Hi guys. Wow, I’m not getting a lot of time to post here, I only got the weekends when I have access to the internet.
Well, for those of you who remember my 2 last posts about this girl that I really like in my work place (army). Here are the two threads:
In short, I really like this girl, been playing all kinds of dumb games that got me nowhere (jealousy plotlines and stuff), until I decided that I am going to tell her that I like her, witch resulted in her telling me that she was going out with someone.
The thing is, I can’t get my head off her, and actually, I don’t really want to. This sounds very obsessive, witch is true, in some way, I guess. But I really need this girl; she is perfect in every way.
Right now, I think she sees me as a cute guy at her work place, but not a potential suitor, like I am sort of a nice little kid. I need to know what pheromones can work to change this, and what behavior to use that will go good with them (serious, talkative, ignoring…).
Now apart from that, the problem is, that I don’t spend so much time next to her, and the time that I am with her, is divided into a few times a day, for usually a short period of time. So the thing is, I can put on pheromones in the morning but until I see her next time they will fade out. I tried reapplying the pheros again in the middle of the day, but I get people asking me why I have just put cologne the middle of the day, or at night, right before I go to sleep…
From what Ive read, definately factor in the use of alpha A314. Makes you seem…Just that! IT makes you seem more alpha! haha. From reviews it increases confidence, makes men view you as more of a leader, and women see you as a powerful, providing, and desireable man.
You might also want to try a bit of AMMO in conjunction with that. Ammo is great in the attraction department. (I wouldnt reccommend turn up the heat, it seems way too drastic for your situation)
Let it go. You’re cruisin’ fo’ bruisin’. You work with her and she has professed a BF. I can see your future if you push it and that may include any angry BF or official complaint. If she’s not interested, mones will not revoke freewill or make you walk on water. Find a boyfriend-free woman outside your workplace.
She does not have a BF. She said she is dating someone, and I asked her if it was serious, and she was like, umm I don’t know.
Complaint? No way, I am not a pushy person, and we are in good terms. I don’t come by as a stocker. Actually after I told her that (about 3 weeks ago) I have been acting like nothing happened and every thing is cool.
Listen, I can’t let go of her. I need to know what to do. No way I can’t get her.
I know your right. I need to get over it, but I can’t/ guys, this sounds cheesy but I am really in love. The thing is, I don’t want to give up. I just don’t.
There must be a way, maybe behavior or something. But I need to get this girl. I just can put it away. I am three weeks after and still felling like shit. Yes, maybe a little bit better. But at the same time, emptiness, and a felling off great loss.
I’m hungover so bear w/ me. If read correctly you are a soldier and she is in your workplace. I would then assume that she too is a soldier? I personally never liked to mack on chicks that are proficient in firearms. Obviously she knows you like her and you have stepped on yer d*ck trying to get her to go out. If your that insistent ignore her. Act like you met someone else. Make her “work” to talk to you. I have stripped a couple of girls outta their ACU’s but know well the DOD/DA’s stance on sexual harassment. Walk w/ caution. HUAH!!!
He speaks the truth. The straight up truth. Your question has just been answered by one of the wisest beings that you will encounter in the course of this lifetime. Pay Attention!
But just in case you don’t get it the third or fourth time… Let me see if I can put this another way…
You will not in any way have a chance with this women. Period.
If you can not completely let go of the idea that you have any chance with her, then your life is about to become a catclysmic disaster, a nuclear meltdown. You are about to lose your manhood, your physical and mental freedom, and a large part of your personal and professional life.
So the question becomes, how much do you value your freedom… and yourself?
You’re in love? How sure are you about this, and how old are you? Because if you’re still young chances are you’re not really in love; when us guys are young we’re always “in love” or at least we think we are. So really think about it, we all go through that one girl we think we’re in love with but then when we grow older in the future we’re like “what the hell was I thinking?”
If you’re not young, what’s the point of being in love with someone who probably doesn’t even feel the same way for you? Seriously, pheromones won’t help here if she really doesn’t have interest in you, in order for them to work she has to at least subconsciously possibly have interest for you. The pheromones then just build from that little spark of interest, so you can try but just becareful.
Wow dude. Man that was hard, seriously, that felt like a knife in my heart.
How can you be so sure though? I don’t believe that. And you are correct, I am having a mental breakdown.
I met this girl about half a year ago, in the beginning I was getting a bunch of IOI’s and I didn’t know what to do with them. It took me half a year to make a move. That’s why I still think somewhere, I have a chance. She used to think I am a potential suitor, so why not now?
Look, your right, my brain Says all of you are correct. But I am not willing to believe it, I am still holding on to those IOI’s I sow, and hoping for some sort of change in mind.
Well, maybe you waited too long if you did have a chance that is. But you hesitated, so maybe she gave up (again that’s only if she really did have a thing for you.) However, are you sure she used to think you were a potential “suitor” or is that just what you think?
It’s only obvious that you’re going to follow your heart, so we’re probably just typing for nothing but if you do decide to go with your heart I at least hope that you will learn from it no matter what ends up happening (good or bad.) And if it’s bad, know we at least tried telling you.
OoohYahhh, she DOES NOT have a BF.
You are not explaining why you think I have no chance with this girl. Are you just telling me this because it is the right thing for me to think?
Man, I can’t, I just can’t I feel so empty and useless. Seriously, while writing this I feel like puking.
I can’t just decide to not feel anything and be alright. It just doesn’t go that way. Even if I would want to, I don’t know how. But again, I don’t want to give up on this girl.
Look, I have now come to think that I do not know how to tell if a girl likes me. Lately every time I think I have a chance I fail. Yes, I am pretty sure though that there was this initial spark of interest.
I do need luck, and HELP.
Not sure what else to tell you man, some of our advice may sound harsh but it’s because some of us have already been there or have seen it before and know that the outcome is not good (at least the majority of the time.) So that’s still not good enough, so I say forget it but since I know you won’t then what do you think you’ll end up doing?
That’s the thing, I don’t know what I think I’ll end up doing. I don’t know what to do. I feel trapped in this felling and situation and don’t know what to do. That’s why I feel like throwing up. I can’t do anything. From one side I feel really in love and hopeless, and from the other side I can’t get rid of the feeling even if I want to let go.
Trust me, I know it’s hard but you will and can get over it. It’ll hurt, but it should go away fast… I mean you two never even had a thing going on so you shouldn’t even feel this sick but yet you do and that’s not healthy. It seems like the only way you can get over this is by her reassuring you that there’s nothing there, and since it seems like you can pour out your emotions better in a written manner then how about you write her a letter describing just how you feel and how you want one LAST answer? Sneak it in her bag or something, but if she answers you and it’s still a no then please just respect her and let her go.
Reassuring? I think that would help, for about a day, and then it that fact would sink in, and make me feel fu*ked up again.
No way would I do something like that. I would not be able to look at her anymore, and she would probably think I am creepy and needy. Even if I would have a chance in the future that would ruin it, I think. But in some place, your right, I would very much like to know. If she wasn’t dating this guy, would she agree?
My headache is gone. You feel this way cuz of competition. I’m sure someone that wasted their parents money on a psych degree could label it. I’ve been in your boots. Your one of twenty hundred swinging d*icks on base and only a few females. If you can hook up w/ one of those few females then you are THE MAN!! All others will fear and respect you. You will be given the rank of general and win wars. Funny part is guys will kill each other over these girls which usually aren’t even of high value. I was stationed in SOCAL in my youth and remember there only being 4-5 females in the barracks. Most of these were barracks rats. They always had a squad of losers following them around like kids on the playground. Did my friends and I chase them? Hells no! We were in between LA and San D dawg. Having worked overseas for the cause I’ve seen worse. Ever heard of the phrase “desert queen”? There’s a saying on the urinal walls; “How will feel to go back home and be ugly again”? Yep. I’ve seen careers ruined over it. It’s not worth it. Just keep it in perspective.
Obsession is not sexy.
I do think some pheromones could help you but you gotta change your behaviour to suit any seductive phero signature you might go for.
You can’t be that much attached to the outcome.
You could start to show some disinterest in order to reverse your situation and make her chase you but you would have to be congruent.
Most people saved time and said it’s impossible because it’s near impossible to act non needy considering the level of needyness you showed.You gotta fix that first,and the process is definetely not short.By the way, it’s very likely that after that you won’t care much about her anyway
You are a soldier.You gotta know when to retreat.
Obviously she knows you like her and you have stepped on yer d*ck trying to get her to go out. If your that insistent ignore her. Act like you met someone else. Make her “work” to talk to you. I have stripped a couple of girls outta their ACU’s but know well the DOD/DA’s stance on sexual harassment. Walk w/ caution. HUAH!!!
