Getting back with an Ex girlfriend and what mones would be useful

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I broke up with a girlfriend of mine (now an ex) about a yr ago and the negative side effects are just now starting to hit me. Hard to explain but I broke up with her because I had became so busy I couldn’t spend a lot of time with her . I cared so much that I let her go to find someone else . But now I feel like I screwed up and we could have worked something out. Well she was the best girlfriend I ever had, she even told me she loved me and meant it. I thought I had loved her too at the same time but I didn’t know what love was . The way I’m feeling now, I can tell I love her. I keep “seeing” her in every girl with a similar body shape, or similar facial look. I guess that would be my inexperience with women coming into play back then. I also have a tendency to want to get the best I can get out of life instead of “playing it safe” . Don’t take that the wrong way though . I was pretty darn proud to be her boyfriend.

Anyway I gotta find a way to change her outlook on me and want to be in a relationship with me again. And I thought I’d use some mones to aid (even though I had my own plan not involving mones) . She’s about 5’4, african american 20 years old (older than me by a couple weeks) . From the country in her hometown . She’s very faithful . A baptist. I mean Church and God are like her most favorite things. She’s real mature too . And I feel safe to say this since I’m not giving out her name, she also has a nymph-like sex drive.

But anyway, if using mones, I was thinking IH ? I just had a small convo recently about a housing issue . (like 10 secs, I knew she was on her way to Bible Study . We used to go together before I got my work hours changed) . I don’t know if girls lose physical attraction in a guy if he’s broken up with them . But I’m guessing they do so some Ammo might help out. Maybe some IO just to help the convo as well . Anything else ?

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First off sorry you are in that situation. I am in the reverse. I was the one dumped because my girlfriend said she didn’t have enough time for me and actually reading your post made me think it’s possible she was being honest and truthful and that maybe one day like you she will change her mind about the situation.

But anyway, the way to attract an EX is the same way to attract any girl really. Confidence is key. Because of this I recommend A314, but if it is a bit out of your price range Ammo will do nicely. You can’t approach her and mention the old relationship at all, she will get defensive about it. You need to start getting into a social situation with her and talk to her like she is an old friend, not an old girlfriend that is a big no no. You need to basically trigger the original attraction she felt for you so be cool, confident, charming even.

Being an Ex you have an advantage because you already built a comfort with each other so it is just a matter of rediscovering this. So mones wise I would use Ammo, IH, and maybe some IS. For the Ammo and IH I recommend a 3:1 ratio. 3 sprays of IH for every 1 spray of Ammo. IS just use as you normally would. Talk to her about how she is doing, really listen and show you are interested in what she has to say, if she is even willing to see you to begin with cause you have to understand you broke her heart a year ago she might have moved on that is why it is important to keep it casual. Get together for a cup of coffee, hang out for 1 to 2 hours max then go your separate ways. If things go well she might ask what you are doing after coffee. It may take a few casual coffee gatherings, that you must space a part so you don’t make your intentions clear. But then say something like, I need to get a new shirt, want to go to the mall with me.

While with her shopping you must re establish your rapport. Tease her, but in a playful way not in a hurtful way, like wait until she says or does something silly and call her a dork or a nerd, then give her a gentle playful shove. Kino is a very powerful tool if used correctly, and since you already dated her it might bring back more of the positive memories of the last time you touched her like that in a playful way it will make her feel good. I do not know the specifics of your relationship so I have no idea if this will be effective for you, but like I said reconnecting with your ex is the same thing as connecting with a new girl with a bit of an advantage again depending entirely on the fact of how you made her feel when you broke up with her to begin with and how much progress she has made in the healing process.

So keep it casual, don’t take her to a dinner or a movie, too date like, coffee is short and neutral. See how it goes from there and act accordingly you will know your situation better than I do so you yourself must be the one who decides what course is best to take.

Ammo, IH, and IS show her you are cool, confident, but you can still be serious and have a meaningful conversation, but keep the vibe fun and happy with the IS so she connects the happy feelings to being in your presence again. Good luck!

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I totally did not realize using IS would help like that. I kind of did something last night which may not have been a good move. I temporarily blocked all my fb friends from seeing my status updates except for her and then I was just posting statuses about how I don’t feel the post-breakup effects til a yr later and how I still care and I threw in some of the good times we had . It was a toss up though because I never used her name but if she was reading them she could have figured it out that I was talking about her. I did it while she was online . I know facebook nowadays does the live feed thing so I probably did catch her attention with continuous updates .

But anyway, I was just gonna fb msg her (like we met the first time) and just casually start bringing in some of the good times we had (being careful not to use terms like “girlfriend” and “relationship”) . I was even gonna do like a re-run and of our very first convo (well me saying things I said to her the first time we met) . Sound good ?

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Stay cool and calm, we all slip up sometimes do not let it get to your head. An opening in conversation does have to happen in order to get the ball rolling. But like I said you should keep it short and sweet. Do not come off as needy or give her the impression you are only contacting her to get back together with her girls tend not to like that so much. Obviously being that you haven’t spent much time together lately an electronic communication is the best way to do it. You should keep it short though, sending a long winded message may be tempting but seeing a wall of text in her facebook might make her feel intimidated. Try with something short, stay cool, confident, and friendly. Keep it simple. See what happens from there, you are the prize my friend always remember that! In the end though you know this girl better than me so do what you feel is right, don’t get too nervous and don’t let it control your thoughts. Stay cool!

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Yeah I messaged her on facebook and we seem to be sending messages back and forth now. Well at least I know she won’t ignore me anymore . lol . For some reason though I think that just making her remember our time together will do the job (Of course I’ll do it in a way for her to not realize what I’m doing) . I figure’d if the time that we were in a relationship meant anything, then she won’t fight the urge (or at least not for long) .

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Well I am glad to hear that, Good Luck!

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I’m not an expert, but perhaps tuth and A1 would be a good combo here?

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wow, i actually just broke up too. this sure relates a lot… like, 2-3 mths back.. a fun, happy r/s of 2 years.. working my way to get her back too. wondering if pheromones can help somehow.

guilty as charged! i came here trying to win my love back~! ='(
coz we do not hate each other. no 3rd party. really healthy.. she just got.. tired. emotionally i guessed. maybe i wasnt appreciative enough i dont know.
shrugs

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Mones are not going to help if you spend all your time texting back and forth. I do hope you see her here and there.

It doesnt sound like the break up was a volitile one. I would just be honest with her. Dont jump right in and say I am in love with you but ease into the subject like your doing now, rebuild that connection then when the time is right tell her how you felt during the time you were together before. Its all in how you say it.

For example…

Dont say I felt pressured, was to busy for you and lost interest.

Say I “my life was so pressured and I couldnt give you or anyone the time you deserved”

The key is in how you say things not in what you say.

As far as the mones start with IH and Ishine and work up to the masculine sexual mones once the trust and connection is rebuilt.

Tisha

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hope I don’t bother the thread starter by asking a question here, seems to me its the most appropriate thread to. delete if u must. =)

i’m trying to get my ex back by gettin back to how i was attracted to her. we started of very.. erm. sexual. it gets comfortable, then she told me herself there’s some kinda smell i give that makes her feel protected and safe. that nothin will go wrong.

any mones that help with this?

thx!

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Thanks Tisha but I kinda broke too early before I saw this . I sent her a long msg about how I felt now (would have told her in person but I didn’t have the chance) . So the damage has been done . I’ve found out that if I had came back a few months after we broke up I had a better chance but she told me she went to counseling and erased the romantic feelings out of her head . Also said that all I saw in her was sex . I didn’t mean for that to be the case cause really we didn’t have sex but there was a lot of mutual masturbation. I know she said the counselor erased them but if she remembers them then they are still there if it’s a little bit . So I guess I gotta start over huh ?

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Well yesterday she invited me over to her room and it was supposed to be for a little while but I ended up staying over for about a good 6 hours and then we went to go get some food once we were near our dorms we parted ways as we had things to take care of since it was sunday night and school was the next day . It went kinda well . She’s told me how she has lowered her sex urges down to “normal” . There were some spots in the convo that sex would have came up but she would just cut off there with like “oh nevermind.” and i would help her by going into something else .

Anyway, it wasn’t til just now that I’m at work did I realize she was giving me some IOIs . I checked the master list .

Also when I was home I asked her if she could “smell me” (didnt tell her i was wearing mones) and she said no . I had 2 shots of IH to the neck one on each side . (my fav area to apply cologne) and some IS on my wrists and two shots in the hair but she didnt smell it? It was just me and her in the room . She had even cut the heat on so that sped up diffusion . Do others not smell socials once you’ve sprayed them on you ?

But anyway, some of the IOIs i noticed was her playing with her hair whn talking to me . a lot of smiling while doing it too . She showed some skin around her belly button while she was laying on the bed and I tried to keep eye contact as i could see it outside my peripherals wondering if she was going to pull it down but she eventually did . Idt I’ve ever witnessed IOIs happening to me . What am I supposed to do now ? lol .

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This just says A314 and a little TUTH to me. Maybe with some IH?

But don’t be too safe and protective around her - Get a bit of excitement in there too! :wink:

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I can’t really comment on the pheromone side of things. I’m not really experienced enough to give you a responsible opinion. However pheromones aside, just through reading this thread you are definitely coming across way too strong. There will be a time and place you guys can lay down and talk about past mistakes, but it is not right now.

Put yourself in her shoes, if some girl you use to date all of a sudden pops back in your life, you know her intentions aren’t to be buddies. The circumstance itself is almost fighting you. And if she KNOWS she can have you any time, she’s going to think about it… for a long time. She’ll try out other guys, after all you’ll be the back-up plan. You need to give her a sense of urgency, and ideally get her chasing you! Not the way it is now. When you’re around her, fool yourself into being in the mindset that “it doesn’t matter if you get her back”. Maybe talk about some female friends hitting on you to arouse some jealousy. Don’t confuse what I just said for being an asshole, but be a bit of a rockstar.

I hope for the best for you dude! I’ve been successful at this a few times so thought I’d give you my 2 cents. I’m pretty confident that you can do it, just don’t be too desperate. The pheromones will help for sure.

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was thinking that too.. hmm. i think im gonna get IG and IO next first. i seem to prefer IG effects than A314.

Thanks for the suggestion! =D

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Snort. counseling cant do that. Counseling can examine feelings thus changing them but not erase them. If those feelings were real they are still there.

Since you didnt have sex that statement cant be true can it ? Thats her fear talking. She is afraid all you saw her as was a sex object. Someone burned her.

Your gotta reprogram her. Use connection comfort and trust mones first and rebuild that.

I suggest mixes like A314 or IG, IH Ishine and A1

Hold off on the sexual mones and the aggressive masculines until you rebuild for a while.

She is probably testing you a bit. Mentioning sex, throwing some obvious IOIs your way like showing some skin. She is trying to see if your just back for sex or if your interest lies deeper. Resist the sex (not forever) but until it begins to dawn on her that “hey he really is interested in more then sex”. Make sure you spend some time doing things in places where sex would not be a option to.

Tisha

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I had a feeling that she was BS’ing about the feelings being erased . I mean she did go though, for several months . I was thinking they are just dormant . About the mones though, she said she didn’t smell them even though I combined IH and IS and at least 2 sprays of each. What’s up with that ?

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1.) It would all depend on what kind of counselling she received. They’re many fields of belief in psychology. Some psychologists would try to alter her state of mind or alter behavior, others would teach coping with the existing feelings/behavior. Some treat the symptom as the problem and some treat the symptom as a symptom to a much deeper rooted problem. I wouldn’t call bullshit on her.

2.) I’m under my impression it’s not the fragrance that creates the effect, I feel the pheromone is a little more subliminal than that. When I’ve worn mones the neroli scent vanishes in like 5 minutes, but I still get crazy hits. So if she can’t “smell it” I wouldn’t worry. Keep you eyes/ears open for IOIs.

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Hmm..that’s good to know too . It just hit me that valentine’s day is coming up and well, that’s a holiday I never got to experience with her . I have a few ideas on what to buy and I also have something from the heart I’m willing to try, I just need to narrow it down . lol .

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So I’ve found out that what is hindering any progress with this girl is the fact that when she thinks about us getting back together she keeps replaying the time when I broke her heart and all the therapy she went through . How do I get around this ?