No there is nothing wrong with you wanting to change or wanting to have love. The situation is what we are discussing.
Here are the facts: An 18 year old girl just lost her virginity, was embarrassed, had her friends turn against her, and now the guy she gave it up to is going to jail for 2 weeks.
For you to ignore the facts is selfish. The part about you going to jail for 2 weeks was left out of the original post. That’s important information if you want accurate advice.
This is for everyone:
If you come on here asking for advice, please provide as much information about the situation as possible. Other wise you are going to get incorrect advice.
The correct advice is to let her go. Why, because for the next 2 weeks she is going to have to deal with her embarrassment, emotional pain, and new sensations without you. You didn’t have a relationship correct? 2 weeks later is a bad time to start one.
I wouldn’t even apologize about the specific act. Just tell her how it is, you found her attractive and that you know the importance of the act and that you don’t take it lightly. Tell her that as consenting adults she didn’t do anything wrong and that while others might think differently, you do care about her and that you didn’t just do it just for the sake of doing it before you go away for a little.
I’m just guessing here, but she’s probably more worried about her reputation now because she got caught, otherwise things woulda probably turned out differently.
Either way, not really going to be your problem now. Be safe in there and good luck. Worry about it when you get out.
You should explain that to her and try to see her, if that feels right, but she might not want to see you, and at that point you do not want to push the issue.