need help dealing with this girl

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Hi guys,
i’m in some type of really small college of like only 80 people.
around 4.5 months ago this girl joined our college, she had a boyfriend back then. I was being really alpha next to her and i could tell she was really attracted to me, even though she was at a dead relationship. she told my friend that she feels like her relationship with her boyfriend is about to end, so i waited. (they were together for 1 year)
they broke up 2 months later. 2 weeks after their breakup there was lots of attraction between me and her and we ended up kissing one night.
the next day she told me “i really really wanted it but i just ended a 1 year relationship and im not ready”.
so i backed off and started talking to her less. its been almost 2 months since then, so i started flirting with her again, she responded to my texts but didnt initate things as before.
yesterday there was a party at a dance bar and i was wearing pheromones for the first time. not bragging but im a popular guy & most good looking in our group, so with the pheromones i felt like everyone wanted to talk to me and all the girls seemed really attracted to me. we didn’t really talk much at the bar but she noticed the attention i was getting from the everyone. i texted her on my way home and she seemed to respond good, so i said “lets watch that new miles teller movie in the theathers this weekend” and she said “im after a long relationship, im not interested in something right now”
so i told her “ok i respect that” and this is how the conversation ended.

how do i get her? i think the only solution is keeping contact to minimal for atleast 2 months.
any advice guys?
thank you and sry for my english.

cliffs
-new girl had a shitty relationship with her boyfriend.
-meets me
-they breakup
-we kiss 2 weeks later
-the next day she tells me "i really wanted it but i just got out of a 1 year relationship
-i started talking less with her
-its been almost 2 months since that
-yesterday there was a party at a dance bar,i wore pheromones for the first time, we didnt really talk much but she noticed the crazy attention i was getting from everyone, especially the girls

  • i text her on my way home and she responded good
  • i text her “lets watch that new miles teller movie in the theathers this weekend” and she said “you know im after a long relationship, im not interested in something right now”
    so i told her “ok i respect that” and this is how the conversation ended.
    -what do? i really want her
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I am no PUA but to me if I were in your shoes I would respect her opinion but at the same time letting her now that you are there for her and will be ready for a relationship when she is. Don’t push anything on her, let everything happen at her pace. If she is into you then she will eventually come around. Like I said keep contact with her in a friendly way, hinting that when she is ready then you are too.

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Ammo & IH. That is what you do.

Don’t push. She will make up her mind one way or the other in her own time.

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I’m also no PUA, but here goes anyway.

Darkearser, let’s look at what you said to her. You asked her to watch a movie with you. You weren’t asking her for a LTR. But in her mind she made several leaps ahead from a simple request to watch a movie all the way to a LTR full of drama, emotional conflict and eventual heartbreak.

Problem is that in your own mind, you weren’t asking her to see a movie. You were asking her for a LTR. So when she answered that way, you felt you had no choice but to tell her you respected her view. You felt like she called you out and exposed your secret plan.

You’re thinking way too far ahead. You should be checking out this girl much more carefully. Do you know why her previous relationship failed? Maybe it was her own fault, not the guy’s. Maybe she is toxic relationship material. Maybe she is not. But do you know? Do you know for sure? Maybe you should find out.

Asking her to a movie is one way to find out who she is and what went wrong in her previous relationship (but asking her questions is an even better way to find out). Most people don’t go to a movie for the first time and then suddenly start a LTR that lasts the rest of their lives.

Another good reason to ask someone to a movie is because you want to see the movie and would like to have some company. If you see a movie with a buddy, does that mean you want a LTR with him? No it doesn’t, so asking this girl to see a movie with you doesn’t automatically mean you want a LTR with her.

You should be calling her out for making too many assumptions. You could have answered, “Hey, I just wanted to see this movie and thought it might be fun to see it with you.”

If she reacts that way to being asked to see a movie, what would happen if you asked her to dinner? Does having dinner that mean you’re proposing marriage to her? Of course not.

With all due respect, right now you’re thinking with your dick and your emotions. Women think with their emotions. As a guy, you should be thinking with your brain, like a man who has mastery over himself.

Why do I say all these things? Because I’ve made exactly the same mistake as you have. Many times, in fact. But I’m trying to learn.

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I agree that she’s not in a place to consider another relationship just now.

And however hard you try to avoid expressing it, you are coming from a frame of wanting a relationship and she’s getting it in some ways - however, her telling you up-front is maybe her way of saying that whilst she’s not ready to pair-up again, she might be-up for some no-strings fun, so maybe reframe yourself and go for it without the pressure for anything and see what happens.

So step back for a bit, let her see you get more attention and expose her to your pheros if you can, then don’t do conventional date/early days stuff, offer fun instead and keep anything that happens in the moment, without any hint of commitment. Ideally you want to leave it so she comes back to you for a while.

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Don’t focus one girl specifically - keep a few girls in rotation. Focus on yourself, your mission, your plans.

So you plan on seeing some movie. Qualify one or more girls somehow (her behaviors, not her looks) which will result in you being willing to share a bit of time with her. She either meets you on your terms, or she doesn’t. If she doesn’t you just ask a different girl.

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I agree with the recommendations, since i don’t believe you are in for a long term relationship yet. :slight_smile:

The girl is hoping, wanting to be in a long term relationship, wanted to receive what she is willing and ready to give, so if you are not ready to reciprocate, scrap any plan to get into her pants. Otherwise you’ll resort eventually to cheap tactics and that’s not a good way to hunt.

But if you look at her as the girl of your dreams but you are not ready at the moment, keep her at bay as a special friend while you hunt on grounds she does not frequent. It’s not good to let her know you are a dude of many gals. You’ll just ruin any serious plans you have in store for her in the future. First impressions last, remember that.

Another thing, her being on a past shitty relationship does not make her a bad catch. Relationship is just like the highway. Even if you are the saint of driving, if the one on the other side is the devil, you will still end up in a head-on collision, sans you being at fault. :slight_smile:

Now if you really like her, like seriously. Respect her decision while keeping your presence around. Yeah, don’t push. She’s already eyeing you. What you have to do is to confirm to her that you are the man she wants. But you have to think this over. Serious relationships are for serious ones only, those ones who are qualified to celebrate 50 years of marriage. :stuck_out_tongue:

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I may sound like a broken record, but add some P96 you your mix. About 20mcgs work for me.

It not only smooths out what you are wearing, it also adds a bonding emotional connection that may make her accept the sexual vibes you are putting them out. May require multiple exposures, but a worthwhile effort IMO.

I used to use B- Nol blends to deepen things, but I found that the conversations used to get dark so to speak. The P96 makes me dreamy and connected.

I know the oils are out, but I have only used the sprays. I like the sprays because they hit fast and last longer for me when I lotion my skin than I see advertised.

Also, what do you say when she says she wants a relationship? I think she is testing you because maybe your signature and the female attention you are getting is causing a conflict for her. Again, I think that P96 will help, but your words will go along way in soothing her too.

Good luck.

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Dang we must really want to help this guy.. hehe.
Where’d he go??

Hey man, what’s up.. I am a PUA by the way.
Here’s the scoop.
She was heartbroken. You were there just in time. Then you backed off and she lost interest and just said what she said to be nice.

Here’s what you do. Surround yourself around her company in the friendliest way, never insinuating or evoking any advances for a relationship or anything sexual. Be friendly but not friendzone friendly, remain suave and smooth. Wear mones around her. Ammo, TAC, p96. Don’t back away but don’t smother either. Eventually she’ll be throwing herself at you.

Boom. Game over.

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She probably sees you as too much of a player. Always be friendly and social with everyone but make sure she sees you keep a certain distance to other girls when she is around.

Manwhores are not relationship material.