Okay I’m in a committed relationship so when I get major attraction hits from other females I don’t act on them. Instead I bask in the glow that is my ego and come here and report on them.
But I see time and time again in the reports on this forum where a single guy has a girl all up in his business giving out all kinds of IOIs and the report finishes off with the user walking away without a number, email addy, facebook…whatever!!!
Now Now give the guys a break. Everyone is not in the same place socially. People come in here looking for help but just because we tell them to do something dosent mean its easy for them. There are members with all different levels of social anxiety.
Its gonna take practice and time even with using pheromones. Everyone is at a different place on there journey. The guys who are closing and sharing there experiences are helping those who are not just by sharing there tips.
I have seen people enter this place totally unable to interact with others and have watched them grow and change over years of being here and seen amazing strides. You just have to be patient and give them time and guidance. We all grow and learn everyday.
A lot of times it may not even be a matter of closing. I’ll sometimes read posts and reports that indicate attraction based hits with some pretty good IOI’s before an actual opening that never happens.
Now this is an observation…not an accusation. I’ve been that guy.
To be honest when my confidence was all but nonexistant I would still get (known from hindsight) IOI’s and attraction. But many times my social skills were so bad that I didn’t notice them…or worse yet my self esteem so low that I’d have this inner dialogue where I’d question whether the girl actually seems to like me, or if I’m only seeing that because I like her and that’s what I want to see…ie “Am I only imagining it?”
Tish is right, it’s hard for a lot of guys and can take time, This is why I think two of the most valuable books/tools that a shy guy can study and apply are the Style Life Challenge since it’s a great way to learn and apply the basics of the M3 model in bite sized lessons over the course of a month, and the Dicarlo Escalation Ladder since it gives a great example of how to start kino and continue it over the course of an interaction once started it makes each next step much easier so when you go for a kiss close or more the girl is already comfortable with your touch and you’re more relaxed and casual about touching her.
Baby steps, you can’t start a race at the finish line.
Many of my reports follow that format. Why? It’s not because I don’t know how. It’s because I might not be interested in taking it further for whatever reason. It might be that I just want to enjoy the hit. Maybe I just want to have fun playing mischievously with the female population and not get bogged down with the rigmarole of establishing a relationship. It may be because she’s obviously taken or married.
There are many reasons why. The ABC rule is not always practical.
I would also like to say, from person experience, that sometimes you just don’t get the vibe you want. Yes, she thinks you are hot shit, but you get the vibe from her deep down of DO NOT WANT. Like the hot piece of tale with the nice rack but she drips gold digger.
Also some guys really do want GF rather than f buddies. They are more interested in a emotional connection than the peg A into slot B ending.
Just my 2 cents, or more if you are willing to pay.
