Wow you guys sure are fast on the replies! Thank you so much for the advice, i know this is a tough situation to crack, although now i do wish i’d done a bit more research and asked a bit more questions before splashing out on a load of stuff that now appear inappropriate for my situation!
Thanks also for the warm welcome, it’s really nice to know there’s acceptance here (I come from a really conservative society 
). Yeah it’s hard to find gay and lesbian related information here so a sub-forum or a sticky would be wonderful … i’d love to help out tisha but as you can see i am already making all sorts of mistakes here haha! But really bisexuality is such a gray and fluid area, I can see why there’s not been anything conclusive in the way of research and testing yet. Even I confuse myself sometimes!
Daedelus, the reason why i decided to try WAGG was because over at ‘the other forum’ there were several reports from a lesbian girl who had used it with good success on other girls. Yeah i do tend to be a little standoffish and aloof in general, so figured it might help. I need to try it around others and see how that works.
So you guys think she’s definitely got some gayness or bi-ness in there? I think the problem is that she keeps insisting now she’s straight, but surely after two years of sex with a girl … you can’t be that straight and there would have to be some kind of basic, primal attraction in there?
Would the Instant Female Magic I have, bearing in mind it’s the version for women, not be advisable in this situation too? I mean I was thinking since it’s labelled for women, it would be okay as a general multi-purpose sort of thing. Of course, it doesn’t do squat to me either!
I’d love to try those experimones and putatives you guys mentioned but after shelling out so much for everything else so far … i need to take a breather first! I do have a togo of MX135 (free thanks to the lovely people at androtics) so I’m gonna try that first. I wore a little bit of that yesterday when we met and when combined with some alcohol there was definitely a lot more random touching going on. Phya, agree with you on the play-fighting thing, I just need to figure out how to take it over the edge no! 
Fluffie do keep posting your results, I’d love to hear how you get on. We are in the same situation.
p/s I was looking at my original post and for some reason the link to my previous post wasnt showing up, so in case anybody wants to read it or re-read it i’m gonna try to include it here again: