Should I or Should I Not?

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Others have already given good advice.

All i can say is that she has already made up her mind, if you try and change it you will only drive her further away by pushing for what you want.

Forget about trying to “get her back” just live your life and be yourself, if she wants you she’ll come back.. could be a week a month a year or never. One rule my father always told me “NEVER CHASE” then they are in control. You need to in control of the situation and let the girls chase you. Its hard coz your feelings get in the way and you fuck it up but all the more reason to find other girls and practice ya game.

2c

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I should just go ahead and make a journal!

So, anyways, I think I figured out why it all stopped. I think she was planning on getting back with her boyfriend from home (the one that cheated on her, yet they still were on “good terms??”)

Today, I was in our common room, and she was in the room next to it, and she was on the phone saying “I don’t care what you do” in a way that you could tell she was upset. I looked at her several times and she looked upset.

I walked by the girl’s showers shortly after to head to my room, and I heard crying (late at night, my guess was it was her).

I actually feel horrible for her. Terrible. I feel bad for her. That’s bullshit.

Also, I wish she told me she might be getting back with her boyfriend. Would have made me A LOT happier and clearer minded.

In this situation, I know everyone is going to tell me to let her alone, but is there anyone that thinks I should kind of talk to her?? (Sort of win her back cuz, heck, yeah I’m not as much into her as I was, but I still like her).

That’s a VERY friend zone thing to do, but I feel like if I ask her if anything’s wrong, and she says ‘nothing,’ then I tell her something like “your eyes say differently,” once she starts telling me, if I tell her “I don’t like talking about your exes because obviously I like you, and hate to see you sad like this” and go on from there??

I don’t want any other guy scoring on her b/c she’s sad…

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Are you sure?

I don’t know lakerman but by your description of her, there is only two possible things that is happening or would happen

she doesn’t feel strong attraction for you in the first place to begin with, even though she cuddled with you.How many close friends do that? ALOT.
more so, you are putting more pressure on her when she is emotionally exposed , like right now. If you really care about her then why don’t you care that she becomes happy first, then think about relationships after.

How I see it, you are thinking more about yourself then her, and how you should make yourself happy first. Sorry man, you stressing on a relationship is not a good sign of good friends or someone who cares about the other.

Secondly, if she agrees on a relationship, she would treat you as a rebound. she told you that she is not ready for a relationship, and yet you also mentioned that she might be getting back with her ex. boyfriend.

What i would do? try to be there for her when she needs me but relationship wise, go after someone else. If she cares about you alot to the point that she wants you as a relationship material, she would begin to feel jelouse and would act upon it. From there, you would know how much you mean to her. If she doesn’t, no problem, you seem to care for her so be good friends.

Take care

God bless you

Joe

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Go with your gut on this one and keep your eyes open. You still want to talk to her, so if you’re around her and IF it seems right, do it then. Tell her that you like her and that you gave her some space because she asked you to. You will know during that conversation wether you should tell her that you’re willing to give her the time she needs. There are so many reasons why people play games, but almost all the time, they play games because of some internal conflict they’re dealing with. Don’t go along with games that girls play. Not only will you waste time and energy, you will start to second guess yourself when you let people play you. You can either let time play things out… In this case it sounds like if you do that you will just get over her and will just move on to someone else the way all relationships do without having really lost anything. If you are able to talk to her about it, you will feel like you have more control over the situation and you will have your answer right then and there. Even if you can’t see it clearly, deep inside you know what you should do, so trust your instincts.