Your problem my friend is with dry scalp…well not really but it IS still flaking.
A couple of things about that, usually when a girl shows IOI’s and gives out her number it’s because her buying temperature is ramped up…it’s state based. Look at it like this.
It’s Saturday night, she’s got her makeup on, skirt so short she’s one sneeze away from showing the world her natural hair color, top cut so low you can yell “damn you got great cleavage” at her tits and hear “damn you got great cleavage eavage vage” echo back at you. The lights are flashing and the music is thumping and she’s likely got a few drinks her…now imagine her head space. You get the number.
Fast forward, her hairs a mess, no makeup, likely in sweats eating ice cream out of the carton while watching tv and trying to balance her checkbook…what’s her head space now? You’re “the club guy” or whatever.
Even if you’re not at a club, the point is valid…you can build attraction and score a number, that’s actually pretty easy but by the time you get around to using it she’s been thinking “what do I really know about this guy? I can’t believe I gave him my number” her antislut defense kicks in and she ignores your messages. Assuming she even gave you her real number to begin with.
To get around it you have to make sure your game is well rounded. Do NOT ask for the number to soon, and ideally you should try to make her bring up the issue of exchanging numbers anyway.
Four things you should try to do before asking for the number.
Grounded value. This is usually done during comfort. Storytelling that flips the attraction switches. She needs to see you as a real person and not “that guy I met at such and such club” This actually means letting her buying temperature cool off and take her OUT of state. Unless you plan on closing right away, you don’t want her all ramped up when you leave and some other guy comes along. You need to convey your value beyond some cute guy, fun guy etc.
Investment via compliance. The more hoops you can get her to jump through the more likely she is to actually accept/return your calls…she’s invested at this point and not seeing you again makes all the hoops she jumped through..a waste of her time.
Screening questions, and compliance testing is the best way to do this.
Future pacing. After attraction is established, lead her around and introduce her to your friends, even total strangers. Say stuff like “hey guys congratulate us this is my new fiance” if she protests laugh it off and say “she’s just mad because she made me promise not to tell anyone…don’t we look good together?” Or talk jokingly about what kind of gift you should bring her dad when you meet him for the first time.
These should be done playfully enough that she knows you’re not a crazy stalker type…but it plants the seed about a hypothetical future with the two of you together that will bounce around in the back of her mind. If you’ve demonstrated enough attractive qualities she’ll think to herself “hmmm we DO look kinda good together” “I wonder if my dad would actually like him”
Intrigue, with any stories..hell even a joke or two, leave one hanging and unresolved, an element of curiosity to give her a reason to take that call when you make it.
So yeah, an unresolved story to leave her intrigued and wanting to know more, a seed about a possible future with you as opposed to the heat of the now moment guy, investment because she doesn’t want to have actually paid for your drink and have it be for nothing, and some quiet comfort building where you establish yourself as a real and down to earth person.
That should eliminate the flakes and the itchiness that comes with them…if all else fails try Head and Shoulders.
