Name is Rick and I am 37 y/o out of Seattle. Im visiting the boards, and hoping to find some ‘help’ for me to reconnect with my wife again. Weve been married 12 years and she has changed a tremendous amount since we were originally dating. I am just hitting my stride sexually, wanting it more than I ever have in my lifetime, and she has decided that sex just isn’t her thing. Her preference would be to have sex once a year, but if I pester her enough, I can get it every couple weeks. I know this all sounds pretty common for a lot of guys…
Anyway, I honestly do love the woman, and I don’t want this to be a reason for a divorce. Im hoping that I can find a way to get her in the mood easier, and what would be really nice… is if she took the initiative and jumped my bones instead of me having to ‘pester’ her. I was hoping that there might be a scent that would help my situation.
You have my sympathies. I agree with all of diamond’s suggestions. I’d like to add Instant Honesty to your list, it will encourage deeper discussions than Instant Openness, which women need to bond.
Bosshank’s links are good ,as diamond says. Here’s the one diamond refers to: Married Guys Looking to Help Life at Home Look for the Boss’s posts in the Men’s section (actually, he’s everywhere!)
Hello Rick and welcome to the pherotalk’s forum…
Yes, Diamond’s recommendations are the best way to solve your sexual problems man… I would add some Instant Gentleman, because as a personal experience, it’s AMAZING!!!.. anyways, welcome man and anything else, just ask the forum, we’ll be glad to help you
Man - I thought my ears were burning … and for good reason … lol. Seriously though, I hope the thread is useful. I just started it and after that a lot of smart people here added in. If you have a question ask here or in the mens forum.
Yes there are and we are always happy to help as best we can.
I think you got some good suggestions. TUTH to arouse her and IH to create a more intimate connected feeling. Perhaps some IFM to get past last minute resistance as well.
Keep in mind that your wife knows you natural mone signature and has preconditioned responses to you. It may take a few trys and playing with the amount you use to see full results. Dont over do it with TUTH though 1 to 3 sprays should do it. More can cause the OD effect (ghosting, crankiness, no response) even on those we know.
Your GC is on its way If you have questions just ask
If you have questions just ask