How to Tell a Woman is Interested In You -- The Master "Indicators of Interest List"

[SpongeBob]

Can vouch for that list, my GF does all that when I am with her

[Dr_Phail]

Yep, I indeed must say that most of this is happening right now on my main target, albeit slowly because she has a boyfriend whom she avoids directly mentioning around me, and will often refer to him as “a friend” when she has to go meet up with him or something.

[ballzan]

Um I get the looks from two girls in one of my college classes, them randomly starting conversations with me, and admitting to stalking me but they both have boyfriends, why!! lol

[cjw255]

I ask, WHY NOT

[SteveO]

@cjw255

I ask, WHY NOT

That’s funny

[ballzan]

@cjw255

I ask, WHY NOT

Lol because I can’t act on it and they are insanely hot.

[GetTheEdge]

@ballzan

Lol because I can’t act on it and they are insanely hot.

Is this a confidence issue, or partly self-esteem related?

One of the things I forgot to mention in the other thread about the best way to pickup chicks, is that its rather important to push and expand your comfort zone

maybe dont jump right into things that are just so far out of your comfort zone that its just too difficult, many people get results by gradually doing things just abit outside their comfort zone, getting used to that, then pushing abit further

but in pickup, getting out of your comfort zone is rather important to get to a place where you are going to get good/better results

also vin di carlo’s escalation ladder, mystery methods kino escalation ladder and david deangelos two steps forward, 1 step back, if you get good at them they are just so damn effective for escalating the kino with women.. from a simple touch all the way to sex

[ballzan]

@GetTheEdge

Is this a confidence issue, or partly self-esteem related?

One of the things I forgot to mention in the other thread about the best way to pickup chicks, is that its rather important to push and expand your comfort zone

maybe dont jump right into things that are just so far out of your comfort zone that its just too difficult, many people get results by gradually doing things just abit outside their comfort zone, getting used to that, then pushing abit further

but in pickup, getting out of your comfort zone is rather important to get to a place where you are going to get good/better results

also vin di carlo’s escalation ladder, mystery methods kino escalation ladder and david deangelos two steps forward, 1 step back, if you get good at them they are just so damn effective for escalating the kino with women.. from a simple touch all the way to sex

No both the girls that hit on me all the time have boyfriend so I was saying I can’t really act on it.

[GetTheEdge]

@ballzan

No both the girls that hit on me all the time have boyfriend so I was saying I can’t really act on it.

Ohh right, is that from a moral standpoint (or the bf is in the same class as you, and you dont want things to get complicated)? If so then fair enough

But other than being morally against it which is quite legitimate, there are still plenty of ways to have your way with, or pick up, chicks with boyfriends

Many super hot babes often have boyfriends anyway, even if he’s not that important to her anyway

You should ask yourself why are they hitting on you if they have boyfriends, they must be attracted to you, and if they’re acting on it with full knowledge they have a boyfriend, then what does that say

[ballzan]

@GetTheEdge

Ohh right, is that from a moral standpoint (or the bf is in the same class as you, and you dont want things to get complicated)? If so then fair enough lol

But other than being morally against it which is quite legitimate, there are still plenty of ways to have your way with, or pick up, chicks with boyfriends

Many super hot babes often have boyfriends anyway, even if he’s not that important to her anyway

You should ask yourself why are they hitting on you if they have boyfriends, they must be attracted to you, and if they’re acting on it with full knowledge they have a boyfriend, then what does that say

Good point, I just don’t see her truly acting on it, if you know what I mean. I think they have been dating for over a year.

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@Jasmin

Multiple looks. Women have much better If you catch us looking at you more than once, it’s probably becuse we’re attracted and we can’t help it.

You catching us looking at all. Women look at you fast. If you catch us looking at you, this may be because we’re attracted. Not always (I get horrified when I see someone catching me looking when I’m not actually interested), but often. You guys have muscle, but we have social muscles. WHen you catch us being less than discreet, we often mean it and/or can’t help it. (or we’re just plastered drunk!)

Hair play. Women will play with her hair while near you or talking to you. Women play with their hair all the time, so this is usually when they are either engaged talking to you or otherwise AWARE of you.

Hovering, mild stalking Many of us walk past you more than once to get your attention. Of course, sometimes we’re just looking for something other than you (say, in a grocery store), so occasionally this means nothing on it’s own.

Blushing. We can’t help but turn a little red in the prescence of men we like. Women notice this, but men can learn to. Try to notice things like this for a eye.

Eye dilation .Dilation means getting bigger. If, when we see you, our iris get wide… or even the whole eye area… you can be sure we want you to fall into us. We’re making room for you.

She keeps looking at you. She can not take her eyes of you.

Showing flesh. Lifting up our dress to show you or legs or down to show you our butts. Yoinking on our collars, open our blouses a little. We often do this stuff even more covertly than we cover skin, so you really have to develop the skill to see this. Also, be aware that sometimes what looks like covering skin is actually showing OTHER skin. Keep that in mind. Look for the actual motive. When we cover our skin, we strive to cover all our skin instead covering up some by revealing other skin.

Facing chest or face toward you. When we want you to know we’re attracted, we’ll aim our chest toward you. When we’re attracted, but we don’t necessarily want you to know, we might be looking away, but our feet or even our bodies (torsos) will be aimed at you.

Smiling that makes us look bad. A real, honest to goodness smile wil often show wrinkles or other facial flaws.

Smiling with the lower row of teeth only.

Proximity. If we stick around you, we like you. Especially if it seems that we get closer over time. Parties, social events, offices.

Looking when when you look at us – eyes or head (or both). It’s said by some neuroscientists that when we look down, we’re experiencing feelings. If we can’t help but go into feelings around you, especially if we’re a little bashful, that’s often a good sign. WE’re not bashful aruond peopel we don’t like or aren’t attracted to.

Your turn

That’s a good start, but there’s plenty more.

What’d I miss? What can be explained better? Let’s make this exhaustive & awesome! Add to the list here, then when the list gets long enough, I’ll hire a writer to put it all together and clean it up.

Great list jas. never get tired of reading

[ScienceStudent]

You should ask yourself why are they hitting on you if they have boyfriends, they must be attracted to you, and if they’re acting on it with full knowledge they have a boyfriend, then what does that say

It is a fallacy to believe that flirting with someone means they don’t want to be monogamous. It is possible to be attracted to others while you love just one–love is more than superficial emotions, it is a mutual commitment and a shared history, too.

Ultimately, it’s the ‘moral’ issue of whether you’d like a guy encouraging YOUR gf to be with him? Most would say no, and yet act like it’s okay to encourage cheating on someone else. That’s not ‘morality,’ that’s just respect and common decency.

[ballzan]

@Jasmin

Multiple looks. Women have much better If you catch us looking at you more than once, it’s probably becuse we’re attracted and we can’t help it.

You catching us looking at all. Women look at you fast. If you catch us looking at you, this may be because we’re attracted. Not always (I get horrified when I see someone catching me looking when I’m not actually interested), but often. You guys have muscle, but we have social muscles. WHen you catch us being less than discreet, we often mean it and/or can’t help it. (or we’re just plastered drunk!)

Hair play. Women will play with her hair while near you or talking to you. Women play with their hair all the time, so this is usually when they are either engaged talking to you or otherwise AWARE of you.

Hovering, mild stalking Many of us walk past you more than once to get your attention. Of course, sometimes we’re just looking for something other than you (say, in a grocery store), so occasionally this means nothing on it’s own.

Blushing. We can’t help but turn a little red in the prescence of men we like. Women notice this, but men can learn to. Try to notice things like this for a eye.

Eye dilation .Dilation means getting bigger. If, when we see you, our iris get wide… or even the whole eye area… you can be sure we want you to fall into us. We’re making room for you.

She keeps looking at you. She can not take her eyes of you.

Showing flesh. Lifting up our dress to show you or legs or down to show you our butts. Yoinking on our collars, open our blouses a little. We often do this stuff even more covertly than we cover skin, so you really have to develop the skill to see this. Also, be aware that sometimes what looks like covering skin is actually showing OTHER skin. Keep that in mind. Look for the actual motive. When we cover our skin, we strive to cover all our skin instead covering up some by revealing other skin.

Facing chest or face toward you. When we want you to know we’re attracted, we’ll aim our chest toward you. When we’re attracted, but we don’t necessarily want you to know, we might be looking away, but our feet or even our bodies (torsos) will be aimed at you.

Smiling that makes us look bad. A real, honest to goodness smile wil often show wrinkles or other facial flaws.

Smiling with the lower row of teeth only.

Proximity. If we stick around you, we like you. Especially if it seems that we get closer over time. Parties, social events, offices.

Looking when when you look at us – eyes or head (or both). It’s said by some neuroscientists that when we look down, we’re experiencing feelings. If we can’t help but go into feelings around you, especially if we’re a little bashful, that’s often a good sign. WE’re not bashful aruond peopel we don’t like or aren’t attracted to.

Your turn

That’s a good start, but there’s plenty more.

What’d I miss? What can be explained better? Let’s make this exhaustive & awesome! Add to the list here, then when the list gets long enough, I’ll hire a writer to put it all together and clean it up.

This is a great post! I have noticed the hair play with a lot of girls and also different variations of fidgeting if its not the hair. For example them playing with their cell phones while you talk to them,keys/keychain, and even the strings hanging of their jeans! (since we a lot of the younger people wear the pre-holed jeans.)

I didn’t even realize it was because of attraction until I read your post, very useful info here.

[PheroQuirk]

Women are just as blind as men with regards to IoIs - according to one study, at least.

Is it a man’s fault when he can’t tell a woman is interested in him?: - Barking up the wrong tree

[1Alpha]

@ScienceStudent

It is a fallacy to believe that flirting with someone means they don’t want to be monogamous. It is possible to be attracted to others while you love just one–love is more than superficial emotions, it is a mutual commitment and a shared history, too.

Ultimately, it’s the ‘moral’ issue of whether you’d like a guy encouraging YOUR gf to be with him? Most would say no, and yet act like it’s okay to encourage cheating on someone else. That’s not ‘morality,’ that’s just respect and common decency.

I think this is right on… basically, the Golden rule applied to your relationship!

You got my vote for nomination, sweetie!!

[ballzan]

@ScienceStudent

It is a fallacy to believe that flirting with someone means they don’t want to be monogamous. It is possible to be attracted to others while you love just one–love is more than superficial emotions, it is a mutual commitment and a shared history, too.

Ultimately, it’s the ‘moral’ issue of whether you’d like a guy encouraging YOUR gf to be with him? Most would say no, and yet act like it’s okay to encourage cheating on someone else. That’s not ‘morality,’ that’s just respect and common decency.

I agree with you, although she may be attracted to me that doesn’t me she will or should act on it if she has a boyfriend and I respect that, hence why I won’t act on it until she is single.

[ScienceStudent]

@ballzan

I agree with you, although she may be attracted to me that doesn’t me she will or should act on it if she has a boyfriend and I respect that, hence why I won’t act on it until she is single.

I appreciate your respect – my comment was more directed to those egging you to “go for it” and a general mentality towards “All’s fair…” and PUA. And not realizing they’re participating in the perpetuation of the problem.

[ScienceStudent]

@1Alpha

I think this is right on… basically, the Golden rule applied to your relationship!

You got my vote for nomination, sweetie!!

Thanks!
I am in awe that I’m nominated!

[SteveO]

@ScienceStudent

I appreciate your respect – my comment was more directed to those egging you to “go for it” and a general mentality towards “All’s fair…” and PUA. And not realizing they’re participating in the perpetuation of the problem.

I agree that people who are in a relationship should not engage in activities that would demean that relationship. However its a double edged sword in that both parties are participating in a dangerous, potentially relationship ending, affair. Perhaps flirting could be considered innocent, but flirting is encouraging and rewarding a particular attraction formula to continue and therefore not very innocent at all.

If a person is content in their “love” for another than that flirting, regardless of who eggs it on, or how far it is pushed wouldn’t get anywhere to begin with. If a person takes the flirting to another level than their love was never monogamous to begin with. On that note if someone says they are in a committed relationship, they should therefore end any additional flirting. If however they continue to go along with the flirting than yes I would agree that they are receptive to the idea of being seduced.

Personally I don’t believe in messing around with somebodies lady. It’s not my thing and I do believe in the circle of life. What goes around comes around. Someone willing to cheat on their current would be just as willing to cheat on you when the next best thing comes around. Open relationships are the best bet until such time as a commitment can be made to become exclusive to each other. Honesty is always the best bet

[ballzan]

@Steve;

444204What goes around comes around. Someone willing to cheat on their current would be just as willing to cheat on you when the next best thing comes around. Open relationships are the best bet until such time as a commitment can be made to become exclusive to each other. Honesty is always the best bet

That’s exactly what I have been thinking or even if she would happen to leave her boyfriend for another person whats to stop her from doing that to the other person when someone else comes along.