I’m getting spams which say ‘I’m nice girl, I’m bored so I would like to chat with you..’…
thanks but no!
huh …?
you don’t get them? 
I was browsing the psychcology section at Borders (looking for the books Tacitus recommended)and I noticed there were quite a few different books addressing women and “bad boys”. There must be a market for them.
I once bought a book about “bad boys” in women’s literature..
…and I used to play and perform the song from The Scorpions - “Bad Boys Running Wild” during my hey day 
but not only I didn’t have the time to read a book but also the time to buy one! So, that explains why I have so many grammar mistakes in my English!:o Luckily, The Scorpions are Germans!
err…Phoenix, were you talking about literature or something?
There was a song called “bad boys” by Miami Sound Machine, used to like that when I was a teenager..
It went something like this:
There were other songs, one was Bad Boys by Wham and another one was Bad Boys Get Spanked by Pretenders…
Bad boys. . .Sounds like that police show theme song. . .
I don’t lol.. I’m sorry.. I’m not getting the joke.. what are we talking about?
‘good girl’ spams claiming to be from girls who seem to presume I’m a naughty boy
I can answer this question: They like challenges, everybody likes a challenge. It makes you feel good when you succeed.
Actually I think this is true to a certain extent I just finished with someone who I think would have preferred me to treat her like dirt. I would probably class myself as a good boy now as I’m looking for someone to settle down with rather than playing the numbers game but I do have some experience of the other side of the coin.
I worked as a nightclub doorman for just over two years between the age of 25 and 27 and I would always get alot of attention from the opposite sex and frequently go home with 4 or 5 phone numbers a night off random girls. Now I wouldnt say I was bad looking but I’m no James Bond either and I definitely got more attention when I was working than when I was out of uniform and just on a social night out and particularly if I had to put someone out or stop people fighting in the club. I stopped working as I started to see a girl that didnt approve of my evening work so I think the bit about them being attracted to bad boys but wanting to change them is true also in some cases. Ive been asked to go back to working the door by some of my previous door team and whereas I think it would be flattering to get that level of attention, I don’t really think I want to get involved with anyone that would be attracted to a bad boy doorman type at this stage of my life. Where are all the nice girls that like nice guys ? 
Tell you the truth in my dating lately I’m not sure I’ve met anyone like that
This was a huge mistake. My exwife wanted to control everything -from my hairstyle to what we watched on TV. I capitulated because from my perspective -I don’t really care.
Retrospectively, she was just seeing how far she could push me -she was testing the grounds to see if she could make me into a milquetoast. Even if (from my perspective) I didn’t care about my hairstyle or television -from her perspective it was putting herself into a dominant role.
Ultimately she didn’t respect me. Generally, females don’t respect men that they can boss around. So giving in to them; even a little -is dangerous for the relationship.
Some very good advice there.. thanks..
Found this interesting article..
PUA’s Beware Of NICE WOMEN - how to pick up girls | ideaGasms
“PUA’s - Beware Of NICE WOMEN!” (http://www.ideagasms.net/puas-beware-of-nice-women/)
Published by stephane at April 28, 2007
Last night, I volunteered myself as a TOOL.
Advanced, experienced PUA’s will understand this post, and guys with little or no experience will think I’m jaded, bitter, and exaggerating. Of course, they would be wrong!
And… all women reading this will understand this post too, as most of today’s pretty young women are “guilty as charged’. You know who you are.
Dear newbies, beware of NICE WOMEN - they have secret boyfriends waiting for them at home.
You see, many of today’s women have no respect for men. This is a fact - just don’t ask them to admit this. But actions speak louder than words.
If you go out and approach a nice, pretty girl and she’s 100% NICE to you, she has… a boyfriend. Not all girls are like this, and yes… I’m generalizing - but I’m not generalizing as much as you newbies might think.
You see, the law of the jungle states that there ‘alphas’ and ‘betas’, therefore when two animals (or people) meet for the first time, they will size each other up to see who’s boss. And when two people meet in a “single’s bar”, like when a man approaches a female that he finds attractive, this “sizing” each other up is amplified even more.
This means that the woman will purposefully be rude to the guy, ESPECIALLY if she likes him. They call this “shit-testing”, I call it yin testing. The woman “tests” the man - by being a rude bitch to him - and she does this to see how he will handle himself. If he “passes” her tests (and she REALLY hopes that he will) she will submit to him.
Now, when women aren’t rude and testy towards you, usually this means they are USING you.
Last night, I was used in this way. I was introduced to this girl, it was quite obvious that she liked me (as arrogant as this sounds, most women like me and always have, ever since I was born I’ve had women throwing themselves at me everywhere I go. I’m pretty spoiled).
She liked me immediately (her eyes light up like a Christmas tree when she saw me, and she wanted to know everything about me. When they ask you a zillion questions, it’s ON.) so she tooled me for Yang Energy.
That means that since she found me delightful and attractive, she wanted to be near me, to feel my energy. Women LOVE being around attractive guys because they love the feeling of being in heat. Their most enlightened, “God-like” state = HORNY. Men enjoy this too, but I think we enjoy violence, competition, etc. states just a little bit more than sexual states, fucking cavemen that we are.
Anyway, she was NICE to me. 100% nice and responsive.
She didn’t try to frame control me, she didn’t argue or “mismatch” me (women’s #1 favorite yin-test in my opinion is to disagree with you, to see if you’ll cave because you want sex and you’re weak.)
She laughed at all of my stupid jokes.
She touched me a LOT (normally I won’t let women do this, but in this case I was just interested in the female psychology and wanted to see how she would handle herself, so I let her tool me for “high buying temperature” reasons).
She used all of her flirty facial expressions, eye movements, and body-language tricks (licking lips, holding eye contact longer than is socially acceptable, arching her back, etc. etc. etc.)
She agreed with everything I said.
When I said, “Let’s go outside”, no hesitation. She practically FLEW outside.
The whole time, I was just like, “Wow.. this girl is pretending to be single and using me to feel sexual, and to feel good about herself. She doesn’t give a FUCK about me as a person, she just likes my Yang Energy. She’s even LYING TO HERSELF that she will let me seduce her fully all the way to the bedroom and beyond. She’s a good little actress!”
I was also just waiting for her to leave.
You see, once girls with boyfriends have had their fill of Yang Energy, they will literally just walk off as if nothing happened. Just like my cat does, and it hurts my feelings every time! He’ll just puuuuurrrrr and let me scratch him and he’ll REALLY enjoy it, and then when he’s done using me, he will let me know by clawing at my face (once) and then WALKING OFF.
He doesn’t even say thank you
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Anyway, I was thinking about my readers the whole time this girl was using me. I wish i had a camera so that guys could see this stuff. Girls blatantly USE US all the time, and while most guys are going, “Wow I LOVE this girl, she’s so awesome, I think she’s my new girlfriend!” what they do not realize is they are literally just being tooled.
And, don’t ask your female friends to admit that they do this. Seriously, they won’t tell you the truth unless they are full-on, openly bisexual and actually eat pussy from time to time. Only those girls are cool and self-aware enough to admit this stuff and acually have a conversation with us about yin/yang dynamics.
Yes, I’m generalizing. You can now delete the email you just composed that was supposed to tell me that I’m not being 100% scientifically accurate in my blog, you fucking losers, you know who you are
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So anyway, I was just chilling with her, allowing her to use me, and waiting for her to walk away from me in a very, very, very COLD manner. But while waiting for this extremely typical scenario to play itself out, I have to admit, I was secretly hoping that I was wrong about her.
And then it happened… her friends came over to us, and her entire demeanor changed from “I’m single and picking this hot guy up because we have an awesome connection and I think I love him” and metamorphosed into “I’m just talking to this lame, boring guy because I’m bored”. (Her demeanor and state MUST change, otherwise her guy friends will think she’s a slut who cheats on her boyfriend. Her GIRL-friends won’t judge her because they are all the same way, BUT… in some cases they will pretend-judge her if they are jealous of her, or secretly trying to steal her current boyfriend).
Not only did her demeanor change, but she just COLDLY said, “Nice talking with you, I have to go now, bye” with very little emotion. She said this VERY coldly and just started walking off.
As usual when they have boyfriends.
Since I was having fun, and sort of pretending that I was on TV and demonstrating this shit for my students (haha, this is the type of shit I think about) I said, “Stop! Come here.”
Annoyed, she said, “What’s up?” and I whispered in her ear, “Before you go, I just want to know, you have a boyfriend that you’re happy with, don’t you?”
“Yeah, I’m going to go see him now.”
“One more thing. Are you conscious enough to admit that you blatantly used me for sexual validation?”
“Huh?”
Thanks for reading
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ps - I recommend that you do not judge women for being this way. I post this stuff, and i have fun doing so, but please understand that women are NOT their behaviors, and more than anything else, they need COMPASSION, as all humans do. If you have the Girlfriend Training Program, remember to use the 5D Compassion formula a lot, because women will drive you insane if your inner game isn’t super-tight
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pps - Lest you wonder why I’m out gaming girls even though I have a girlfriend that I loyal to, 1. I’m doing some personal research on astrology signs and my GF understands that most of my pickup is actually just research for IG, 2. my girlfriend wishes that I would go back to being a serious PUA again because she wants a new girlfriend pretty badly right now but I keep on firing girls and disqualifying them. Her game still needs a lot of work, and to her it would be awesome if i would just go out and pick up girls for her, but there’s no way I will do that because it’s the wrong way of building a Circle in my book. (By the way, the above girl was a Scorpio)
Hmm.. I’ve met somebody who was like that,using guys…
but how about a girl who looks like her tongue gets tangled when you look at her or speak to her (I was moned up so that may have been the reason)… and she’s interested in you.. I don’t think she’s being “too nice” in this case..
I sure there is some truth to the above guys story. She probably was using him to validate. I have news for you men do it all the time as well. Yes married/involved men will hit on women 
Sometimes its just cause they are horn dogs and sometimes its because they need validation to.
I am often called nice, and I often talk to guys when I am out but not to validate anything. I validate myself. I often wonder why men think just because we talk to them we are interested in them sexually. Maybe you really are just interesting to talk to or is it just possible that you think your not interesting. Maybe we are just passing time and waiting for our friends. So are all nice girls validating? Nope and I am glad he wrote it was generalizing. But I do know women who will go in a bar and take there rings off first. They have no intention of doing anything with these guys they flirt with and they are probably looking for validation. I think it really depends on the women. I will mention my husband in the first 5 minutes of conversation just so they know where they stand. Generally the conversation stops right there, like I am not worthy of there casual friendship snort LOL. Maybe I am not interesting. NOT LOL I know I can be interesting and I know they stop talking cause they know they are not getting laid.
As for respecting men, at least in my case, it depends on the man. I am sure men feel the same about women. I have to admit I am not attracted to a man that I can walk all over but in the same instance I dont respect a man that trys to walk all over me.
As for the question of why do good girls love Bad boys. Its really simple and I have enjoyed reading all the guesses why. Its because on the inside we are naughty to, but most women have been trained to surpress that. Bad boys bring out our inner naughtiness. The one we are never supposed to show. The one your not supposed to show to the nice boy down the street, who your mom said will be perfect for you. Its safe with them cause they are bad to and wont judge that side of you. Its that simple. I am not talking about violent men. They are in a class all there own. Its call dirtbags.
Of course now a days with “girls behaving badly” hitting the scene. Girls are breaking out of that mold and they dont need a Bad boy to show there naughtiness. Unless of course there is a bad boy standing on the other side of that camara. 
Tisha
That’s true, tisha, I don’t like to generalise myself.. there are all kinds of persons in life.
On tv there was a program and an expert (a woman) talked about the Madonna-Whore complex..
i’m gonna have to disagree with that PUA post.
i’m always nice. to anyone that speaks to me. whether I’m with soemone or not. But then again, when I go out, i’m not aiming to hook up, looking for the one or any of that. I’m out to socialize and entertain myself.
perhaps that’s the difference.