Ok I’m a 32yrs old guy living in Ca. I’m 5’11, and well I’m not overweight just the regular muscular framed person; and 'till few yrs ago I’ve noticed a change in me but I didn’t put much attention to it because I was too busy in many things, things that were important to me and had to be done. But now that I have more spare time and want to hang out, make new friends and go out with friends more often and baaam… just as the title says I feel like the kind of person that you want to answer the “good morning” but that’s it, why? I don’t know.
I went back to school a few months ago and there’s where I started noticing this, sometimes makes me feel like if I’m not welcome somehow. At the beginning was funny; there was this guy in the classroom, I think older than me, the teacher was giving some instructions and this guy just kept talking and talking then I just stared at him for 15 seconds, and I say 15 seconds because I was counting .. then I just look down to my notebook to keep writing; but it wasn’t a mean stare, it was more like “what is this guy talking so much about”… he just sat down and kept quiet the rest of the time.
Then he didn’t talk to me or even look at me, he’s not been mean or disrespectful but each time I talk to him he just rushes like trying to get away from me I put this as an example because thats’ what happens with many people; and the ladies I catch them that they get really nervous around me, at least that’s what I see, heavy breathing, cold and sweaty hands.
Do I’ve become a skunk?.. I don’t think so because I shower daily, and I like to dress nice, kinda sporty classy gee sometimes makes me feel like if I need psicological help or something like that. What makes me feel really weird is that most people leaves me the seat where I sat the first day, even if I arrive late at the class, I mean there’s plenty of seats that I could get but still they leave the seat, makes me feel like if I’ve been really mean to them. ahhh well I think I overwent on my “hello” hey tisha did I get my $50 ?..
P.D. hope to hear your opinions people “the skunk in california”
Hi Xversito. I understand you want people to relax around you and open up?
For this I suggest Instant Openness, Instant Honesty and Instant Shine. Instant Gentleman may help too.
Reading between the lines, I suspect you need to chill out a bit too, smile more and make more conversation. We’re not supposed to recommend advanced products, but Spaceland might help you, in that it will make you feel like a stoned student, again, hence helping you to fit in
I suggest you read The Mens Guide, then return and let us know if you have any other questions.
Good luck and let us know your results.
Ps. Tell us more about what you study and why you went back to school.
Sounds to me like your emitting a strong Alpha vibe and when this occurs it can cause distancing in people unless you make the move to be social first. The Alpha leads and they are waiting for cues from you. Instead of staring at someone for 15 seconds try smiling and saying “Hello How ya doing” and keep talking to them and smile. They may be skittish for a little bit at first but they warm up once they know your not going to bite.
To aid in warming up your vibe I suggest Ishine and IO.
Your $25 GC is on its way. See you dont intimidate everyone Course I cant smell you either LOL
Sorry I couldn’t answer ealier :. school n work, .. but i hope to answer all you questions guys so
you could gime a good advice…
Ok most of you understood what I tried to say and what I want with this; I want people to relax and enjoy the time around me, just like when I was in Hs, my friends used to look at me waiting
to see what I was going to come up with to laugh, even my teachers avoided to ask me questions
because always had a funny and out of context answer. I think I got my sour mood from my job,
until 1yr ago I used to work at beauty products importer/exporter company and most of the time
I worked alone in my office, just came out to exercise helping the guys to unload the trailers or stock the merchandise; It was a very demanding and with a lot of presure job, with me everything
had to be nice, and timely sharp. and if things were’nt on time I was really upset; even refused to
receive drivers who came 15 or 20 minutes late.. gee makes me feel bad each time I remember that.. por guys driving all night , also with the workers was really harsh.. then the boss got his share too because when he asked for the workers to work more, I asked him for a raise for them, then we went *bla bla bla… then, got fired, but I was called back 3 days later, went back for a week and when I got all my S..tuff together I quited I told him he wasn’t worthy of my talent, boy that felt good! eventough the pay offer went up really good. Anyway I got out of there tried to enter college the counselor told me “u need some more credits” so I’m doing those credits.
so is this time when I’m trying to socialize more is where I found my problem.. so , help!
But being honest I’m a little sceptic about it, for me looks too good to be true, but here I am giving it a try… so shoot me your best advice!.
went back for computer science but they told me I need to do some extra hs credits so thats what I’m doing right now, piece of cake . last week did government, this week history 1, only english left ; so as you can see I’m going really fast.
.. then I just look down to my notebook to keep writing; but it wasn’t a mean stare, it was more like “what is this guy talking so much about”… he just sat down and kept quiet the rest of the time.
I put this as an example because thats’ what happens with many people; and the ladies I catch them that they get really nervous around me, at least that’s what I see, heavy breathing, cold and sweaty hands.
gee sometimes makes me feel like if I need psicological help or something like that. What makes me feel really weird is that most people leaves me the seat where I sat the first day, even if I arrive late at the class, I mean there’s plenty of seats that I could get but still they leave the seat, makes me feel like if I’ve been really mean to them. ahhh well I think I overwent on my “hello” 
GC is on its way. See you dont intimidate everyone