I had to learn the hard way when I had a 300+ lb. Division I football player on my ass.
HOWEVER, if she really is disappointed that you aren’t going in ‘for the kill,’ THEN this might mean that she isn’t fully satisfied with her current relationship. If she doesn’t mind you boning her, then her current dude is probably not satisfying her.
If I were you though, I would straight up tell her that she’s getting nothing more from me unless she gets rid of the boyfriend. And stop hanging out with her. Don’t be THAT guy who’s sleeping with another guy’s girlfriend. If he doesn’t get you, karma will, and karma getting you may actually hurt.
In my situation, I’m not entirely sure if she has a boyfriend, and she’s listed as “single” on Facebook. Now, you know as well as I, in our generation, Facebook relationship statuses are very critical in a relationship (as funny as that sounds, it’s so true). Those our age in a more serious relationship don’t even list anything. The one’s who have a relatively new relationship love telling the world. Usually the ones that have ‘single’ listed ARE single.
You read me wrong, this was before she had the boyfriend, I haven’t talked to her in about 2 months, so even before she had the boyfriend she randomly lost interest, i’m just saying if they break up she will be right back to me. There are plenty of girls on our college softball team that I am thinking about going for but I have seriously been thinking if she does comeback to me if/when she breaks up with him, i’m going to lead her on and throw her into the friend-zone for a bit, hoping that it will make her go crazy, if she knows she can have me then it makes it way to easy for her to become disinterested, but if I put her in the friend-zone when she is expecting to start dating me, that will drive her nuts and she will begin to question her self and keep her interested…or at least that’s the plan, which should work.
I’m going to hazard to say that during the time she ‘lost interest,’ she was gaining interest from her new boyfriend. Dude, you snooze you lose. No worries though, you live and learn. On to the next one.
I may soon be in a similar boat as you. The more I gather, the more I think she’s dating this guy, and is in that “lost interest in you, gaining interest in him” stage. Thing is, I probably still have some time to sway her opinion back to me (if she ever did have interest in me, or was trying to make me an orbiter. Maybe she realized that I will not have that and no longer has interest in me? Maybe she is trying to make this guy another orbiter? Pherotalk will know soon enough). It happens to the best of us. We just gotta know when the time is ripe to make a move.
I thought the same thing, but a few weeks later she started texting me again which pissed me off so I didn’t give her any sign that I was still interested, and it was a few weeks after that she started hanging out with this guy. 120lbs no muscle, complete D-bag from what ive heard, compared to my 185lbs of all muscle and I box, she will be back I have no worries ill just find some hot softball chicks.
Just let her see you having a good time WITH OTHER GIRLS. She may try to counter by making you jealous (she may make out with her boyfriend in front of you), but don’t let that bother you. Not even in the slightest. Let her know that you have COMPLETE control of your life, and you don’t need her. Drives girls CRAZY.
Ive done that before, problem is I never see her unless we plan to hangout, which we haven’t since early august because we live in different towns. Once I find some hot softball chicks to get with, I will get a ton of pictures to put of facebook of us together and I’m sure that will make her go nuts.
I’ll see the girl on Wednesday (we see each other every Wednesday and Sunday). I’ll A314 + IShine. Hopefully we at least talk (sometimes, we don’t really interact mostly b/c I sit down next to a guy friend or the girl with the boyfriend that acts like she likes me).
I act a LITTLE bit cocky around her at times (she usually just laughs) and call her a dork. I’m doing P90X and getting HUGE (I look great). It’s to the point that, hell, if she isn’t interested in me, I’m wasting my time (I do make “I’m too sexy” jokes all the time with her).
I am fully aware that some girls “fake laugh” because they know it’s the way to get attention from guys. I think it’s OK to assume she has a boyfriend, but, maybe, just ignore her to the point that we aren’t even friends. The more I think about it, the more incongruent I think we are, and the only way it works is if she shows some interest in me. Otherwise, well, f*** it.
This may be trivial, but a couple of hours ago, I was getting food from our College Center. As I exited, I saw her walk by, and she was on her phone. Didn’t even LOOK at me. Now, she might not have noticed me, but I thought it was kind of weird.
(Before anyone says it, she was ACTUALLY on the phone. She wasn’t trying to get away from me. I never gave her reason to believe I’m that kind of guy that she wants to avoid).