Well i certainly agree that women are generally much more aware of their body language and the attention they get than guys.Animals exhibit flirting signals too of course.In fact body language itself is instinctive and is part of our animal past.
Ok later on we reflect on those cues and ioi’s because thats what humans do, books are written and all that…but those ioi’s cant be genuinely FAKED no matter how much we know about them.There are too many nuances that come with them.
You would have to be the greatest actor ever to do it…and even then i don’t know.
I mean how can you with volition dilate your pupils lol
Casanova i do believe you gotta act as if you have free will lol
I hate it when a woman gives many flirting indications, words and lots of stuff, then when I try to get her number she acts dumb.. like she doesn’t know why I tried to get it ..
I think some girls learn that flirting keeps a mans attention.
Iv noticed this again and again and its generally a fun experience.The problem comes when you attempt to take it further lol
Well u watch some teenage love story movie and see how two people fall in love.When u watch the movie do you think “They don’t look in love, it doesn’t look real”.Well maybe there are some low budget movies with bad actors for witch u can think that but all good productions and best actors just play the real thing.
That’s what acting is all about.Acting is to forget your personality as sick from schizophrenia man and just behave and think like your character.
I don’t say that it’s easy.I’ve studied acting and will continue to study in future so I know how hard is it to play some character as to be compleatly persuasive to others but that is the ultimate way to acieve your goals when it comes to seduce women.And adding pheromones to this makes everythinkg you act to be percieved deeply so chances of success increase drasticlly.But without making the effort of learning how to act u cannot turn into a guy who can have every girl, everitime, verywhere.That is because every single girl likes some type of guy and to fit in her category and be liked u have to be that kind of guy.So if u lamishly try to pretend it will be even worse.But if u have acting skills and act it it’s another thing.The key think in acting is you to believe that you actually are your character.That’s why sometimes actors with weak mentality can get sick from schizophrenia just from the fact that they change their personality too many times and it leads to a personality crisis.
Hmmm… often times a women will flirt with a man who obviously likes her for either the attention or hoping for free stuff.
If things are going well and your getting flirts and IoI’s try reaching across the table or whatever towards her direction and grab something like a drink, if she leans away or recoils you know you need to make her attracted, but if she doesn’t react to it or leans towards it then its a good sign of interest and you should make a point to touch her on the shoulder or grab her hand or touch her knee while saying something and then take it back, we call this a Kino test
She passes the test if she re-initiates the kino and touches you back
Passing the test means its time to start escalating your kino, if she not only allowed you to touch her without any resistance you can move on to being more playful and more kino
Tickle her a little, some girls love using this as an excuse to run towards you instead of away and a lot of times they will press up against you and you can give them a hug
Yeah some actors are pretty believable all right! I know what you mean but how many takes are there to get it right.You on the other have to get it right every time lol
What im getting at is ioi’s come in groups or clusters including subtle eye and facial changes.These ioi’s are often instinctively registered as they are in the animal world.Less so by most men more so by most women.
Now can you see how hard it would be to fake a real ioi
Personally I prefer to be real! i don’t want to be someone else just to get in some girls pants lol Besides i think that approach only has short term results …eventually the real you will emerge and the spell is broken!
…but perhaps a short fling is what your after Casanova and in that case keep practicing those acting skills man and go get em.I on the other hand am 40 and no longer interested in ephemeral affairs Iv had plenty of ons with all kinds of girls dancers, penthouse pets, waitresses, academics, musicians blah blah blah.
So now i don’t care about that lol i want to be myself.
Anyway im not single!..and my LTR is certainly cute and intelligent enough to keep my attention.
Well u’re right I am interrested mostly in One Night Stands and Short Term Relationships and perfecting the Casanova skills so to me acting is better for now.Afcourse for LTR to be natural is a MUST, I totally agree with you, but for now I am interrested in girls’ pants lol.
~00greena~ makes alot of sence. What you are writing is very easy to read as well. Bet you do pretty well.
This makes me think of a few things that I do during almost every interaction I have with “possible” women. I guess my approach is from the back side of this spectrum. No pun intended…
For the most part, i really cheat when it comes to making a determination about how much intrest a lady may have in me. I usually go through this process with every woman in a bar atmosphere.
!. Im pretty sure the the approach and introduction will have to come from my end. I spend a few minutes warming her up before I jump in with both feet. I am a constant bar looker(bartender, job hazzard. I see most girls before they enter the bar.) What I dont tell the guys that I am standing with, is that for the last 15 minutes that they have been talking about that cute blondie, I have been looking in her direction. I have already made light eye contact with her twice and held it on the third time for about 3 seconds. I flash a smile to her, she mirrors me. Hooked! never said a word. I now excuse my self from the guys, while explaining that I will be right back with her for them to meet. Look what happens now… man makes an obvios b-line for a group of girlfriends. Before I am half way there, they have all looked in my direction because blondie and already said that she was looking at a guy and then said. “Here comes THAT GUY”. Any other situation would have been, “here comes SOME GUY” I would rather be THAT GUY. Know what I mean?
2. I always just say what comes to my mind. I never really think of the words. I just try to relax and speak naturaly and confidently. no lines for me. But lightly funny is a must. I never introduce myself to her first. She is always the intro that I want to end on. The one that I am stuck with at the end of the social interaction. Look. Her friends now have spoke to you, and by this point like you because you did not walk up to the group and zero in on the obviously hotter one. And the connection is still there with only her. Then I say, Your friends are very nice, and If they dont mind, I would like to introduce you to one of mine. I ask the question to the blondie and look to her friends for the answer. They always say yes. I look to the blondie, smile, and say, Here, follow me. I assume the close. I just turn slowly and walk away. 5 steps later I glance over my sholder. There she is! ready for me to show off to the guys. The best part is.. If she doen not work out for ya. Her friends are there and are thinking that it was a bud of yours that wanted to meet her. Time to rejoin the group of ladies. They know that she will be fine over there. Rince and repeat. Love this shit man!!!
I’d like to add to this list from personal experience on how to tell if a woman is interested in you.
EYE CONTACT
Does she maintain good eye contact with you when the two of you are talking or does her attention seem to wander off in search of something–or someone–more interesting to her? A woman’s eyes communicate that she is attentive to you and also convey that she is “reading” you as a prospective partner.
BODY LANGUAGE
Does she lean forward when you’re talking? Does she slip her arm in yours when you’re out for a walk? Does her hand or arm accidentally brush against yours? Hundreds of books have been written on the topic of body language but the essence of all of them can be distilled to a single fact when it comes to sexual chemistry. Specifically, the more vulnerability or assertiveness a woman shows in terms of proximity or displaying her best assets, the higher likelihood she is trying to get you to pay closer attention to her.
LISTENING SKILLS
Does she remember the things you tell her?
COMPLIMENTS
If you happen to remark that red is your favorite color or if you compliment her on a different hairstyle, it’s a sure cue to her that you have noticed how she looks. If red suddenly seems to infiltrate the lady’s wardrobe or if she keeps that hairstyle as her new look, it’s a reciprocal cue to you that she wants to maintain whatever it is that has captivated you.
CURIOSITY
A woman who’s interested in you wants to know everything about you. She will quiz you about your family, your background, music, etc. What she’s doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can mimic your likes and dislikes in order to bond with you.
I don’t doubt that this may work wonders in your circle, but other people may be living in different cultures. If I am in a group of 10 nice, normal guys close to my age, I will be happy to get winks, eye contact and real compliments from all of them or at least 8. I will probably smile, flash my brows or wink back.
That does not mean I would want to be lovers or even just friends with all or any of them. Some people are great to exchange winks with but don’t have much to say in a conversation or may not be my type physically. It is just nice to have a fun, informal atmosphere and share normal human warmth with others. I’m a friendly, cheerful person who enjoys expressing that.
In my country a wink does not mean there will be a date and a date does not mean there will be sex. My family, my teachers and my bosses wink too, it just means, ‘Hey, let’s be playful for a sec!’ A date means ‘You seem interesting, let’s get to know each other a bit’.
There is no need to actively show people dislike by getting visibly upset or uneasy by a friendly gesture. I guess America’s laws on harassment and so strict because if a guy tells a girl she looks radiant and has a beautiful voice and can he pick her up for lunch, she can safely think he expects sex. In other countries a cigar may be just a cigar.
Now, body checks done blatantly, and actually sexual compliments are different. If a guy gave me a slow one over and said I looked sexy, I’d sure know what was on his mind. If an unattractive guy did that, I’d think ew and go elsewhere. If it was done by an attractive stranger, I would be on some level flattered, but also take distance. To me it would say he has shown his hand as a player who does not give a damn. In a friend who will never be more, I would just laugh it off and tell him I don’t feel that is in the cards. If it was a guy I had been seeing for some time and we has already kissed, I would think it was seductive and respond to it favourably. But still, it would just mean I am ready to enjoy the sexual tension, not that I would be ready to consume it.
I also often change my mind about guys. If you would ask me which guys I considered most attractive by first impression, I would pick the most handsome ones. Three weeks later, some of them may have said or done things that turned me off and other guys may do things that tune me in to that allure. Of course, if a guy looks bad or unhealthy, nothing he can do to attract me but an okay looking guy may turn out to attract me more than a handsome guy at times.
A common one i noticed is when a girl looks at you and then glances away repeating this step quite a bit. This is when you have not met a girl but is a trend i see that they are interested. Lol i guess it works both ways because when you look back then she thinks the same.
Something I didn’t see here… and if I missed it, forgive my oversight, please… is when a woman touches or caresses herself. Self touches can speak volumes.
Self caressing only means what I am saying here, however, when it is done in direct (albeit subconscious) response to a specific person, i.e. you. You can’t always be sure about that, so take it as a possible, and don’t decide you’re going to jump the gun.
If she caresses herself on the arm, it generally can be taken as a desire to be closer to you and perhaps even would like to touch or be touched by you in a somewhat tentative manner - holding hands, touching hands, or maybe light caressing of arms.
If she touches or caresses her lips, it suggests she’s thinking about kissing you, or what it would be like to kiss you.
If she caresses her face, she’s usually considering being romantic and possibly passionately so, with you.
If she touches or plays with her hair, it usually indicates interest and sometimes shyness or nervousness. The more obviously and frequently she touches her hair, and moves it around, the more she generally wants you to notice and respond to her.
If she caresses herself on the leg, especially the upper leg or inner thigh, it generally is a strong indicator of sexual interest and desire.
