How to Tell a Woman is Interested In You -- The Master "Indicators of Interest List"

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Hello, a good thread but i have question on if some body language i have seen is an IOI, i am pretty sure is but feedback always good.

Bit of background, i have social anxiety but with hard work and help of pheros i am getting better. I mainly interested in pheros for SA but attraction is on the menu too.

I have been using my local pub as testing ground, using phero to calm me down whilst getting women to open me, yes i know i should be doing that but have to start somewhere plus interesting to see just how much phero will effect women.

I have been opened by number of women so am on the right track, but there is one women who comes to karaoke night to sing. She is not a girly girl, more jeans and boots but at same time feminine and attractive with lovely eyes and smile, she in mid 30s.

I noticed her right away but she did not seem notice me, then after couple of times of seeing her there i kept catching her looking at me but she would not hold eye contact.

This began to change and if there was a bad singer or someone making fool of themselves dancing she would hold eye contact and smile as we shared the laugh, but outside that still no held eye contact.

Now i thinking that there is some interest but not enough for me with SA to take a risk, plus i am interested in seeing just how much i can make the pheros work. Add to this from what i have seen playing the cool hard toget guy would work best with her as she gets hit on a lot by guys but just brushes them off.

One night she was there and it was not busy, i was sitting at bar with plenty of space either side of me, i went to the loo and when i came back she was standing at bar waiting to get served with both arms around my beer. Oh time to make a move i think, but no i would see if she would open me. I arrived at my beer and she moved to one side, i sat down on stool only a foot from her. No eye contact from her but she was in my phero cloud big time. Nothing happened.

Still got a few shared joke smiles from her during night, and noticed her friend would look at me and then whisper to her friend, either taking the piss or talking about me?

Now here is the big one, last night was karaoke night, when i arrived she was there sitting in usual place by DJ, her friend was close at end of bar getting served, the bar was busy with people sitting at it so i walked up behind her friend and waited to be served. Her friend turned around and saw then immediately looked the other way at TG and smiled that knowing smile.

I got served and stayed at bar about 10 feet from TG, friend again looking at me whispering to TG, did not catch her looking at me as much tonight but was still doing it. What i did notice was her body language, i was stood facing her most of night and she was sat down on bench seat with no one in between us.

As the night went on the way she was sitting changed, she began to turn to face me lying back and sliding down the bench seat a bit, her right leg out stretched and pointing towards me, me left foot place on the bench seat with knee pulled to her left.

Not sure if you can picture this pose but it is one you would find a adult mag. Although she was wearing baggy jeans make no mistake she was exposing her honey pot in a very provocative way, well for me anyway.

At one point she pulled up her top and began to rub her lower stomach and under jeans top, this exposed some flesh.

At this point i should add that i got the feeling that was due to her possible having period pains as she appeared a little quieter then usual.

Now given the background would you see this provocative sitting pose as a IOI?

I am thinking it was most defiantly and IOI and the time has come to make my move.

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dude im telling your time has been there from the start if i were you i would open her before she thinks your not interested and writes you off. hehe someone i can’t remember who had wrote hesitation leads to masturbation, i’d say she is into you make your move the worse that could happen is that she isn’t into you and your back to the same point you are now, but from what it sounds like your in great shape so take the opportunity!!!

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Lol thanks, reminds me i what my father used to say

Will have to locate my big brass ones and go for it :slight_smile:

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From what it sounds like I’m sure you will succeed let me know how it goes!!!

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Among with the visual IOI there are some more subtle to witch I didn’t pay much attantion in the past.This is complicated to be explained because it’s connected with Psychology, but a person’s subconscous mind have the abillity to dominate a person’s conversations.What exactly do I mean?If a woman is interrested in you while talking to her she might say things witch have some subtle influence from her subconscious desires towards you.For example - she talks to you and start talking of handsome men, or sudennly changes the topic to sex, or starts talking how she picks up guys - if those things come into the conversations “from nowhere” - it is highly possible to be reflections of her subconscious toughts towards you.
I ’ ve done something like that once.I was shoping in a neibourhood store and the cashier girl was a hot chick in her early 20’s.While waiting for my turn to pay I was looking at her and imagening verry intense sexual scenes between us two.Next to cashier was a little stand with condoms witch in that connection also came into my sight.And then my turn came, the girl asked me “Would you like a bag for that stuf?” and I couldent believe what I really replied “NO, WITHOUT CONDOMS, THANKS”.She turned all red and I hardly stopped myself to get to the floor laughing.So bear in mind to watch for subconscious hints in people’s speech and behaviour. :wink:

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Hmmm..all this aye, women don’t like me I got 19+ years living alone.:confused:

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I’m sure we could help if you gave us some more info. Why not post yourself an introduction and tell us about yourself? You could get a $25 GC and try out some products.

Here’s a link on how some things work around here in the forum that you might find useful. It even has a video with instructions on how to post an intro: https://pheromonetalk.com/t/read-me-first-helpful-topics-on-how-to-get-around/3106

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I haven’t read this entire thread yet so I’m not sure if anyone addressed this… I wanted to comment on the above compliment test… It says if the female seems uncomfortable she is not interested… I would disagree with this. There are many reasons why a female may get uncomfortable about compliments. One is self esteem or confidence. A good example is the lady I am with now… sort of with hehehe… use to be, now friends but working on getting back together. She was in an abusive relationship for 13 years and was violently sexually assaulted by her now ex. Her self esteem was constantly torn apart by this guy. Even now, about 6 or 7 years after the abuse ended her self esteem is pretty low. Whenever I compliment her she will blush and get uncomfortable. She thinks I am just saying this because I want something from her.. She doesn’t believe it because of what she went through. But I continue to reassure her I mean the compliments from the bottom, top, and everything in the middle of my heart. With me she is getting more comfortable with compliments but from others she still gets uncomfortable.
You can never know if a lady has been through something like mine has so automatically jumping to the conclusion that a lady is not interested because she seems uncomfortable with compliments could be a big mistake.

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I totally agree with this. For me, it would be a confidence issue, I suppose. I don’t receive that many compliments from the opposite sex but when I do, it’s extremely uncomfortable.

One time, a guy who has been rumored to like me gave me a nice compliment on something I was wearing. It wasn’t inappropriate at all…it was equivalent to him saying “You have a nice briefcase.” or “I like your sneakers.” After he said this I gave a meek little “Thanks” that he probably didn’t hear and I was so thrown off, that I know I was looking crazy for the rest of the time he was in my presence.

It was embarrassing. He probably was giving me the “compliment test” and I failed…and not because I wasn’t interested (I have a crush on him to this day) or because I thought that he was insincere.

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I hear you Nehve1… It goes for men too… I’m the same way. I don’t know why but I I never really know how to react to compliments so I end up feeling a bit uncomfortable when I receive them… I think it may be the same reason as you.. but I know my self esteem took some pretty big hits from my ex as well so that probably has something to do with it too…

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All this flirting stuff sounds good, but when it comes to women making hints etc I am as dumb as a brick… need to be hit with a 2x4 just to get the message that she is hinting. Just got A314.. put some on with a dash of Honesty. Got some looks, but not much more as yet. The experiment will truly be confirmed on Friday when the woman I am looking to have a realtionship with comes over for some muscle stripping and a talk to see if we are going to be friends or take it to the next level.

I need some serious luck and a gallon of mones.

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This post should really help you then. Lots of good info that you can study and get used to. Once you have the signs down, I’m confident you’ll do terrific!:wink:

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Another way to tell if she is intersted in you if you are at the Gym.

The woman I have been testing my mix with, decided to smack my ass while I was doing bent over row with 100 pounds on the bar. Later she came up and punched me in the abs to see if I truly had punch proof abs (yes I do), She proceeded to unload not one but seven good hard punches. Guess she was interested as she never had that reaction before

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This thread is awesome for guys that buy mones expecting the “axe effect” and then dismiss them as not working simply because some stranger didn’t jump them like a lioness pounces a zebra on animal planet. Guys should study microcalibration and learn the IOI’s and IOD’s to know if their pheromones are providing hits. You could be getting massive results and not capitalizing on them because you’re waiting to be dry humped in public.

The original list is very good but I’d like to add a few other things to look for.

Inane conversation: Both genders are guilty of this one, it’s what happens when you’re attracted to a person and in the process of talking to them an awkward silence comes up. If the other person tries to revive the previous conversation with some blatantly obvious question, or even repeating a question you’ve already answered…it’s a straw and she’s grasping at it in the hopes of taking to you some more. Take the hint.

Oral activity, Don’t expect her to seductively eat a banana or find a creative way to drink her beer from the bottle, but watch for licking lips, biting her bottom lip, or even just putting object in her mouth in a casual but nervous manner. Like a pencil/pen or something of that nature.

Casual non sexual kino. Women always have the size and strength disparity of our genders in mind as well as the knowledge that men tend to read too much into things. For that reason women will rarely initiate physical contact with a man unless they’re interested. Look for a woman to casually let her hand come to rest on your arm momentarily, playfully bumping her shoulder against you during joking or teasing.

She pays you a compliment…this is so simple it amazes me how many guys can let it pass. Women almost NEVER give compliments. They eat them up like candy but they rarely if ever throw them out so when they do it’s something special for them. Don’t expect her to ramble on about how incredibly sexy you are, but if she compliments your shirt, or cologne it’s usually a sign. I’ve seen a woman tell a guy that his hair looked great and asked where he gets it done only for the guy to answer her question very briefly, thank her politely and then go back to looking around the club for women to show him some interest. This advice goes double if the compliment is accompanied by some form of kino or space reduction. Stepping in close to sniff you while complimenting your cologne, touching your shirt while asking where you got it etc.

Shifting body weight. This is a tricky one as it can be either an IOI or IOD so I’d consider it something to consider only as confirmation along side other indicators. If she’s shifting her weight from one side to another and back again it can either mean she likes you and is nervous…or you creep her out and she’s nervous so don’t act on this one alone

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I wonder if men just got good at noticing these things, if they’d find they’re more attractive than they thought at first.

In my opinion, most humans have a lot of admirers around them, if they know how to notice it.

Also, I found when I was hanging out with PUA boys that if a guy simply accepts that so many of the things that a lady is doing are "IOI"s indicators of interest, then suddenly he feels like she’s attracted to him, and he starts acting more confident and being flirtier. Then he either gets her attention or gets someone else’s attention, so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Contrast to the guy who doesn’t see a woman hitting on him when she’s standing there smiling and talking to him and moves to leave but seems all awkward about going (wants you to set up another meeting). . . he doesn’t have any confidence and won’t talk to the next woman with the glow of knowing he’s awesome that the previous interaction would have given him.

So much of this is just being calm and confident… Although I truly think pheromones can grease the wheels. My god, they have some immense effects. But I also firmly believe if guys would just SLOW DOWN and open their eyes they would notice more admirers around them.

Boys don’t have as much of a “disadvantage” in terms of social power as I think they believe they do. It’s just a question of noticing what’s there.

My 2 cents,
Jeannine

A Journey Towards Freedom

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You are so correct Jean about being calm and confident. Sometimes I just forget that my mind goes much faster than what my body does. Slowing things down has greatly improved my interactions with people in general. I would say I still have some problems with moving fast, but in my opinion slowing things down and talking slowly, moving slower and in control, and just being smooth is so fundamental in increasing attraction. I would love to hear other opinions and advice on how to accomplish this :slight_smile:.

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can anyone provide some speculation or share their thoughts on my current dilemma with my best friend?..we used to always play fight and tickle each other and she’d sit on my lap or lean on me and fall asleep. but this year she just stopped all that she became distant and barely talks to me…i thought about what may have cause this several times and i realized when she started changing was when i started going out with my gf so I asked her directly about it and she said that she was just giving me space and she actually admitted to having a small crush on me since that time but i assumed it was done with and thats why she mentioned it. But a few days ago she invited me to hangout with her, her bf, and mutual friend, the day went well but she was still distant with me for the most part…until that is when her bf and the friend left it was just me and her and we got on the train to go home and during the whole train ride she became more like her old self but something was different…so i came across this post and after looking through the various IOI’s i found that she did quite a few on the train she drifted closer and closer
she stopped holding on to the pole and was facing me and holding on to my arm and played with my muscle a bit, whenever we made eye contact we held it for awhile and she’d instantly smile genuinely then look down and get closer to me which made me chuckle cause i found it cute which then caused her to blush a little and at this point she was holding me close for some time and she did 1 thing which i havent read about in this thread thus far i found it odd and she’s never done it before and refused to explain herself when i asked about it…anyways she kept rubbing her face into my neck in a playful kind of manner

so any ideas on what that last thing was about? and am I right to think that she seems to have feelings for me and is only now starting to really show them? thank you greatly for ANY help on this! i want us to be the way we used to be and I’m at wits end on this!

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You sed to play fight…transl;ation is this was a form of foreplay but without the commitment afterwards. She clearly has a crush on you, and you went off and got yourself another girlfriend…dufus… Now you want to have the old ways with her. She obliges when her BF is not around. Her BF is window dressing, and it seems neither one of you has teh testicular fortitude to simply say "yo… I want to be with you.

Stop pussy footing around. Either be with her or cut her loose, and no amount of Mones will replace good solid moral character… The end

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well to clarify i havent used any mones on her and i wasnt wearing any mones during that entire encounter…I like her and all but im not trying to make a move on her, her bf is another one of my best friends -_-

oh and btw she had a bf back then when we used to play and it was the same guy she’s with now, so if she was single i would understand that it was rather flirty but it only ever seemed like we were just really close friends

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I’ve seen a few of these signs. Now I know what to look when I’m around a woman. I meet this one girl, and she couldn’t quit looking at me. I would look at her, and she would look at me, like she knew me for years, and I just happened to have meet her. I found it odd, because most chicks I talk, with wouldn’t stare at me like she did. I really liked the feeling.