No we don’t represent a cross section of the population to say the least. If a psychologist or for that matter a psychiatrist were to stumble upon this site, they would make some very interesting conclusions concerning the members and even the owner of the site, believe me.
Carrie, I have taken the Myers-Briggs test, it’s very easy to cheat and manipulate the end results, I must say, I did fall under one of the catagerories you mentioned above.
Carrie, if you build it, they will come…
or atleast i will!
one note Carrie inspired me to bring up is like attracts like; if you spend all day working out and admiring your own body, your more likely to seek out or find attractive some one who does the same to a similar degree. you want someone to apreciate and admire you, and who better than someone who already apreciates those same traits enough to impliment them in their own lifestyle!
with that said, i guarnetee that guy in the pic is naturally drawn to men/women who work out incessantly. a mate that does will understand and apreciate his lifestyle.
My exes, who are full of my own contradictions yet reflect my basic values I think:
For the sake of you young ones’ active need for sleep, this is a much abbreviated list:
(all are highly intelligent and have beautiful manners)
male, dark hair, Caucasian, chemist, rugby player, feminist activist, very sensual, funny as hell, great kisser.
female, German American pale blonde, poet, sensitive, rather butch physically and emotionally.
female, German American brunette, feminine appearing, very aggressive mentally, poet, editor, musician, highly ethical and philosophical, not as “nice” as most of my other lovers but has a high standard for behavior nonetheless. Unbelievable kisser.
male, 40, Caucasian, massage therapist, Quaker pacifist, very sensual, extremely kind to everyone (until after you marry him), highly ethical. Humor is not his strong point.
male, 48, senior programmer, introvert, distance cyclist, very kind, Zen buddhist, extremely sexual, highly ethical. Not a great humorist.
male, 39, Native American/Hispanic, musician, rolfer, energyworker, funny as hell, muscular/“bear” body type, kinder than he should be. Honorable to the point of absurdity sometimes.
yeah but you guys are all sophisticated and stuff. the average 19-23 year old girl would go **"**wawaweewa!" for that dude. But given your wider life experience I think I’ll pay attention. So WATCH and act, huh? Ok, so how does a good, honest guy convey all of those wonderful qualities people have been mentioning… honesty, humour, true to themselves, integrity, so on and so forth in the 3-30 seconds a perspective mate spends sizing them up?
So far all I can come up with is the chat up line:
“So do you like fat guys with no money?”
Matt
well, if these women are what you want, you have no other choice but to give up your day job to work out and oil-up
you have more than 3-30 seconds more often than not.
in the case that you technically have only 3-30 seconds, she isnt going to make a judgement,period.
there is no way in hell i know that im going to sleep with a person in 30 seconds.
sometimes all you really have to do is just be nice. that attracts nice gals. if you want a naughty one, behave naughty.
if you want one thats nice and can be naughty, be nice and complimentive.playful. fun. its easier than you think.
but I get these nerves like, like a footballer before a big game.
and they wonder why people take drugs. or why valium does so well. or just drink themselves stupid.
bloody nerves. tried to get some kava kava for it. it’s be outlawed in South Africa. Can you believe it? Have all the Valium you can handle but no Kava Kava’s gotta be illegal now.
When I’m chilled, I am like all those things you mentioned and it’s worked in the past. But it took mixing Prozac with a bottle of Vodka a day to do it. Would have been dead before I hit 27 at that rate. Now I don’t know.
Matt
“sometimes all you really have to do is just be nice. that attracts nice gals. if you want a naughty one, behave naughty.
if you want one thats nice and can be naughty, be nice and complimentive.playful. fun. its easier than you think.”
That sounds like advice to someone who wants to make friends. You know, be nice and that. And if I behave naughty I’ll be kicked out the pub/bar and possibly arrested. What about “Nice Guys Finish Last” is that no true? I dunno really I might just have to go gay after all of this. Seems a bit simpler. If only I wasn’t attracted to girls so much. It’s a visious circle!
Matt
the difference between you youngins and older more confident gents is only time… you do something so often that you cease to care what the outcome is and that very ceasing to care becomes a laid-back nonchalantness that is very comfortable…and mysterious to be around. makes me very curious when a guy is sitting back with this look like “been there done that. lets do something real fun”.
i have a feeling though that someone terribly hot will have you by the arm, make you feel like you can have anybody, and from there on out you will never have nerves.
hey matt, bartend for a month.
your nerves will obey you.
Just stop caring. That’s my secret. After that it’s all in your approach, as Lor says.
Of course, but why would anyone bother? It’s for your own self-knowledge after all. You’d only be cheating yourself.
So I take it you answered honestly when you came up INFJ (my wild guess)?
are you going to start our superficial “what we want” thread?
i know its going to start something lol.
im instigating.
Really amazing! I am INFJ too. I think the ‘I’ in INFJ had a lot to do with why I was first searching for pheromones. I am slowly and surely changing it to an ‘E’.
Thank you! You do walk the talk. I just wish everyone did.
Wow someone neg repped me for this and didnt even leave their name how cute, if you want me to call you handsome or beautiful just say so theres no need to be jealous
Rich
If I were to go over most of the ladies that I have been attracted to and pulled, they have mostly been around my age if not a year or 2 younger and generally most play games, which i cant be arsed with.
only one has been completely different, about 7 years older than me was pretty much everything I liked; Sexy, mature, straight up and honest, short, cute, looked after herself, fantastic dancer and very talented singer I have therefore concluded that older ladies are the way to go, real women infact would be my future choice
Don’t even think on it Rich…
I get 100’s of neg reps on here calling me every name under the sun. You need to realise it is not your problem - it’s theirs.
I actually feel sorry for the people that can be so emotionally effected by what someone they don’t know posts on an anonomous internet forum.
Basically you represent something they are not happy with in their own lives (pain, a traumatic event, and injustice) and the only way they can feel in control is to attempt to bring you down - bit sad really that this is through anonomous 1 line spits of venom.
The trouble is they don’t feel better for having done it - it makes them feel worse…hate is dangerous like that.
Judging by my rep record there are a lot of hurt and frightened people on here - I sincerely hope they find what they need to make them happy and move on.
Hate is not the answer in achieving happiness, but rather, it is a downward spiral
Peace
The myers test involves answering the questions in the fastest possible time, the reason why they tell you to do this is because the testee will consciously or subconsciously cheat, some of the questions are self evident that they will determine the end result, so people often answer the questions with the end result in mind…you can create the test result with how you answer the questions, thats why this test is flawed. Even self honesty is a perception of ones self which is often a fantasy of ones own mind and not a true indicator of who you really are.
I honestly answered the questions to come up with INFJ, but I didnt honestly come up with INFJ.
sorry but could I have a link to do this test on the internet please? I’ll try not to cheat. Thanks.
Matt
matthew, i dont know any site that offers this test for free, myguess is you have to pay for it, either online or by having it done elsewhere, I actually had this done by a career advisor, she thought by me having this test done it will put me on track towards a career that would suit my personality, the fact is this test merely touches a individuals personality, and does not take into account a million other things that make each and every one of us unique with different personalities and ambitions, in fact although I did see some of myself in INFJ, however in the end all this test did was confuse me, because I have traits that are totally contradictory to a INFJ.
But I agree with carrie, we INFJ only make up 1% of the population, we are pretty unique carrie arent we? lol
wow.
i am having trouble with the fact that there are cowards not willing to sign their name to bad rep points.
i have seen someone lurking and homophobic.
i have seen evidence (other than here) that they serious help.
sorry there is a bully with little moral values here richelieu…
i hope you will continue to have fun and blow that off..