Last saturday, i was at a closed party with some friends, some of my goons brought girls and there is this one in particular, who i really wanted, late at night she slept on me on the sofa while we were watching tv, so i sprayed some tuth at the bathroom came back and put my hand back on her while she slept on me, i asked her if she wanted to go somewhere more intimate, she accepted, i brought her to my friend’s bedroom, and slept on the bed, we started making out and had sex, for about an hour, but we got caught by her cousin (girl) and some other friends, and oh man she started crying, i felt soooo bad!She was a virgin and so innocent.She went outside, and called her sister to come and get her, her friends kept telling me it wasnt my fault but hers.I decided to call her last tuesday, she said she was scared because she didn’t know me enough or whatever…And i asked her if she was ok and if i had hurt her or something and told her that i wanted to see her soon.That never happened to me, but now i can’t stop thinking about her, i even told my friend about it yesterday.I think i love her but i dont want to tell her my feelings because its gonna be so akward, i only met her once, and dont want to look stupid for telling her.I want to call her so bad, but i dont know what to say. Guys please help me, damn pheromones 
.
Damn pheromones??? Why are you blaming the pheromones?
It sucks that you might have ruined a potential relationship with a ONS, but that’s not the pheromones fault. You are 20. How old is she? If you like her, then take her out somewhere. If she was a virgin, then I’m sure she has all kinds of screwed up feelings right now. The biggest one is probably buyers remorse. Show her that she didn’t make a bad decision. Go be her man.
I’m calling her tomorrow, im going out with friends to a club that night, what’s an ONS btw?
Its a one night stand. Explanation shouldnt be needed. You made that decision completely on your own blaming pheromones is very immature if not downright a awful scapegoat for owning up to what you did or may have done depending on the way you look at it.
Oh for goddess sake pheromones wont make her do something she is not willing to do. Now if she was drinking thats a whole other thing.
Girls can be emotional the first time and the second and the third… Ok we are emotional a lot of the time. Getting caught by her cousin and then her friends saying its her fault like she committed some god aweful sin doesnt help those emotions either.
Dont try to fix whats already happened. Call her up and ask her out. She may still feel awkward especially if she was drinking at the party and was a little out of it. If she says no then except no.
By the way you dont love her you just feel guilty. Don’t go blurting out you love her just yet she will see it the same way I do… as guilt. I like you is good enough for now. Not saying you cant fall in love with her but hell you hardly know her.
Tisha
Okay, you fucked up, but you feel remorse so let’s work on repairing the damage. You have feelings for her but do take it slow with her. Show her that you care, but don’t even attempt anything sexual with her. She’s going to be an emotional mess and that’s where you have to be careful, because one wrong move, one inconsiderate comment and she’ll push you away. The problem is that us guys, even the best of us can say things that seem okay to us but women will perceive it differently. I would tell her that you care for her and that you didn’t want to do anything to harm her. Her friends may be vilifying you so you may have to fight against that as well. That’s where coming off as calm, mature/gentlemanly would be a good thing to work on. Show her you’re interested in her for who she is and not just to get into her pants. It’ll be hard and could take a while but if you want her for more than a ons, then go for it.
Edit: I’d go with what Tish said first.
“call her up and ask her out” You better listen to Tisha!! She knows about these things.
That’s what I was trying to say the first time, however for some reason I just didn’t get it out.
Thanks for all your advices, it worked but she is so cold, i asked her for a date tomorrow, i’m going in jail next tuesday for two weeks, i’d like to bring her somewhere she’ll remember for the days im inside, i don’t know where yet, and which mones should i wear.
On second thought, maybe you should just let her go.
Am I reading this right?
I hope not…I think I see why she is so “cold”
Ok first off “damn pheromones”? You knew what you were doing and as long as she was conscious and not overly drunk so did she. And even if the mones had a substantial effect on the outcome of that night YOU knew full well what that particular product was designed for. That’s like the shooter in a bank robbery blaming the gun for somebody being shot in the process. You’re old enough to vote now, time to act like a big boy and accept responsibility for your own actions.
As for being in love, nah…you feel guilty for the way she feels about the incident which is a good thing…shows you have some human compassion. You did something with no ill intent and somebody feels bad as a result and in turn you feel for that person..called empathy and it’s essential for being human. Don’t mistake it for love however. Doing so would only cause you to make decisions later based on inaccurate perceptions of your own feelings that will lead to regret and more pain for both parties later on down the line. I can’t help but wonder if her virginity at the time might be a factor in your considering this “love”.
As was asked, how old is this girl considering she’s a virgin and you’re 20? And if you don’t mind being asked…why are you going to jail?
And finally…I concur with John’s advice. If you’re going to jail in a few days, best for her sake to just let it go.
This just gets deeper and deeper.
While going faster and faster.
i don’t know much about phermones at the moment what i would do give her a call ask her would you like to meet up.
dude you should be happy you had sex
If you took her virginity, then she’d probably be very attached to you. She probably feels the same way about you that you do about her.
You’ve already got the hard part done, now it’s just a matter of getting out of jail and setting a meet-up with the girl.
The girl might be cold to you because her friends bitched at her, etc. Just get her in your presence and warm her with your charm.
You’ve already won the battle bro, just get back in there.
lolz. 
jk
Quote:
Originally Posted by PierreA9 view post
Thanks for all your advices, it worked but she is so cold, i asked her for a date tomorrow, i’m going in jail next tuesday for two weeks, i’d like to bring her somewhere she’ll remember for the days im inside, i don’t know where yet, and which pheromones should i wear.
On second thought, maybe you should just let her go.
Why? A convict like me who wants to change cannot have someone he loves in his life?You are very insulting, and for everybody who asks how old she is, she’s 18, and i’m going in for breaking my conditions, i beat up this guy last april for sexually harrassing me, got a criminal record and went on probation and broke my conditions, i’ve done many other things in my life but i don’t wanna get there.
Why? A convict like me who wants to change cannot have someone he loves in his life?You are very insulting, and for everybody who asks how old she is, she’s 18, and i’m going in for breaking my conditions, i beat up this guy last april for sexually harrassing me, got a criminal record and went on probation and broke my conditions, i’ve done many other things in my life but i don’t wanna get there.