Happy Belated Birthday to Me

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Just turned 18 last Friday! WOOT! WOOT!
Been WAY busy w/ school work, no time to post on here :frowning:
Should be studying for a test, but I’ll post anyways!

There is this girl that sits in front of me in a class (a 2 period class) and she’s on my team (meaning EVERY group project, she works w/ me, comes to my house to work on projects w/ the other 2 kids on the team, etc.)

WELL, this girl isn’t very promiscuous, EXTREMELY straightedge, and a hardcore Christian white girl. She has a boyfriend, goes to a different school 15 min. away, a year younger, and, from what I understand, they RARELY see each other.

Well, this girl was OBVIOUSLY flirting with me last Tuesday, it was obvious she liked me, other people even noticed. (BTW, wearing a drop of A314 on wrists and spread to back of neck, Instant Shine 4X MX289 on top of head, and a spray each of IH on each arm crank. Covered up w/ 4 sprays of Abercrombie Fierce. Chicks dig that) Her one friend asked me if I liked her because I apparently made it obvious, so I told the truth and said ‘yeah, but keep it on the DL.’

She goes ahead and Facebooks messages the girl. Then, I missed school for a week (Wednesday, McCain rally, Thursday, school was off for Yom Kippur, Friday, skipped cuz it was a pep rally and my bday, then Monday cuz of Columbus Day).

Apparently that Wednesday, when we had team time, the topic of discussion was I like this girl. Now, she OBVIOUSLY doesn’t like me, I confronted her friend (which, btw, I THOUGHT was my friend), and she said ‘she couldn’t hide anything from her best friends even if she tried. Also, don’t try and breakup her relationship cuz they are SOOOO cute and VERYYYY adorable together.’

Now, she doesn’t like me. The other girl in my group, who insists she didn’t say anything even though the other girl says she did, tells me ‘not to worry. She probably still has a major crush on me.’

The girl then put up a picture of her and her boyfriend from HC dance (of course I didn’t go. The girl I was supposed to go w/, from another school, had twirling in a Halloween parade) The picture, I felt, was like saying F U to my face.

I kinda made it obvious that I liked her too cuz I invited her to campout w/ me and a couple of friends to go to the McCain rally, but it was on too short notice.

Thoughts?

I think I should keep doing what I’m doing. It worked before. Although I am trying HARD to dismiss this whole liking her as a big fat rumor.

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Hey happy birthday, you’re officially responsible for everything/one you do now. :wink:

Let’s see, thoughts? It sucks that the girl couldn’t keep a secret. It’s happened to me too, which is why I’m careful about who I tell what now. It’s a fact, girls talk amongst themselves, hasn’t a fellow guy told you something none of the girls would confess to? She could hide something from her friend if she really wanted to, she’s just not ready to take responsibility for her own actions – I guess she isn’t 18 yet? :stuck_out_tongue:

As for the girl herself, I say leave her alone. She’s got a bf. I don’t think that’s much more clear, and I’m not sure why you feel like it’s a big ‘fuck you’ to your face that she put up a picture of her and her bf.

It’s not like you had a fling with her and she told you that you were her one and only love. Or that she’d promise to break up with him tomorrow. Yes, she flirted with you, yes, it probably was genuine, but no, it didn’t mean that much.

She might like you, but she won’t be dishonest with her bf either. I’d take the picture more as a preemptive ‘I’m already taken’ move, AKA she’s just making it crystal clear that she’s involved with someone.

Why dismiss your feelings for her? Are you ashamed of liking her? Are you ashamed of liking a girl that’s taken? Or is it deflating to your ego to know that someone you want to be with is unavailable (ie: A sense of defeat)?

I’m not exactly sure what it is you’re doing but if it’s trying to hook up with this girl, then I don’t think you should keep doing what you’re doing, JMO.

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I appreciate your opinion.
But, I think you have to know the girl to understand the situation.
She simply DOES NOT flirt. With anyone. And this was NOT playful flirting. The other girls at the table, I think, got a lil uncomfortable w/ me flirting w/ her.

I mean, you could be right, but this is a guy she met at camp in the summer, they NEVER see each other, and I see her an hour and a half a day minimum. When I talk, the girl clings to every word I say, pays FULL attention (sometimes, she pretends she doesn’t, but in the corner of her eye, she is looking RIGHT at me).
I also sit at another lunch table, big sausage fest. I yelled over her name, (and these guys have NO idea about me and her) and the one was like HOLY SHIT JOHN! DID YOU SEE THAT LOOK SHE GAVE YOU???
This girl, THE INSTANT I went on the computer, she would send me a Facebook message. Right away, no time to breathe.

IDK, even if it doesn’t really amount to anything, I still would like to have that back.
In the meantime, I’ll take your advice, be nice to her, but make it obvious ‘you got a bf, I’m not gonna end it for you.’

My problem: I only go after the girls that are hard to get. LOL

IDK, maybe I AM just refusing to see it like you do.

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ALSO, when I said keep doing what I’m doing, I mean being funny, being all wiseguy, cracking jokes. The girl laughs at the SIMPLEST things.

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dude ive had plenty of these. all you have to do is dont give a fuck ne more. itll just bring you down then youll feel like shit cuz its bringing you down.

this is what i do to those girls.

if they look at me ill just say wuts up.
if they get too close or some bullshit like that then be like dont get too close to me or something like that.

if they ignore you then dont give a fuck. works for me pretty well. youll get over it.

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not gonna lie, like ur style haha

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kool. reps for your bday

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Happy bday! I would say shes embarassed that everyone knows it, that it! She probably likes u alot from what u described, but dont want to ruin her reputation since people know she has a boyfriend.

Be discrete for people who are in relationship, but go for it let u friends know if the girl is more a carefree type whos not taken :slight_smile:

She is possibly trying as hard as u to make it sounds like a rumor, so her boyfriend wouldn’t find out. Just text her or messsage her privately, and maybe apologize for the trouble, or something like that

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I don’t think you’re refusing to see it like I do or anything like that.

I agree with you that she likes you. There’s no question about that, and that’s not what I was getting at.

I was just saying, why take it so personally? You know she already has a bf, and you’re surprised she puts up a picture of her with him? If you want your picture up there, you should probably date her, until then, her current boyfriend will probably be up there.

If you know she likes you more than her bf, then see what’s up, if she’s willing to leave him, that’s her choice. If she chooses you, then fuck the other fool. But it’s on her.

In the end, mockingbird’s got it right, it’s probably a defensive maneuver to make sure no one’s calling her a ho behind her back or some other stupid ‘he said, she said’ bs.

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She’s no longer AS flirty, but she’s acting much nicer now. She also took off that horrible profile picture.

I do have a BAD ego, but I don’t see the relationship lasting too long. She’ll be mine before Christmas!

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Good luck to you and Happy Birthday!:slight_smile:

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Today, my team (consisting of another guy, another girl, and this girl that I’m absolutely crazy for) came to my house to work on a project. We worked from 4-11. I had on a BIG drop of A314, 2 sprays IFM, and 1 spray IS 4X. Covered w/ 2 sprays Fierce. At first, the girl just seemed like she was just trying to be nice, but I was just playing around w/ her, throwing my arm around her and such, and she was like “PLEASE STOP TOUCHING ME.”

Later on in the night, she was upset because she also had a physics formal lab to do, and had no work to base it off of. I took the class last year, so I got on the phone with one of my friends, and he emailed me his 98% A lab from last year. Being all prim and proper, she said she would still type her own, but make it based off his, and was EXTREMELY thankful.

We had to make A LOT of copies at Weis Markets, and we were standing there, tired, so I asked her to lean on me, I’ll lean on her, and I put my arm around her, and she was VERY accepting of this. She then asked the other girl to “go get ribbon with her” for the project. Her and the other girl aren’t exactly best friends, just acquaintances, so I thought that was a little strange, but I could be seeing into it too much.

Still standing by what I said, I’ll have her by Christmas.

Thoughts?

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Thoughts? Sounds like you’re pushing it.

But hey, she might be playing hard to get…I’m not her.

There is something to be said for perseverance I guess.

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yeah, i agree with Phya, It seems like you are pushing it. I’ve never been one to care about whether people are in relationships or not. relationships are not a promise, married? yes, relationship no. so I’m rooting for you. It sounds like you might be good together, but you have to realize that if she knows you like her too much she’s going to pull away. it really seems that she thinks this way.

in this situation things that have helped me.

  1. the silent treatment, make her miss you, and make sure she knows its because of the way she acted.
  2. jealousy plotline, ups your status and you become the target.(worst case scenario, you end up boinking the new girl.)
  3. alcohol and turn up the heat. (this one is a little unethical, but i’m just saying what works)
  4. finding other girls in general

happy bday, and i like your persistence.

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HAHA I like this “fuck her and move on” attitude LOL
Just wish it were that easy.

I heard her boyfriend is a MAJOR pussy, and I’m a pretty tough dude.
I guess it wouldn’t say much for me if I did date her.
Apparently all the past dudes she has liked have all been pussies.

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And apparently I’ve been the ‘mellowest’ out of all my ex’s exs. I still rocked her world. She never had an orgasm during sex until we got together. Not saying that says much about me (doesn’t say much about them though..), but it’s worth noting that the ‘pussiest’ of all her exs gave her the best sex.

The funny part about that? If you met me, I don’t think ‘pussy’ would come to mind..

I wouldn’t worry so much about who she has dated, might want to date, or hasn’t dated (as the case may be). Worry about yourself and whether or not you’re dating her.

Hell, maybe she’s into pussies, in which case, it sounds like you’re outta luck tough guy. If that’s the case, be a tough guy, say fuck it and move on. Shouldn’t hurt much, right?