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I’m too wiped out with the flu at the moment to do justice to a good reply… I wouldn’t go so far as to study art history… much of it is awfully tedious… you’d do better to go to a store that sells art and design books and get a couple that deal with color theory and color application in design… for example, I learned (after years of considering the subject) that certain carefully realted colors were inherently sexy and people felt sexy around them… most people make the initial mistake of choosing colors individually instead of understaning the dynamic between colors, and how that enhances or weakens self presentation… the color scheme must work with your hair… eye color… and skin tone. Because the eye is the most erotic visible body part, be especially aware of the way anything near the eye, particulary a scarf or shirt, will cause the eye to intensify… I think it is a mistake to “fight the eye” by choosing a color that contrasts with it… better to find colors that interact with and compliment the eye… black guys are lucky because they have everything lined up, eyes, hair, skin… they can wear devastating primary colors, strong yellows, reds, deep blue colors that no anglo guy should wear, he’ll just dissappear and the color will take over… look at this Italian masters of the Renaissance… such colorists like the world has never seen… then think of your hair… the second color choice should contrast slightly with the hair… but be at the same “grey value” (meaning that if all the color was removed, the degree of greyness would be the same)… so as I became middle aged and more grey, my jackets shifted from darker to lighter. with an interplay of washed out, almost mineralic mediterranean colors… only a fool of an old man would dye his hair, better to pick masterful color schemes that compliment the hair… then consider the skin, is is bluish, orange tinted, olive green toned ? All of these factors must be carefully blended and put together like art, yet with no sign of effort… always better to understate than overstate…
I do think that life skills begin to flow together and meld into one’s personal style… so ultimately one isn’t bound to a script or an external method… pheromones may become an integral piece of that large self presentation… more… they can accelerate your learning curve as richer social opportunities present themselves as raw material… I did begin to notice that a multitude of influencing factors were in the background as “supporting subliminals” … such as studying color theory and great art and training my eye hard to see what made an optical materpiece so visually enticing… then applying that knowledge to clothing… there are many fine points of color combination that do turn people on, even though the individual clothes may be of modest origin… the lesson here for me was the essence is to look comfortable, natural, completely unforced, yet associate colors, fabrics, patterns in ways that are outstanding in their simplicity and elegance… looking too stylish can actually be a detriment… anything that announces one’s needfulness WILL be a detriment… OTOH… there are details that make a difference without ever flying out… I see far too many bad belt buckles, either too heavy, made from the wrong metal, or too dainty… there seems to be an art to carrying a great buckle… there is an art to walking, the looseness of the gait, quite hard to learn how to walk elegantly, and you can’t fake it, how to pay attention and listen to someone else, tracking the subtle changes of their micro-expressions, having a cache of great stories that are uniquely yours… MM wlll clarify specific points… I use their clarifications to good effect, the difference is that I don’t rely on alcohol, ever, or drugs, ever, and I don’t hang out in clubs or bars nor do I see any reason to.
as a younger man, were you always this insightful and perceptive? or did the NLP+bodywork+vocal training+life experience &c &c transport you to a different realm?
unfortunately, both for myself and anyone in my presence, I was a total jerk… albeit a curious total jerk…huge investments of time, dedication, finding the right teachers, wasting energy and life corpuscles with the wrong teachers, and perhaps most importantly, allowing my preconceptions to be busted… all were required to make an iota of progress.. fortunately, when you invest in the right efforts, the eventual payoff can be great… none of this came with magical ease… and be warned, as I am reenteering the NLP field… some NLP has turned hopelessly mediocre… it just returned from a training with a costly “certification” as if their certificate would carry much weight… and qualitatively it bordered on ludicrous…
tku. i’m still curious about the taa-tac contradiction… so you find tac mildly erotic but not the alpha one…
wellll… tac is a strange one… I’ve never found it erotic per se… it has the polymorphous nature that can be sort of gentlemanly-authoritative sexy grandpa presence… or it can be spontaneously giggly… people will crack up for no reaon… taa is so distinct… with a meditative upper, anti-depressant quality… tac is softening, relaxing, like sinking into a well padded chair, and taa is more like bouncing on a trampoline… together you feel a two directional pull, like you want to chill out and self express at the same time… I think taa can get you laid and tac can get you laid, though your approach would be different for each one… I’m not so sure that tac and taa at the same time will get you laid…
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eyurp… a [censored]-something at that…
stand up comedy in a bottle, ifn you asks me… dunno why but cats love it… easily as much as catnip… purrrrrrrrr purrrrrrrrr purrrrrrrr… pussies like it too.
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so if TAC is unlike any other pheromone you know about, then to somebody who has read your posts for a while I guess that pretty much nails which one it must be… no comment required
you don’t do things by halves funny because I have the same approach. stuff is cheap and the potential benefit from getting things very right so high that makes sense to splurge on and experiment with books, music, pheromones etc - anything that will help you make your life better.
Yep… everything begins and ends with the mind… your mind IS reality in a practical sense… I’ve been experimenting with “bracketing” lately, working my beta ranges, then down to delta-theta, then more beta, then more delta-theta… while avoiding the spacey, self indulgent alpha range… I do much better in life when I reduce my alpha activity… seems I go there as sort of an escape, dreamy, socially disconnected, watching internal TV… the theta-beta combination is less foggy, less sentimental, gets things done fast, efficiently, and keeps good track of time…
overstimulation of sympathetic system may be lyme or immune related. I wonder if TAK+ mind machine can help also
Possibly… there are strange factors, like the balance of the occlusions of the molars… I was dumfounded when a persistant headache and neck pain that had dogged me for ten years cleared up when I got my rear teeth precisely levelled… clenched my jaws much less too…
Qn re Glauberman - if using simultaneously with a mind machine, which settings are acceptable? Is it okay to fall asleep during the induction?
I presently have another large pile of Glauberman’s CDs I’m exploring… some of my recent changes have be absolutely astounding… although I don’t know how to weight each contributory factor, and perhaps in a complex synergy condition, the whole cannot be fully understood merely as a sum of the parts… I think as each mind is distinct, and each life agenda is as well, that one must patiently combine and recombine until one finds the right personal tuning for that life moment… I dount that you could go very wrong in the worst case, however only with the patience of a locksmith can you arrive at the perfect intersection for your present gestalt, when you step back and say to yourself, WOW… that really IS a new perspective on life…
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You are going to be one busy fellow for the nonce. In my recent experimentation, I believe I have gotten the best all around results when using the High Range Aerobic Jump (beta fluidizer) which will be Special Program #3 followed by the Full Range Aerobic Jump, Special #2… of course there are oodles of others… I’ve found that those two, in that order, when used regularly, will slowly but surely bring about a dramit improvement in mental efficiency with no added feeling of mental strain or effort, IF you use only the audio portion… with the light goggles it might be fairly intense… also have been using the Glauberman CDs to marvellous effect… his Meditative Relaxation is especially good, as is his High Performance, and Soul Mates (not as overtly romantic as the title sounds, good relationship builder)… even his “relationship repair” set, Rekindling The Flame is actually fun and useful… I took a big batch with me the other day, and my girlfriend over there was so impressed by the overall improvements in our relationship she (normally highly skeptical of anything the slightest bit woojie-woojie) asked me to leave some with her… I was freaking amazed that she would make such a request… but honestly the qualitative changes for the better between us left us both awestruck… like I’d been seeing a good therapist and some of it osmotically soaked into her psyche… beware though, this was the consequence of about 3 weeks of an average of two hours per day of Glauberman and 40 minutes per day of Photosonix… I believe there is a POWERFUL synergy between the two… which you yourself may not be immediately aware of although I have more noticed other people noticing the differences in me that I have felt or sensed them directly… I now have another series of CDs on order… even his Sales Mastery is useful… I left her with Sales Mastery (she sells sea shells by the sea shore), Soul Mates, which is really about learning to see things from another’s perspective, and Meditative Relaxation, If you’re really a bug for these sorts of things, you can route an external source through the Photosonix so you could overlay some of the CDs with the Photosonix programs for super-deep injection… BTW… each CD will have several (usually two, sometimes three) tracks withabotu 1 minute of dead silence at the end of each… so don’t assume that the whole thing is played at the end of the first segment…
For this line of thought, EST is the best, and beta-Androstenol is superb, TAH would be OK too… and EST/Beta Androstenol duo sounds about right.
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I’ve been a bit afraid of starting acting classes in a group as I suspect I’m likely to be a fair bit behind the mean in current/native ability.
It is so hard at the beginning, you feel so self conscious and naked, all the anxieties, the inner voices to be worked through and quieted…
Possibly barely-remembered memories from childhood. But am at the stage where guess I can deal with the social pressure if need be. Are Meisner technique classes always in a group setting, or can they be private?
The more public the better… best of all you should have to do them naked at a soccer match on the midfield line with thosands of spectators booing you… you will have no fears of public exposure after that…
Yeah… lots and lots of big city professional training with tough, high quality acting coaches and voice coaches is a MUST before going on camera… My advice would be at least one semester of meisner (acting) training, one full on camera course… everything here need to be trained, tightened up, brought into focus… and boy do i know, I’ve worked like hell at it and it has taken me at least 3 years of more or less constant application with great teachers to develop “professional presence”… it’s expensive, emotionally painful, stressful, confusing, and unltimately one of the best investments you can make in your future…
there are numerous factors… voice production is a full body experience… I’ve had ultrasound treatement (you need some expertise to do this) of my arms, and loosening and elasticising my arms changed my voice considerably… and there was a japanese (fanatic craftsman I assume) shoe company that made special shoes for opera singers when they performed, to refine the connection between their body mass and the satage… so I wouldn’t argue that voice HAS to be locked or fixated in any specific region of the body… any place where the body is frozen or has reduced awareness will also affect voice production… as gross as this sounds to the modern sensibility, earlier legitimate medical practice used a number of sphincter dilator tools… exceptionally finely made, done with complete medical professionalism, to treat various conditions of “overgripping”… even high blood pressure was treated with a rectal dilation device, and apparantly this really did work… and there are still “urethral sounds”, or a graduated set of stainless steel probes that are used to open the urethra into the bladder… as there are a complex set of ring muscles in the region that can become clampled shut… the Rolfers and other post-reichian body workers came to believe that over aggressive potty training resulted in the mal-coordiantion of the pelvic floor, and this then caused diaphragmatic tightening… just think about a time when you badly needed to urinate and had to hold it in… it changes your voice, right ?
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Ultrasound is a well established modality for physical therapy… the high frequency sound is conducted into the muscles and connective tissue from an emitter that is coupled to the skin with ultrasound gel… the major risk with ultrasound is deep tissue burn from improper application, so skillful therapists who know how to put in a high enough dose without injury are required… besides a heating effect, ultrasound actually softens and mobilizes the harder fascia, tendon, and ligamentous tissue so the limb will become much freer and mobile… often the nerves also benefit as the nerve tissue is directly massaged by the ultrasonic vibration, resulting in improved nerve conduction function, which in turn improves muscle function… a good thing if used with proper understanding, potentially dangerous if used improperly… as for Rolfers, the quality of Rolfing has fallen preciptiously over the past 15 years, there may, somewhere, be a first rate bodyworker who can fully enegage the body-mind connection
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wow… what does ultrasound treatment of arms accomplish? how do I read upon on it on the web… and how about the loosening and elasticising? is that from the ultrasound or an additional process?
even today when interacting with my parents I often feel like I am acting out some as-yet-unpublished script from ‘games people play’… (one common element is a lecture on how much they sacrificed for me followed by a sequence of negative evaluations/peer group comparisons).
The first powerful comprehension to free your mind is this:
They too, now as much as ever, are profoundly on automatic pilot… and the reason they are in this condition is that THEY have endless internal monologs, dialogs, lectures, diatribes, end so on internalized and also outside of conscious awareness… they don’t (for now) comprehend that these are “tapes”… and they are tape players… sometimes it helps to use a quick visual dissociation trick… when you see each other, quickly imagine each significant party AS a tape player, or CD player… with a series of stimulus buttons… so if you say “x” or give posture “y”, then on comes the Z message… you know, there is a very intense, painful, but somehow profoundly liberating movie (when so few possess this depth) I would most reccommend, The House Of Sand And Fog… w/ Ben Kingsley… written by Andre Dubus… about a dispossesed Iranian general who sacrifices everything for his family to live in middle class Oregon… Kingley captures the essence of it…
do you have any thoughts or suggestions for reading material on clearing the cobwebs around stereotyped behaviour patterns within relationships? it is one thing to change oneself enough that new programming supercedes old patterns in the context of new relationships. but a harder one when it comes to a context of the oldest relationships where the patterns have been laid down since childhood.
This is so because the relationships are based on absolute dependency… I have found that the deepest growth is rarely the “big blast breakthrough” advertised by the Tony Robbins model of transformation, rather the slow, day to day accretions of awareness… where these dependencies evolve and mature into something more interesting and constructive… hold onto the insight that the generation before you may have had terribly difficult childhoods, filled with uncertainty, and this way of being constantly vigilant, constantly in terror of failure, is informed by the belief that the most terrible consequences may await one is not sufficiently on guard…
I think you must also give yourself more credit for being determined to reshape the family drama (which is what many families are… ) and the family trance (which is also what many families are) into something more constructive…
Having said that… my impression is that you have a large component of perfectionistic internal dialog, which may be blocked from conscious awareness, so I will assume that your childhood had significant figures who lectured you and were very demanding about personal minutae…
From a self liberation perspective, if you could gain access to these hidden files which guide your consciousness, and if you must be talking to yourself, say richer more dimensional self accepting things, in the tone of curiosity and wonder…
Have you considered the possibility that the growth tools you have been using, the CDs, bodywork, pheromones-as-catalysts, have helped you make significant, outside of conscious awareness level changes ?
That it isn’t the pheromones, per se, but you have
really changed, enough for the better that others respond as one naturally would ?
Perhaps the issue is not the reality of change, but that your internalized critical voice (and, the beliefs of the person who was the source of that voice) has a hard time understanding, much less accepting this degree of change ?
Each experience will either deepen existing grooves or carve new ones in your neurology… I wouldn’t concern myself with “out of pattern” unless it becomes egregiously anti-social… ANY experience of newness, the newness of self, will feel alien, hard to interpret, lacking the familiar contextual frames… “deframed moments” can be exhilirating to a free consciousness… clubland, party promoters, and such, IS a rigid, contrived social universe, (I have had excessive experience therein before I came to my senses)…
In retrospect, a primate behavior lab… not to be taken too seriously… whatever happens, no need to get any heavy self judgements, even if you make a grand ass of yourself once in a while…
But now, and by now I mean in the last 10,000 years, we’ve been into something new. Not genetic information, not genetic mutation, not natural selection, but epigenetic activity: writing, theatre, poetry, internal linkdance, art, tattooing, body piercing and philosophy. And these things have accelerated the ingression into novelty …quote]
Whew! I have to admit, we’re dancing on the brink and not impressively conscious of it… I suppose this is the great bifuraction, some may go mad, some may enter into a new state of advanced consciousness, but we will certainly be scathed by what is to come… and possibly we will have to enter a time of great environmental trial, we may so granted the rarest of human opportunities, to see humans and environment enter one of those rare world historical totalisms… some have said that the great volcanic eruption at Santorini which obliterated the Minoan civilization also was such a profound, direct shock it brought about a new form of consciousness, a waking up expressed in the birth of greek philosophy, and similar things have been said about the mental impact of the Plague… man had to conceptualize anew, his former God or gods (including technology) no longer could satisfy some basic curiosity, or doubt…
Well, ya know… THE thing is to discover your own true measures of a well lived life, which may diverge considerably from the messages, conscious and unconscious, that you have been indoctrinated with… IMHO… the real secret in in coming to that point of self understanding, then other things like relationships come quite naturally, because you are being the thing that you truly are…
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Ummm… it was, and remains a process of self dicovery, learning to be “internally connected”, or moving forward as a congruent unit of intention, as well as externally connected, really listening to and getting other people, particulary being able to step into and out of other frames of reference as circumstances require… even now, approaching my 51st year, I seek out the best treachers, some demanding as hell, hard to find, who are teaching me things of astounding power that I can only half appreciate at the moment… so I assume that being in a position of curiosity, flexibility, skillfulness… you will find that when you have certain exceptional skills recently learned, or “installed” as they like to say, they may be also so subtle and transparent that no one is aware of any doing-ness… there’s only this elegant flow of energy back and forth… and if you work on some good synaethesa skills you can track it by color shifts, the energy gently shifting from reds, oranges, indigos, blues… I mean by this some kind of high level phenomenal mapping that the brain is doing to organize its experience…