Oh RJ. You almost had qualification figured out. Then Mystery stole your line and turned it into his SINGLE qualification line.
If you want a lot of qualification stuff, look up Jonathan Sinn. He re-tooled the M3 qualification game and also created his own system based on only qualification.
To your point. I feel I should add this to my ‘Get the Girl’ thread, oh well.
The RJ question is used as a conversational bridge to get her to increase her input in the conversational ratio in addition to:
- It is attractive as you have standards.
- She is forced to invest in the interaction.
- She is forced to qualify herself to you.
- It screens for where she is at.
I would like to build on point four as it is a very wide statement. Depending on her answer you learn a plethora of things. If she likes you. If she is available. If she is looking for sex. If her mind is on the dirty.
Your qualification line is great, but in the grand scheme of things, the time span with qualification, opening and attraction is less than an hour. If you keep screening her with such questions she will keep investing in you but she also will lose interest due to the static phase you are in. Attraction decrease, compliance increase. This pattern helps guys with a LOT of money or status laid, it is bad for attraction and an emotional connection.
I want you to accept a statement as fact:
WHAT YOU SAY DOES NOT MATTER.
Stick with me, this is deep in the PUA rabbit hole. I am going to give away how and why words do not matter and most PUA tricks work. What you say and how you act comes from the perception on reality. Your ‘Frame’ of the world. A Frame is a term from NLP which boils down to how you digest the world around you. This perception of reality allows the human being to use reference experiences and their belief system to shape what reality to them is. The definition of existence is subject to state or fame of mind.
NLP is a hazy subject. Frames go into a larger subject of: The map is not the territory. The frame you project is either accepted or questioned by the outside world. The person with the strongest frame wins out.
Common frames include:
- We are not having sex.
- Women who have lots of sex is a slut.
- The President is not a US citizen.
These frames can ALL be true if accepted. The person who accepts the reality can make all of these true. Not factually, but emotionally.
This is relative to pick up how?
I know and created a load of cool frame tricks. PUA generally is about keeping your frame strong, imposing your frame, controlling the interactions frame. I use some dirty tricks by imposing super rigid frames she cannot accept in order to cause tension which I turn into attraction. But, this matters not for your question. What matters is where the words in a conversation comes from.
When you interact with a person your frames of reality meet. In PUA, you ‘Vibe’ or enter ‘Comfort’ when your frames become one. As long as you do not disrupt the shared frame you two connect. Attraction is the intentional confrontation of micro frames to cause tension which is attractive due to the man’s frame. Hence Alpha men are attractive due to his strong frame of mind.
In conversation some frames allow you to chat more, and then getting to that frame or perception of reality. Frames such as a Curiosity Frame, which is you taking an emotional interest in her. This is a great qualification frame.
For attraction, frames of fun or being outgoing are great. Most frames come down to root emotional outlooks of Positivity or Negativity. This is the strongest frame a person can have. Optimistic or Pessimistic. If you have a frame that everything is good, you are great, nothing in life can be bad, it attracts other people.
This frame of positivity shows all the good things about you. The Meta Frame of being Optimistic is how I get ALL of my success. Even when I have personal crisis (Death, Illness, etc) I see the upside. Women see this is crack. I must be someone special because this problem appears petty to me.
A positive person has only good things happen to them and supplies good emotion. To micro-scale the Positive Frame would be frames of: Fun, Adventure, Masculine, Leading. The lack of fear and knowledge good things will occur is leading and a byproduct of being positive. Also doing what you want comes from a place of being positive.
I have strayed way off to explain the concept of frames and good ones. Your outlook on life essentially is where your words come from.
A person who is well to do, positive and out going have a very different speaking pattern than a person from poverty and is always fearful of negative things.
This is how you connect and speak to people. What you say does not matter as long as it comes from your frame. A frame of positivity which is strong and who you truly are is how you attract people.
Every pick-up line comes from a frame of mind. Would a shrewd person deliver this line properly:
“Why do women always look at me like a sausage with feet?”
The answer, no. The words come from some place. If you accept the words as factual and true then you have such a frame.
I express my frame with women, this is where I get my routines. What do I enjoy/find congruent with my frame:
- Teach others.
- Self Amusement.
- Positive Emotions.
I am an optimist. The only things my frame accepts as reality and therefore something to chat about needs to be something fun to me or an emotionally positive response.
The only words I accept becomes those about positive experiences, good emotions, dreams, aspirations, Etc.
Further into an interaction once we connect we chat about positive things we can or should do.
Some conversational threads are good despite your frame. These include:
- Passions
- Dreams
- Goals
- Fantasies
- Hobbies
These are good because they come from your frame, and reflect who you are and what your frame is. The more enthusiasm you have the stronger your frame is and the more captivating you become.
I hope I helped, and did not confuse the mess out of you.
All from ONE SENTENCE not paragraphs of blab.
