Here I lay back in my bed after my night out reporting slightly tipsy recalling another wonderful night out… First off thank you for all your suggestions on mixes this is what I decided on finally… 4 drops a314 3 on my neck 1 on the back of my hands, two sprays CTTM to my wrists, 30 mcg of P83 sprayed on my neck, 15 mcg P86 on the back of my neck, 4 sprays IS X2 to my head and to cap it off 2 sprays of a1 @ 12.5 mcg to the back of my hands…
The night started off as any other pre drinking at a friends house near by the bars I meet a couple new people for the first time there and am hamming it up like usual, I noticed the IS kicking in, I was saying mildly funny things but getting much more laughter then I expected… I leave this group early as more of the group meeting up were already at the club we were going to and I needed to help them get in without cover and waiting in line (I know the VIP host there). On my way I talk to the girl, who was my main target for the night, on the phone and she tells me that she can’t find parking and she is getting frustrated… she was dd for the night and she had convinced the people she was driving to come to that bar for a bit before she had to drive them to a birthday party going on elsewhere, no biggie I’m feelin like a million bucks her loss (I’ll be honest though I did end up drunk texting her in which I told her to prepare for a call tomorrow to make plans for tomorrow night… I will never ask a girl out to anything through a text). Now flash forward to the club, i meet up with my friends and we get our dance and drink on. One of the girls in the group, we will call her T, I have a strong connection with. Ever since we worked together we have been good friends a little flirty at times but have remained completely platonic… that is until last night. After a couple mins of talking she becomes very “aggressive” in dancing with me putting her hands in my pockets, grabbing my ass, smelling my neck , I ask her what she thinks of my “new” cologne she tells me with a huge sexy smile she love love loves it, she asks me what it is to which I tell her that its an experimental cologne that I “get” to test and have to get feedback from people on it… so she smells again and continues to grind like an animal on me!!! Okay so at this point I should mention that she is taken, and I’ve met and hung out with him many times… which makes me VERY VERY ashamed of what happened next… Out of no where T turns around and begins to start making out with me! It needs to be said that I was in no way trying to get anything to happen between us I value her friendship and never NEVER crossed the line with any girl that I know was taken I actually haven’t slept all night because I’m beyond dissapointed with myself… Back to the night, after dancing and kissing I walk her to her car (she was going to drive me back to my friends house where my car and stuff is at) things get even more hot and heavy at this point and I don’t need to go into any other detail other then I was shocked at how I was being basically ravished by this girl, she has always struck me as the type who wants to be lead and is never the aggressor and that was even backed up by her telling me this as well… but last night I didn’t have a chance to make a single move, I wonder if this is part of the effects of P83? But as amazing as the night was I feel like a HUGE piece of shit I should of never let her kiss me or continue to kiss back… it was however and we have already talked about this a one time thing between us that she said was a long time coming (I think I’m kinda dense… oops sorry Steve I should re frame that… I don’t think I’m very aware of these kinds of things).I’m not sure what the right thing to do in this situation is though any suggestions?
I can’t wait to start toying with my P83 next week at school.
If you’ve already talked about it than there isn’t much more to do. I would say move on and treat her just like you did before it happened. No use getting stuck on something that you can’t undo right?
First off, I’ve keyed into the fact that A314 + P83 can cause some very crazy reactions from women. I think that the combination of socials, coupled with the ALPHA male signal of A314, amplified by the the addition of P83+P86 definitely caused her to say “F&CK this, I want him NOOOOOW!!!”
Let me first ask this, do you WANT a relationship with this girl or do you want to keep your relationship friendly?
Second, call her or better yet speak to her IN PERSON (no texting) and dicsuss with her your future. Ask her point blank what her thoughts are and once the two of you have spilled the beans you both need to come to a conclusion about what you want to do. Maybe wear some Instant Honesty and some IFM/A1 for good measure.
She is in love with her man, and while she is all around an amazing girl (did I mention super sexy), I don’t want anything more intimate then a good friendship, and neither does she which makes things a little easier this whole thing was just a one time deal as crazy (and admittedly fantastic) as it was… we have talked this morning and agreed that staying friends would be the best thing to do. What I am worried about though is being around her and her man in the future… dunno if I should come clean to him or not say anything or what. that’s kinda the most awkward part, as I am sure he will be at future get togethers with her.
Well at least you’re BOTH certain it was a one time deal, so that’s over with. The thing is there are essentially two things you can do. The most obvious is of course to come clean and tell the guy what happened. It’s the most straightfoward approach but if he doesn’t take it well then who knows.
Option 2: you let it go and don’t mention it. However there are many, MANY ways this could turn either good or bad. One thing that might happen is they could break up (not because of what happened) but maybe for something else. If that happens you won’t have to worry about anything. HOWEVER, should they stay together and he finds out then…well once again who knows.
I’m sure some older posters here have some advice but this is the advice I give you: choose the path you want to take, and let it be a path YOU’VE chosen. Control your own destiny.
As Dr. Phil has famously put it: “you choose the behavior, you choose the consequences”…
That was one of life’s more pungent lessons I gradually learned as I went along. As my life unfolded, the medium term and long term benefits and costs of having certain attitudes, beliefs, standards, and approaches to this mysterious thing we call internal reality started to come into focus. Another way of putting it is everything has a price. Wisdom is knowing the true price of one’s choices. In one frame of reference, you might say that pheromones can accelerate the process of gaining wisdom, because they can take some part in making life unfold more quickly, and sometimes in highly unexpected directions…
This experience you had may be the foundation of a profound life lesson making itself available to you. How you wish to generalize that lesson to your total sense of yourself and your beliefs about your ethics will very much depend on how much you are willing to let it instruct you.
Another old saying has it: “good judgment comes from experience, experience comes from bad judgment”…
DO NOT MENTION IT TO HIM! You might loose him as a friend and cause a breakup with his girl; if she mentions it to him then you guys will need a heart to heart. Other then that … it didn’t happen … stay friends.
OOPS forgot … don’t wear this mix around her anymore!
I really appreciate all the input here… I can’t wait to wear this mix again (not around her of course) though it seemed to really vibe with me and my personality well… I’m chalking it up to you live and you learn, I’m not going to talk to him about it until she (if) tells him first and will be accoutable for my actions. Me and her are going to remain friends but I will not be hanging out with her until some time has passed.
I would not mention that evening in any way, and of course don’t tell her boyfriend!!
Just wait how things go on. If she is like before, just friends, all good.
If she goes on flirting with you or more you then it is time to talk!
Rule one if ya done teh deed… never kiss and tell. Look innocent, act surprised, show concern and deny deny deny. Women dont like men that tell all. Be like G Gordon Liddy… say nothing and keep on saying it.
Don’t mention it to him! It just happened. It wasn’t your brightest moment, but you are a human being and made a mistake. That’s what happens. Let it go my friend.
Continue socializing as IF nothing happened, and IF there’s a NEXT time … just let time do what it does. Putting women on the spot, normally, pushes them away.
Just MY thought on the sit-chation, and I’ve been wrong before.
, I ask her what she thinks of my “new” cologne she tells me with a huge sexy smile she love love loves it, she asks me what it is to which I tell her that its an experimental cologne that I “get” to test and have to get feedback from people on it… so she smells again and continues to grind like an animal on me!!! Okay so at this point I should mention that she is taken, and I’ve met and hung out with him many times… which makes me VERY VERY ashamed of what happened next… Out of no where T turns around and begins to start making out with me! It needs to be said that I was in no way trying to get anything to happen between us I value her friendship and never NEVER crossed the line with any girl that I know was taken I actually haven’t slept all night because I’m beyond dissapointed with myself… Back to the night, after dancing and kissing I walk her to her car (she was going to drive me back to my friends house where my car and stuff is at) things get even more hot and heavy at this point and I don’t need to go into any other detail other then I was shocked at how I was being basically ravished by this girl, she has always struck me as the type who wants to be lead and is never the aggressor and that was even backed up by her telling me this as well… but last night I didn’t have a chance to make a single move, I wonder if this is part of the effects of P83? But as amazing as the night was I feel like a HUGE piece of shit I should of never let her kiss me or continue to kiss back… it was however and we have already talked about this a one time thing between us that she said was a long time coming (I think I’m kinda dense… oops sorry Steve I should re frame that… I don’t think I’m very aware of these kinds of things).I’m not sure what the right thing to do in this situation is though any suggestions?
