Honestly, I’m the biggest idiot in the world. I’m always such a positive person. Once I realized how easy it is to control your emotions, I’ve been such a happy person. Lately, other than things ending with this girl a couple of months ago, and a good friend of mine passing away this past Saturday, I don’t have much to be sad about.
But today on the bus, one stop before mine, the most beautiful girl in the world walked on. I swear, this girl was stunning. And not just a ‘sexy’ thing. This girl, yes, had sex appeal, but I got the vibe from her that she was a good girl to just get to know. Like it transcended just sex. I don’t believe in love at first sight, but this may have been my first experience with it. I was just on the bus with a bunch of old people and this one random black teenager who also noticed her. She was about to sit in the front, but noticed me and started walking to the back of the bus. Eye contact with occasional looks downward, and stroking of hair, I knew it was either my mones or my shirt (which makes my arms look amazing).
She finally comes and sits right beside me when there are plenty of other empty seats available. I had no idea what to do, if I initiated convo, I’d have missed my stop (which I can’t do). If I had my phone number on a piece of paper ready, I’d have put it in her lap as I was getting off, but obviously I didn’t have it handy.
So I don’t know, it’s actually making me a bit depressed because I lost the opportunity and I probably won’t ever see her again now. I think I’m obsessed as crazy as that sounds. I’m wiling to look 1 by 1 on facebook through the thousands of women in my area just to find her. I may wait at that bus stop each day just to see her again. I swear she was so freaking amazing and I missed my chance.
Wow that does suck… this happens though you know? It’s likely that if she went on the bus there at that time, she may do it again! do you ride that route at that time often? I would just do that… easier than looking through everyone on facebook
Empath, I wish I could, but today was our first class at school so they let us out early. Which means I won’t be able to take this same bus again for the entire semester because I’ll still be in class. Facebook is my only hope
But I don’t know what the hell happened to Facebook. There’s no way to refine your searches anymore. I thought I could refine it to a certain area around my postal code, or age range, or at LEAST refine it to only search for WOMEN. At this rate, I’ll actually have to search through everyone, guy and girl in my entire city of 2 million.
Yea if I remember correctly it’s a lot easier to search on myspace. Maybe give yourself 2 classes a semester to skip and ride that bus? Honestly your best bet is to be around where the bus picked her up/left her off.
Dude, you live to learn. Take it as a learning experience. Next time, or whenever you see another girl that rocks your boat, you’ll know what to do. I know people say there are plenty of fish in the ocean and you just know you want THAT one (happens to me NOW) but unless you have something to fight for (and even then only if willing to accept defeat if it hits your face, always a possibility) better move on.
Was it a residential area where she got on the bus?
If not, you could try to figure out where she came from (maybe a school there or her workplace/sportsclub/gym). She must have used that specific stop for a reason.
Bolkie, it was from a residential area. So I’m assuming she came from home and was going to work, which means she may be taking that same bus next week at that same time. I’ll give it a shot. and see what happens.
Still though, even if I see her next week, there’s no time to initiate convo because I can’t miss my bus stop. I may do the number on a piece of paper idea and throw it to her on my way out. Today would have been perfect because she was right beside me.
You can try to do the following. But it takes balls and maybe a bit of courage. Because people may see you as desperate or stalker like.
Design a flyer/piece of paper. Explain the story/situation. Put a picture of yourself and your contact info on it. Copy it a couple hundred times. Call some mates and deliver a flyer to every house in the area of the bus stop. If she doesnt get one at home, people who know her certainly will get one.
Ok dude I’m going to say what everyone else isn’t saying. Get real!!! You missed a chance, and now you are developing oneitis. So you aren’t ready to meet her yet. You proved that when you didn’t initiate immediately. You had your 3 seconds and you missed it. She already has an opinion of you now. You are further proving that you are ready to meet her, because you are obsessing over her. If you were to meet her now you will have her so far up a pedestal that you will fail anyway.
Here is my solution. Go out and talk to every girl you see. Then if you ever get to see this girl again, it won’t be a big deal and if she is all that your mind has made you believe she is then you will have a winner. If she isn’t then you haven’t wasted thoughts on her.
I’m not doing anything friday at that time, so I may take a peek. But if she was just going to her friend’s place or something, as an occasional thing, I don’t know if I’ll see her again.
haha dont do this. i say you just remember girls come and go. next week you will forget about her and itll be some girl with big guns you cant stop wrapping your head around. if you see her again just make a move, if you dont..you dont
Josie, I’m definitely not the type of person to obsess like this. This is the first time it’s ever happened, I’d just like to meet this girl and see where it goes. I do already talk to a lot of girls and hit on most of them, and have a couple of intimate friends, but just the beauty of this girl blew me away. She’s more my type than anyone I’ve ever seen before.
I know the obsession will fade after a while (kind of like right after you have a dream about someone), but I’ll make an effort to take that bus again this friday and next week.
