How do you advertise "availability"?

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How do you advertise “availability”?

This thread is open to men and women of any and all age groups.

I’ve had a couple of related questions pop up on occasion and figure it’s about time to get them out there and see what the rest of the world thinks.

If you are single and/or otherwise “Available” (for dating, relationsips, etc.):

A) how do you go about “advertising” that you are “available” to others?

and conversly

B) what do you look for in others that would possibly indicate that they are “available”?

Okay, yeah, you could just go up and ask, or wear a big sign on saying “here I am Baby!” but let’s go with the idea that, well, face it, some of us would rather have a hint or give a hint rather than waste our time. Grease the wheels so to speak.

This is somwhat “age-related” and situation-related IMO by the way. It’s usually safe for most to assume that if you are under age 25 and/or in high-school or college you’re “avaialble/single.” But it gets more difficult as you get older. It’s often assumed for example that people in their 30’s are “spoken for.” The older you get (up to a point) the more difficult it gets. In a single’s bar or single’s dance you can assume everyone is game. In the aisles of WalMart… well, who knows? (I remember some grocery store used to have a deal where you could tie a red ribbon on your cart/trolly to announce your “singleness.”)

So, what do you do to say “I’m available?” Or what do you look for in another person? I’m looking primarily for non-verbal cues, but let’s hear anything…

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I try to see if I can see a ring on the woman’s fingers… if she doesn’t have one that means she MAY be available.
Then if I’m interested I flirt a bit, smiling at her, seeing her reaction.
That’s what I do.

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Good idea Phoenix. Thats what I usually do is look at her hand for any indication of rings. Then again of course I take notice if she’s with any guys.

Other than that I present myself as attractive and I give her a look to get her attention to see how she looks at me. Depending on if I see a spark of interest in her eye I’ll say something. Even so, I’ll say something anyway if I find her attractive and see if that generates a spark. Mostly though, unless she is attracted you for some reason like your looks or because you are doing something interesting you are just going to have to say something to her to make attraction.

My method mostly involves just simply invading the persons space with my presence enough to help attraction (generate tension) and then I just help it along with some conversation. Really though… you are a “guy,” and women tend to think along the lines of “I know why he is looking at me.” SO JUST take advantage of that and be alittle obvious (not too much) by using eye contact, perhaps alittle body language and just give her a look of interest. Do this long enough to generate tension, and then say something.

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I do that too, I forgot to write it.

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women wear rings on their “ring finger” to discourage guys, too. They walk around with male friends, brothers, and other guys they’re not involved with. The best way to advertise your availability IMHO is to make overtures of interest.

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Some women wear rings on other fingers. I’m not sure I understand why.
There’s a woman I really think I’ll ask her out next week, next time I see her…looks like she’s interested, she looks at me with those eyes.. yes I’m using pheromones whenever I’ve met her.

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Bumping this thread up.

Summer is coming to those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, and I need to start getting my ducks in a row for the Grand Experiements and Hot Times.

So, I want to see if any of our forum members have come up with any observations/ideas over the past months. How about some of you newer members? What do you do to signal to the crowd that you are a hot prospect?

Oh, and something other than a T-Shirt that reads “Free Kisses - Line Forms Here” or “Wanna smell me?” or the like…

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hmm.

i frankly never thought to signal the crowd. novel idea tho.

I know when i’m out and about in places where i don’t mind getting hit on, i use good old fashioned T&A. Sometimes one, sometimes the other. tried that at the gym once tho - bad move.

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i only know that for a girl,
copulins say im available EVEN WITH A WEDDING RING ON,LOL!!!:open_mouth:

apparently so does an OD of instant sexiness.
shoot, they dont even care if THEIR available! :angry:

now if a guy is wearing Ammo, to ME he comes off as a playa.

the scent makes me think of sex and if he’s taken then im thinking he’s not serious because he’s advertising “look how i make you feel”.

with a congruent smile , im pretty sure gals will take the hint.

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hey Rbt. telling girls about crazy things that happened (‘so I was out on a date shopping for a hat with this girl and I look up and see this panda bear’) seems to work better than advertising directly one’s availability…

whats your target bracket?

imo when you flirt with someone without an agenda it doesnt really matter. if she has some cool qualities but is very not single, chances are she will have friends with similar qualities who are available…

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what happened? :open_mouth:

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I just smiled and got a great smile back from a girl… too bad nothing came out of it though..

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Haha - well normally in the gym, I wear long loose t-shirts, and yoga pants - it’s easier to have fluidity of movement, and more comfortable when your squatting or deadlifting or whatever. Well one day, I decided I’d wear a little tanktop, with my yoga pants instead. I must have been ovulating that day or soemthing, because it was so out of the ordinary. At the time I had a trainer, and we were doing our session. And one of his trainer friends came over, and pretty much hung around the entire session with a goofy grin on his face, offering to help with spotting and giving tips and basically distracting the entire session. It wound up being a worthless workout, because he was just in the way.

Not to mention this chatty group of dudes formed when I was benching. And of course my PT (who was a good friend of mine), was just like “maybe if you put those things away we could get stuff done. Don’t wear some sort of asspants when we deadlift tomorrow ok? jesus - are you here to train, or pickup?”

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I flirt with every girl everywhere. It doesn’t even matter if I’m interested or not, it just reaffirms my self as confident happy guy.

Just yesterday I went to a clothes store to add to my summer wardrobe and I flirted with the sales girl the whole time. I accused her of groping me when she was checking the fit of my jeans. She loved it and I ended up saving $75 when she gave me the employee discount.

It’s fun and adds flavor to your day.

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I like to flirt with girls too but usually I do it to try and show that I’m interested…

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I normaly try it start conversations, friendly flirting, a neg or to,but joking negs, not the “oh hey I like your shirt. It seems to be in style. I’ve seen a few of those lately” that kind of neg is to much of a put down.

I remeber a good neg Steveo used. He told the quiky mart girl that he wasn’t a piece of meet and he doesn’t come in much because she’s always checking out his ass. Something like that.

The best way IMO is like this guy, but with a different sign. Max exposure to potential targets.

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Easy peasy lemon squeazy…

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Oh yeah, and this one killer point. Always know what you are talking about and know it one level deeper than you talk about it, preferably two levels. Never talk about stuff you don’t know as if you do know. Or preface any subject with “this isn’t my specialty, and I may not be entirely correct in saying this”… nothing beat self aware humility, because you get a reputation for being truthful and reflective… this will ultimately distinguish you from the ocean of blatherers and half truth spewing pseudo-authorities. Like Mark McCormack

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so wisely expressed it, always undersell and overdeliver. If you can do this, you’re far ahead of the pack.

Oh, by the way, people aren’t as dumb as they often look. They’ve frequently learned that their survival depends on playing dumb, or in the case of women, the simple bimbo… you might be amazed at what you learn, hear, discover when someone opens up to you.

OTOH, other people are a lot emptier than they appear.. because in many positions in life, surprisingly many senior positions, one has reached the age and staus where one cannot afford to be conscious.

Meaning, you have to be well attuned to the subtle messages and nuances at all times, don’t take the surface impression for the full story…

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another tacitus special, every mouthful packed with insight…

bodywork, Glauberman, Nova Pro and Meisner… how else to improve ones’ consciousness?

what are your thoughts on fillings and cosmetic dental treatments/replacements? seems like choice between vanity and poisoning in some cases.

so true…