Okay, first off: I want to say I am writing here my experiences in what I believe is a common problem in most relationships, and also the cause of many break-ups, problems and other things. Note that I am writing from a rather sexual standpoint, and also tend to give advice that is open for debate. Nevertheless, this topic was sparked by someone who asked me who was asking me a bit about BDSM and 50 shades of grey.
When I started using pheromones, I thought about improving not only my life, but also my sexual behavior. I am going this weekend to my girlfriend with the thought of being more manly, more like a real husband, more like a male and less a boy. And when it comes to the subject of pheromones, i want it to induce sex. However, I noticed that there are many pheromones, each and everyone with their own specific view on the subject of seduction. Some of them make people chatty, others will give out aggression, others make them sexually active… The mind is a wonderful thing with a lot of chemistry. But if you think about what makes the mones special is that they can produce results that you would not get by just chit-chat and normal talk.
What I noticed a lot is that females both want someone who is cuddly yet a beast in bed. Someone who loves them yet can dominate them when necessary. And when you hear about the controversy surrounding the “50 shades of grey”, then I think how feminine our world has actually become, then I think that the romantic actually has to become “more manly”. More seductive, more sexually attractive, more like a real dominator. Yes, I know that the ladies love a teddy bear, but sometimes their female part needs to get pushed a bit into submission and to let her know who is the male in the relationship.
Before you actually read on, note here that you need to have trust in each other. If you don’t feel comfortable with each other, then please don’t continue because the following parts are based on trust. A lot of them. Pheromones do help, but its up to the people here to give some advice on what works best and what is best to be done. Note that it is also my ramblings of my mind, so if you don’t agree with how I portray people, then please do write a critical review on it.
When you think about submission, you will most likely think about aggression, tied up woman and total loss of control. This is why you should have total trust in your partner, because one of them will be in control while the other one will lose all freedom. If I have to compare it, it would be like the devil and the angel. One person is the devil, the dominator, while the other one is the angel, the dominated, the one who is giving all control to the dominator. I am talking here about the view of the dominator, since they will be doing everything. The dominated cannot do anything anymore except face the facts.
As a dominator, you need to have total control. Not only in yourself, but also in the things you do. After all, you want to give her the sense of lust, but at the same time you also need to make sure you are not giving her pain. Pain can be a good factor to induce lust, but use it only as a inducer of pleasure, not as an inducer of pain. Pain, when applied in the right amount can also act as a form of fear, which gives out endorfines which induce pleasure. Pain and pleasure are almost the same thing, however you need to make sure you keep the pain out. Slapping, okay… But if you get too harsh she would not like it anymore and just start to feel pain and annoyance.
With bondage, you need to make sure that everything is tight, but not too tight. Make sure that if there is a problem with you, she needs to be able to get out without your help. Make a knot that is not easy to break, but when needed she must be able to get out. Most think that handcuffs work really well, but I think a silk ribbon is much better. Wrap the ribbon so that it has a loop at the end, and then use the rest of the ribbon to tie her up. The loop at the end makes it possible for her to grab one end and loosen up the knot without your help. If you cannot untie her with one good tug at the right place, then you are doing it wrong. Look at youtube videos about japanese bondage, you will notice a lot of good help there. Also tell her that you will untie her only if she says a special codeword. Words like “Banana” or “hiroshima” are not good codewords. Get something that is easy to remember but something that she would never yell when she is screaming for your love. Only when she tells that word, then you should stop immediately and loosen her up if she begs for it. Don’t start again, unless she tells that she is fine. If she happens to say that codeword, you crossed a line between pleasure and pain. Its her word to keep some control and to prevent you from sitting with the cops for “rape”.
Then, when he is tied up and under your total control, then you can induce a bit of fear in her. Make her feel that you are the one in control, but keep your pants on. Yes, you can fuck her right now, but that is not what we are going to do. You want to get her aroused, wet, and screaming for you. Its easy to fuck, but its more fun when she is actually begging you to fuck her. That is what we are going to aim for. The fact that she is begging for you to fuck her.
To start off, you need to start slow. Men are bound to get done quick, but if you start slow and make her feel that you are the mean fucking machine that she wants, then its going to be a much better ride. So, first we are going to make sure that she feels comfortable, and then we slowly “turn up the heat”. Tease her first. Yes, she knows that you want to fuck her, but we are better than that. We are going to make her struggle. First of all, you make her slowly realize that its not going to be the usual fuckfest. You need to “warm” her up. Tease her with kisses, soft pinches in her sensitive parts, a little lick in her neck… Make her aroused and at the same time switch a bit in the way you are seducing her, make her giggle and feel comfortable with you.
Then, the next part you will become more manly. A little bit more rough. The tickle will become more rough, and you actually start to slowly go lower and lower with your hands. She will surely notice this, and either start to obey or twitch and ask you to stop. In the first case, she is very obedient. In the second case however, you need to be very careful. She can say the magic word at any time, but until then you are in control. So, if she tries to resist, gently force yourself on her. Make her feel your intentions: You want to get her aroused and wet. When she starts to object, make her shut up in a rather gentle but firm way (hush her). She should not talk to you, you are the one who is in control, you are the one who is talking, she should be obedient and silent, and not give any objections. If you do it good, then she will stop resisting and actually start to enjoy what you are doing.
If she finally starts to like it, and you begin to feel that her panties get wet, then you can go on with the next phase: Getting her undressed. Since she is most likely still wearing the panties, you can decide how to go next from here. Get off the bed for a moment and look at her, think what your next decision will be. You either can take the panties off slowly or you can force them off. If she does not like to get her panties ripped, too bad… If she tries to resist that you take her panties off, rip them off… She will most likely hate you for it, but you have to act fast on this one. Once it is ripped off, she will be most likely scared about what you have done. Don’t make her think about it however, just go with your hand in there and force yourself between her legs. She will try to shut them in shame, but when you put yourself in between her legs, she cannot shut them anymore. She will now feel fear and tries to force you out. Now, you need to use that hand of yours to good use. Push yourself on her, feel how soft and wet everything down there is, while you start seducing her again. Grab her lower lip between your teeth and do a little tug, start kissing, kiss her in her neck, all while you keep your hand on her clit. She will most likely start to get hot at this moment, and her breathing will get more heavy while she slowly starts to stop resisting. At that point, you got wax in your hands.
Now, you need to become more like an animal. She is now in total control, and she is turned on sexually. At this moment you want her to go wild. She will most likely look at you with a look of fear and joy, and that fear and joy has to turn into begging. So, the next stage is to get her wild. To do so, you can either move your fingers slowly downwards, or you can start using your tongue. She most likely wants to grab your head and control you, but she can only tell you if she likes it or not, since her hands are tied. When she tells you to stop, don’t listen. Continue on with what you are doing. Only stop when she gives you the codeword. She wants you to stop because she is most likely forcing herself not to cum… But we want to get her to a point where she is nearly cumming, a point that you can control, a point between pleasure and cumming. So, continue licking, kissing, pinch her sometimes, make her feel like YOU are the one in control, and that you don’t fear inducing a little bit of pain in the mixture. Make her beg for your dick, make her desire you soo much that when she is begging, she is really begging for more…
And when that moment comes where she is literally begging to get fucked, you are at the last stage where she is soo wet that if you put your dick in her, she will not resist anymore and just wants to cum. Make her feel like she is getting mauled by a tough guy, make her feel that she is getting raped like a slut. Give her that feeling that whatever she is saying, you will not stop. She will most likely yell and scream soon afterwards. A woman at this stages loves it when she is actually taken by a real man, and a man loves it when a woman is yelling, it aroused the man to a point where he is actually cumming real soon. That is why girls are yelling to cum inside them and to give them babies 
I hope this post will spark a lot of ideas how to get the mood back in the bedroom. If you guys have some ideas what the best pheromones would be to use in those kind of moments, or if you have different opinions about it, then please do write them down. I wrote this as a guideline for those that feel that their lovelife is going a bit through a downer, for those that have a long history of love together, but want to spark the sexual interest in the partner again. Note that if you are a female, you can also use the same thing. Make him feel that if he is not doing his best, he won’t get anything. Grab him by his balls, tease him, let him know that if he does not behave like a “good boy” he won’t get anything. Maybe you can even blindfold him and just tease him for a while: Whisper in his ear, nibble on his neck, tickle him on his sensitive parts, rub his dick with your panties… If you are in a more violent mood, just grab a little pincet and remove some hairs from his chest. If he cannot see what you are doing, he can only guess… The pain combined with the continuous teasing will turn him on like hell. And when you are finished with the teasing and want to relief him of his pain and endurance, jerk him off or sit on him. Trust me, he will be all over you in the days after for some more 
I know its a long read, but I would love to hear your opinions on it. What do you think is wrong, what do you think you would do different, what is your secret trick to get that love of your life completely wild? I know, some guys need a little bit of push in the bed, and I am not just thinking about “just fucking”, but I am actually talking here about some heated passion in the bed where the neighbors actually have to bang on your door to shut you up Also, after reading this, what does come to your mind for the perfect set of pheromones on a night like this? What do you think you would wear to get this level of sexuality? What makes you “spark the beast” inside him? Would love to get some good discussion started. I am actually thinking here from a rather male point-of-view, but what would you girls love to happen? It took me a while and some courage to write this, so please do think before writing 
I am also looking at it from a more scientific way, but also as a lesson for those that want to put some heat in the bed without only using mones but using them as a doctor’s knife on the surgery table.