Okay, I live close to Georgetown now. Most of my buds are 20 to 30 minutes away, and thus, I have to go sarge at bars/clubs myself, which makes things tougher, lol. so, where can I go find my Robin ( I am Batman)? My Clyde ( I being Bonnie)? Also, how I go about it?
Thoughts or Advices?
To this day I still have not found a wingman. I joined a group here in town and we’d meet and have lessons in pick-up etc., and then when it would come time to go out sarging, out popped the excuses.
One night, one of the guys says, “wow I didn’t realize how many guys here play poker. We should all get together, play poker and talk about this stuff.”
I was just blown away. I don’t wanna talk anymore, I want to go out and sarge.
I too, in the past, was forced to go out on my own. While this does have some advantages, I’d say the whole “social proof” aspect of gaming made it a huge disadvantage.
There is nothing like entering a venue with a crew of guys and girls, and looking like your group is the life of the party.
When you show up alone, you are now acting from a place where you’re not just trying to open women, but make friends as well.
Also, just being honest here. I myself need some prodding. When I have gone out alone, I would enter sets, and eject far too quickly, or come up with excuses as to why I won’t open this set, or that one.
But with a crew, or even just a single wingman, you got someone telling you, “you better open that cutie or I’m gonna do it.” LOL. Guys need a challenge sometimes to act, and nothing better than having your buddy calling you on your cowardice, or swooping in and taking the cutie you were too afraid of opening.
Check meetup.com maybe there’s something in your area. I know there’s a big lair in New York. I myself joined the Las Vegas lair, but have not had an opportunity to go out sarging with them yet. I emailed the founder of the group with my concerns that I noted up above, and hoping to hook up with him this week to get our game on.
Good luck!
You grab someone from work or something. Say, “Hey, I’ve always wanted to hang out with you. I wanted to try out some things I heard about for picking up girls. We could think about it as a social experiment… What do you think, are you game?”
Then tell them to keep an eye out for girls checking you out, and do the same for them. When you notice something good they can use, encourage them to go talk. Suggest things to say or talk about. Really, you help them first and they will start to do the same for you.
So I’m not sure how this forum feels about the show “The Pickup Artist”. My suggestion is to watch a few episodes of it. They almost always have to go in by themselves to pick girls up. One guy in particular walks around asking everyone how they are and honestly people want to talk to him. I know it’s very hard without friends there. I freeze if no ones with me, but when I’m laughing with my friends, women pick up on this confidence and are more interested. When by yourself, you MAKE friends in the bar as you go along. Talk to everyone, and you’ll look popular. By the way, what state do you live in if you don’t mind my asking?
Are you looking for somebody to just meet up with you and kick it or hang out with alot? Cool Kat , I know you have in mind what you would like in general for a wingperson to be. Someone you can get along with, a guy who’s has their act together and will be asset and not a hinderous, for we know we can do bad all… I would say, hopefully a wingperson that shares some of the same values and code of ethics that you do.
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Very familiar with the show, and yes they do go in alone, however when Mystery, Matador and company go in, they go in as a team. I personally am not saying it’s impossible, it’s just not conducive to how I am socially in this context. I went out the other night alone once again and met up with a set, 2 guys 1 girl and we all had a blast.
I would rather not have to do that most times, not to mention there’s so much more going on with a wingman, woman that you can’t do without. A wingman is also there to help you eliminate the cock blocking friends, he makes her feel like she’s being attended to while you make time with your target. He also gives you social proof as you are a “leader of men.” He can do this just by being your buddy, as well as being the one who plays up your qualities via story telling, and you don’t look or sound all try hard doing it yourself.
A wingwoman gives you social proof and then some. You don’t need copulins in your mix, you’ve got a copulin producing machine that says, “ladies this guy is cool to hang out with.” And if they infer you two are doing the nasty, then that’s their biz, so what they also may pick up from that is, you can do the nasty without it becoming far too serious.
I don’t know it’s just me and the way I work mentally.
Google P.A.I.R. Pickup Artists International Registry via fastseduction.
theattractionforums has a section for finding wings. I met two really cool wings there and have had some great nights outs
You could also start a meetup group based on pua’s and wingmen in your area…get a nice little den or lair of like minded guys together.
i used to have a great wingman now i am looking i had a wingirl before she was smokin and good at winging it now i need to find a new wingman or gal in Montreal
Unfortunately, many of them are married. Moreover, the environment I work/study is VERY ACADEMIC, lol. All are either doing MD, PhD, masters, MPH, etc - all grad students, interns, or post-doc. We do go out as a group sometimes, but not fo anyr pick-up but rather social. Also, I highly doubt any guy there would CONSISTENTLY want to wing me. Plus, most geeky guys don’t even know what “THE GAME” is all about and have no idea how to talk to girls, lol
I can see you’ve already found a no to a question you haven’t even asked these guys yet…wrong mindset my man. 
Now as far as geeky guys not knowing what the game is, I’m sure you know what the learning pyramid is right?
Your retention rate goes up as you go from just reading 10% retention, to teaching others 90% retention.
So look at this as an opportunity to give back some of the knowledge that has been bestowed upon you, and as an opportunity to learn even more as you bless someone’s life, by giving them more opportunities and choices in their relationships.