So, one night I went into this girl’s room. I asked both the roommates if they wanted to go to a party with me (I was wearing the MAGICAL Ammo and IO).
One of them said yes. We went to the party, and danced with each other. We went back and learned that her roommate was sexiling her. The girl ended up staying the night in my room. Needless to say we hooked up, but didn’t have sex. My roommate was sleeping in the bed next to mine, and it felt awkward to both of us.
A couple of nights later, same exact thing happened. I told her my roommate leaves on weekends, and she exclaims, “So we’ll have the room to ourselves? I can finally rock your world!”
THEN the trouble starts. The girl REALLY likes me, talks to all her friends about me, how wonderful I am and how perfect I am and all that. I, too, have some feelings.
Friday comes along. My roommate has left. I go out with the girl, and she’s HAMMERED from pregaming with her girlfriends (to keep this a pheromone topic, I’m wearing Ammo and IO ALL the time).
On the way back to the dorm, I remind her my roommate is gone for the weekend. She tells me she’s way too drunk to function, and I should stop trying to tempt her (she says this FIRMLY).
We take a seat in front of the dorm together, a lot of people are there. 5 minutes later, a girl who’s been trying to ride me all year sits on the other side of me (well, more on my leg). She BEGS me to go to the dance with her, and she’ll make it worth my while afterwards. The girl I kinda like is still sitting on the other side of me. I finally get across to the other girl that I’m not going with her, maybe some other time.
The girl I like goes back to her dorm to sleep. Her friend tells me, “Whatever you want with her, tell me, I’ll make it happen.” I’m honest, tell her I don’t know how far I want the relationship to go right now, but I was a little troubled that we didn’t do anything that night. She got a text from the girl I like a couple of minutes later saying “I don’t want to be with him when I’m drunk, only when I’m sober.” To me, that’s respectful.
Saturday night comes, her night ends early, she’s not feeling well, she goes to bed early.
Now, last year this girl came off a 8 month relationship, her ex was cheating on her. She’s afraid of commitment because she’s afraid of getting hurt again.
I see less and less of her starting that weekend. Never asking me to help her with math, never finding excuses to hang out with me, I get nervous.
Her roommate tells me in her tutor session (I’m her math tutor) that I’m doing a good job, but I should make myself ‘less available.’ I asked her other friend who was trying to hook us up what that meant. She forwarded the text to the girl I like. She gets upset at her roommate for saying anything at all.
When I ask her what it meant, she just said “I feel like you are in my room, and I feel bad cuz I wanna hang out with you but I always have a lot of homework.”
I don’t visit her or even talk to her for 2 days. Then I text her asking her I wanted to talk to her face2face about what’s going on, and where we are.
That talk JUST happened. She told me that it was very unlike a guy to be as nice as me, and she really appreciated that. She told me she was taking a step back b/c she just met me a month ago, and already emotions are involved, and she’s very weary because of her last relationship. She told me that ‘when we hangout, we can see where we are going.’ I told her if there are any emotions, then she shouldn’t try and hide them or be afraid of them. She said that’s exactly what she was going to do, even though she knew it wasn’t right.
I also asked her if I was exclusive or not, because it felt right that I was, and she told me to have fun, hookup w/ other girls and don’t think anything of it. She gave me the green light, and I told her ‘I don’t want you to say that and not mean it.’ She told me if she didn’t want me hooking up w/ anyone else, she’d tell me. Honestly, if I heard she hooked up with another guy, I’d be pissed, so I feel wrong hooking up with another girl at this point. Then again, I’d see it as a DEFINITE green light if she hooks up w/ another guy.
She likes to party at the frat I’m going to be a part of. At this point, I guess it’s a waiting game for when we are at the same party.
I was wearing IH and Ammo during the talk. Body language I read was she was making little eye contact, arms were folded and legs were close to her body (it was outdoors and cold out though).
Lemme hear your 2 cents? I honestly don’t know my next move. I don’t even know if it’s OK to try and chill with her tomorrow, or even talk to her. I don’t know if it’s OK to fuck another girl. Let me know what you think, guys.
I know a lot of you guys are going to say “Your in college. And a frat. Get as much tail as you can.” I like this girl, and she likes me, she’s just afraid of commitment. Keep that in mind.
