She is not talking, listening if I start about problems. But our night an saturday was good, she was chatty and talk about everything. I guess, I’m on the right way. And in the night she told me “give me a little more time”
Is it as if a light switch had been thrown? The old emotions and concerns are just extinguished?
I experienced something similar. In my case the cause was drugs, and another man who was supplying them. Her emotional needs were being met elsewhere and I was flapping in the wind.
Eventually she remembered. She wanted to come back. But years had passed. Her former lover had lost his profession, his wealth, and his ability to supply drugs. Meantime my life had moved on.
One thing that made it especially hard was that I could see the future course of events while things were happening. I knew that she would be back, and I knew that by that time my very survival would put me in a position I would not be able to receive her. That was painful.
The child is an enduring link.
Another problem is, she dont feel well when we go out. Because …
In the time and scares and problems, i lost weight and look older, tyred and so was last time Even if i try to refresh me. …
Need time and I will fight
Normally when we go outmany woman gazing me and she get jelous. This time, I look around and no one was interested in me …
30 lbs in 6 weeks. Also no sleep. It happens. After a while you hit the wall and it’s not pretty. I hope you’re not there yet. If you are experiencing such symptoms you might consider professional psychological help. There is a normal human response to trauma and psychologists know how to deal with it. (Some better and some worse.)
That’s why I mentioned survival before. In my case, the ability to care for my children made survival an imperative. Without them to care for, it might not have been.
Of course, getting back on one’s emotional feet and becoming healthy makes one more attractive to others. Not only the one who left, but everyone else as well. It’s sad, but few people love an emotional cripple.
And healing means participation in the wider world. At least, that was the path I took.
no pheromones.
pheromones are enhancers.
to view them as tools in the psychological part of the relationship will lead to regression for someone without alot of experience.
the idea that you are asking people outside of your relationship for insight into the mechanics of it shows me that
you are asking for empowerment that you do not believe you have.
instead of doing/wearing anything at all,
instead of re-assuring someone of 'future actions"
instead making promises
just ask her what she wants.
ask her what the best possible outcome is.
ask her what would make her feel better.
let it be up to her.
and then,
how you react,
is up to you.
wearing pheromones at this point is a bandaid that may introduce more problems than help!
there, now i will go hide 
i must do so many things. And like usual, iwill get it again. But dont know how.
It was along process by me, comes slovely without and idont noticeit. because she told me already that i’m no more atractive … and yes, want to know my current stats?
5’11 to 115-120 with cloths …
Done and on its way 
Pizzman, you gotta eat some more!! At that weight and height, you probably look like you’re nearly starving. I know it can be hard to maintain any appetite if you are emotionally distressed, but do you best. 120lbs is not healthy at all.
I’m glad that you were able to connect to your son. If nothing else, maybe you can salvage and maintain that important relationship. Your wife will come around if she sees that you have a strong relationship with your son.
But I’m young and inexperienced. I’m only speaking from the perspective of a child who has grown up in a divided household. So take my comments with a lot of salt.
Like the power was shut off. Had a panic attack and it just went from light to dark. Extinguished is a good word. Then the wires are pulled out. Uhhh Huh
Aw c’mon, you’re makin’ this up.
At least I wish you were.
The similarities between your tragedy and mine are startling.
Except that I only wish that I had a child by her.
She will very certainly be back. The chances of building something from nothing are, as they say down home here, slim and none. And I hear that Slim is packin’ to leave town.
You have my very deepest sympathies on your loss.
I keep thinking of the buildings, especially temples, in the cities that go back into ancient times. One foundation built on top of another. A wall behind a wall, behind a wall, behind a …
Hmm, sounds like you’re faced with a difficult situation to say the least.
Let her know you’re there when she needs you all she has to do is tell you she does.
It does sound like you’re trying to be understanding you’re just at a loss for what to do and panicked.
Calm down. Try to keep things friendly. A hurt woman isn’t likely to respond to anything but friendship and a reassurance.
My ex fiance was of very little help to me when I had my son but because we have a son we are still friends.
If she doesnt want a relationship and you want to be there for your kid that is another option. Just be friends.
Maybe later on she’ll move past things.
But you have to be patient with her if you’re serious about this there is no quick way through.
Chin up and hang in there. I hope the samples you were sent help. Instant honesty is definitely a favorite of mine as it has helped in my own relationship.
Steve, thank you,
I come to office, plug my LT, take my coffee and see the surprise!!!
Androstic send me MY!!! order???
This is not good service, this is not advertising. This is being human and try to help others. Thank you Steve, thank you your team, company and all the people in the forum who try to help me.
Now it is my turn. I belive I can fix it. My will and good wishes of so many people … It will be good.
Now my plan;
NEVER forget again why I work!
Work hard on my body, go for fitness 3-4 days/week!
Eat much and healty! (Before my breakfast was 3-4 egs and everthing around for breakfast and again I was never over 145)
4 Weeks later go home again (don’t know how for now)
Stay at least 10 days
And THEN ask what she really wants on the last 2 days.
She is going todate and concentrate somebody else …
Excellent plan. See it through. It is difficult and takes concentration to eat if the food is like cardboard. Do it anyway.
Exercise is excellent. There are physiological mechanisms that will help burn off adrenalin when you exercise. It has great psychological benefits as well as physical. You’ll probably see them immediately.
This is not a surprise. This probably started some time back and may be the root cause of the emotional disconnect. When a person starts to get their emotional needs met from another partner there is a disconnection from the current partner. This is not easy to understand. Many people think they can “fool around” without damaging their present relationship, but that is seldom the case.
On the upshot the boys at Smart mones just sent you the perfect new girl package.
hugs
Hang in there man.
Most people cant balance more than one serious relationship.Its frickin complicated .The natural drive with women is to disconnect emotionally and then move on.
They are really great.
But what you mean by “The natural drive with women is to disconnect emotionally and then move on”.
I don’t think you want me to give up and start again? or?
She is searching the old ME in that guy. And HOPE on this weekend she will see he is not me and so I can move deeper in 2-3 weeks or earlyer IF I can.
It may happen but the timeframe might be more extended than you would like. Everyone is different so who can tell?
Your idea of maintaining your health is a good one. It will show to the world the strong and capable you.
I don’t push or force, I can wait till she find the way back to me.
And GOOD that everyone is diffrent So she willsure see early or late that I’m I and not to find in anyone else.
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I have to be much earlyer there … Months ago
Glad to be of service, and really hopes it works out
I will use and do everything to save my little family