out for new friends. i’m not sure what mix is best for me so need your help.
i get the impression that in am repugnant to women. Well, i get some IOIs and move in to talk, but sometimes everything is a little strained, they seem nervous or uncomfortable. don’t get it all.
don’t want to talk, kinda like ODing on A314, that kind of vibe, ghosted and moved away from. really don’t get it.
pretty sure i smell good so it’s not that. I’m quite tall and usually very friendly/humble in social settings but quite clear;y very sure of myself. a bit too sure of myself i’ve been told.
for example, yesterday. house party nice young lady - didn’t bring any drink (she) wanted a glass so i said hey there’s one here - no response, completely mute.
doing the rounds and went to a group where she was, talking to the guys. she left group and went elsewhere? what’s that about.
There’s really not enough here to comment on. I mean there could have been so many variables that we are unaware of. Just going off one sentence doesn’t give a person enough to comment on anything. However here’s what I got out of the girl who didn’t say anything about the glass: You came over as supplicating to some women you don’t know. Why was it up to you to search for her glass? She got what she wanted from a beta man with little to no self-esteem and moved on to get sex from an alpha male.
Its your mindset that is off. If you get the feeling, than that feeling is an internal mindset and therefore projected on others around you. Change your internal workings and you change your external interactions.
You might consider getting David DeAngello’s Deep Inner Game and How to Become an ALPHA Male from John Alexander. Both very good and can help you sort out your inner game.
thinking about what you are saying perhaps you are right. but on this occasion i wouldn’t say so, indeed on entry to the venue, the act of finding a glass for then ignoring completely this girls was in-order to be humble and friendly in a crowd of people i don’t know very well.
but my other interactions were not that of a subservient beta, quite the opposite.
Vibe: be yourself firstly, friendly and smiling, talking to everyone and anyone, much respect from males peers, but also humble and genuinely down to earth.