Actually there are a great many Christian buddhists. When you look at it objectively there really isn’t any conflict between the belief sets. They get different answers because they ask different questions.
You might want to run through this thread. Visionary has really got his stuff together after a very difficult youth.
a.k.a. (February 9, 2006):
“I’d say it’s mostly uncharted territory.
Over time, it’s hard to draw the line between changes that are based on pheromones and changes based on improved confidence. I leave that for scientists to figure out, and focus on the whole self-enhancement package.
From my experience, pheromones tend to make a strong impression and a lot of what happens the day after depends on how you took advantage of the increased attention while the pheromones were working their magic. …
Visionary7903:
a vibe that says easy lol.
Seducing girls (new version)
Appreciation is to hold something in your mind with gratitude. When doing this, bad feelings are shut down and good feelings are strengthened. When a person is in this mental mode, its easy for others to see - its as if the bliss/happiness is bleeding out from every pore. Those feelings are contagious, so others will start to feel good too, even if they don’t know why the person is happy. This creates a feeling of friendship and GOOD INTENTIONS. This is why appreciation is the ideal mental frame to be in when meeting new people (and socializing in general).
When focusing on things you dont have, you open your mind to the feeling of need (wanting something). This is the opposite of appreciation and leads to feelings like frustration, insecurity, sadness, discontent and so on. This is also easy for others to see, and it makes others insecure and uneasy about you. They can see you want something. They DOUBT your good intentions. This is why need is the WORST POSSIBLE frame for meeting people.
Needy people suffer from habits of seeking validation from others. Two things must be done to end this habit. The first is to focus your mind on appreciation - stop dwelling on all the stuff you want, and learn to appreciate areas that already satisfy you. Practice this every day. I recommend you do this during a daily routine like teeth brushing. Go through all the things that are going well and take moments to really feel the gratitude for each one.
Secondly, focus on appreciation when you socialize. Look actively for positive qualities in others, and let them know you noticed. Also look for positive things about surroundings or situation and talk warmly about them. Also talk about good experiences you have had lately, emphasizing how good it made you feel. Discipline yourself to steer all conversations down this path. In no time, this will transform you from a needy guy, to the type of guy everyone love to hang with."
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